Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Flexible and made to last.

Meet the Other Phone.
Flexible and made to last.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

AIBU about the Fithly house.

146 replies

Evilwater · 16/04/2015 18:27

My friend, is nice but shes lazy, and her place is fithly. I saw her today at lunch time, food from Tuesdays main meal still left out, she appears to have no fruit, and the main offender is there is bloodly ash (from her cigarettes) laying about.

Her floor is always dirty, littered with empty fruit shoot bottles and bits of food.

I know she is having a new bathroom fitted right now, and I'm not a perfect keeping upto date with my cleaning, but each room gets cleaned once a week.

AIBU?
Can I say I don't like coming around to hers cause it's always dirty?

OP posts:
IHaveBrilloHair · 16/04/2015 18:45

I like tube cheese, particularly the bacon one.
That wouldn't bother me, I don't live there and it's her home to do as she wants with.

Original poster
Evilwater · 16/04/2015 18:45

She can't drive due to medical reasons.

OP posts:
IHaveBrilloHair · 16/04/2015 18:47

I have no fruit in the house, have cleaners and eat fancy food all the time, my home is warm, and welcoming and also contains four cats and their hair.
If you don't like it, leave.

pictish · 16/04/2015 18:47

She appears to have no fruit eh? I'd not grace the slattern with my presence anyway. I like to see evidence of fruit in any home I deign to visit.
No fruit, no friendship...that's what I always say.

IHaveBrilloHair · 16/04/2015 18:49

I bet she has no books either, the caaaaaah.

Dowser · 16/04/2015 18:53

Just found out what that yellow circle with a red blob in the middle is.

Thought it was a buzzer!
A boob!
And here's the best one
A slice of pineapple with a cherry in the centre!

As I couldn't work any of them into the sentence I realised there was a list that it might be on!

It's a biscuit!

I've learnt something new today.

ShouldIworryornothelp · 16/04/2015 18:53

Tube cheese with chives squeezed down a stick of celery. Tiz amazing

cashewnutty · 16/04/2015 18:53

Is it really filthy or just a bit grubby. I have been in filthy houses and they makes your eyes water and make you heave. This house just sounds a bit grubby tbh.

ShouldIworryornothelp · 16/04/2015 18:54

Right if she can't drive due to medical reasons stands to reason her mobility is poor ergo house is a tip because she physically can't tidy it

Be a friend and help her out

minionmadness · 16/04/2015 18:57

Apart from the "no fruit" weird comment... YANBU but that's my hang up about dirty houses, makes be heave!

So if not wanting to go into a dirty house makes me a snob... so be it, I can live with that Grin

gamerchick · 16/04/2015 19:00

How do you know Tuesday's meal was left out if you haven't seen her since Easter?

This is the second weird must try harder thread I've seen in the past few hours Hmm

FromMeToYou · 16/04/2015 19:03

She really wanted to catch up, and I've not seen her since before easter.

That was only last week!

shrunkenhead · 16/04/2015 19:04

I'd start cleaning up around her, she'll either be embarrassed and take the hint or thankful she has a friend willing to help her. I think the op was using the lack of fresh fruit and fruitshoots strewn about to emphasise a point. Kids need fresh fruit and those drinks are hardly acceptable by mumsnet standards.

FromMeToYou · 16/04/2015 19:05

No fruit at all??? Not even a kumquat? A Pomegrante?

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Love this!

AliceDoesntLiveHereAnymore · 16/04/2015 19:10

yeah the "can't drive due to medical reasons" is a bit of a drip feed - is she disabled? I would imagine if she has medical problems, it may affect her ability to do deep cleaning in a house. Based on your horror at "no fruit", fruit shoots, and "fake cheese", I'm a bit Hmm about how filthy the house really is.

Yellowbird54321 · 16/04/2015 19:12

Er, hang on a minute - appearing to have no fruit is not necessarily the same as actually having no fruit - innocent until proven guilty and all that OP. I think you need more evidence before you start throwing weighty 'no fruit' accusations around - mud sticks y'know.

SuburbanRhonda · 16/04/2015 19:12

Fake cheese is the stuff that comes out of a tube.

Do not diss cheese toothpaste. 'Tis the food of the gods Smile

AliceDoesntLiveHereAnymore · 16/04/2015 19:13

And I'm curious. Did you search her fridge and cupboards and freezer to ascertain there was no fruit? I have fruit in the fridge (grapes, tomatoes), cupboards (tinned), and freezer (chopped up frozen for smoothies). Just because you may come over one day and see no fruit out in plain sight, doesn't necessarily mean she never has fruit in the house. Perhaps she is expecting a grocery shop to be delivered today or tomorrow and is just trying to get by until then. It happens.

IgnoreMeEveryOtherReindeerDoes · 16/04/2015 19:17

Did you notice the lack of fruit when offered a glass of pimms

NoelHeadbands · 16/04/2015 19:18

Don't continue with this friendship OP.

It's fruitless.

IgnoreMeEveryOtherReindeerDoes · 16/04/2015 19:18

Fake cheese - grim that must be like eating

flabbyducks · 16/04/2015 19:18

Omg I want to be her friend !

parsnipbob · 16/04/2015 19:20

Omg. No fruit? Have you alerted the food nazis?

SpringBreaker · 16/04/2015 19:21

my house looks like a bombsite but its ok.. beacuse..

I have fruit... some mouldy peaches and a few very soft plums..

Grin
PHANTOMnamechanger · 16/04/2015 19:22

arf @ Noel