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To Kick Her Out Of My House Immediately?

967 replies

Lilylonglegs · 03/04/2015 12:04

I have the Houseguest from hell.

I was told before she arrived that she was coming for 2 weeks spending a week with another friend and a week with me. I have an 8 month old baby and she has a ten year old son and is pregnant with dc number 2. A day after she arrived she called to say that she has to leave her friend's house as her friend is going on holiday the next day. I thought this was odd as how can you come from a different country to visit someone and they tell you after you have got there that they are going away?

Nevertheless I told her that I wouldn't be around at that time as I hadn't expected her until 5 days later. She u ummmd and Ahhhhed saying that a hotel was too expensive and that she might as well go back to Sweden where she lives. I agreed with her although in the end she booked a hotel and ended up coming to mine a day sooner than arranged which I really was not too pleased with but is better than coming the 5 days earlier.

When she arrived my DC was with her grandmother so I took them out to a restaurant and invited another friend. We had a really good time. The trouble started the next day. She complained that my house was too small, my toilet is too small, there is no room in there for her to change comfortably, my sofa bed is too small and uncomfortable. I don't have any food containers, she doesn't like the type of food I have. The shops in my area don't sell the type of food she likes. I should have shave my daughters hair off to make it grow. My daughter would walk if she was surrounded by more children as her child walked at 7 months, why don't I feed my child salty pasta and on and on and on.

My daughter has a mild cold and she wants me traipsing around with them, even though I have told her my child is my priority and not her. I probably would have made more effort before her inconsiderate ungrateful behaviour.

Now where it gets worse is that she is saying that she doesn't want to go back to Sweden but wants to live in UK permanently. She is meant to leave in a week but claims money is coming to her account from the father of her unborn DC the day before she is due to leave, which she will use to source an apartment.

The problem is how will she find and move into a place in a week and who will rent a room to a single pregnant mother and child? She can't afford anything more than a room. My fear is that she is trying not to leave my house. She says her friend who went on holiday will let her stay for a few months until she finds her feet, but that friend is not due back for another 3 weeks. I've asked her repeatedly where she will go until her friend comes back as she is leaving mine in a week and she just keeps saying "it will work out" oh and I forgot she has already asked me to lend her £300 when she knows that I am only on maternity pay.

Would I be Unreasonable to just tell her to leave now as I don't think I can take much more of this!

OP posts:
Chippednailvarnish · 05/04/2015 21:17

Yep!

What would Switzerland be?

woolymum · 05/04/2015 21:19

switzerland makes me think of rescue dogs bringing brandy.
does that count?

Chippednailvarnish · 05/04/2015 21:28

According to Wikipedia, Absinthe is Swiss...

DieselSpillages · 05/04/2015 21:47

I'll Ireland and the potcheen.

DieselSpillages · 05/04/2015 21:48
  • take
MidniteScribbler · 05/04/2015 21:52

Thank goodness this hasn't reached the antipodes yet.

nilbyname · 05/04/2015 21:57

De lurking to mark my place. Sorry op but this is gripping!

kinkyfuckery · 05/04/2015 22:23

I think nomad-friend has gotten angry and killed OP

Sallyingforth · 05/04/2015 22:25

Come on, OP!
Some of us have to go to bed soon - and I need my schnapps!

TouchOfNatural · 05/04/2015 22:28

Peering in...

Nothing yet???

qazxc · 05/04/2015 22:30

Come back op! What happened?

woolymum · 05/04/2015 22:35

op took dibs on sweden maybe and is currently passed out next to a bottle of absolute after rereading the thread?

Bettercallsaul1 · 05/04/2015 22:55

Well, this is most disappointing!

Just finished large Easter dinner with family and was all set for next instalment of European mystery adventure. After bagging France for Eurovision drinking game, had poured out pint of Chardonnay in readiness....

Chippednailvarnish · 05/04/2015 22:58

Maybe this thread should have been called "To Kick Her Out Of My House Immediately at some point perhaps in the future?"

Bottoms up everyone!

Bettercallsaul1 · 05/04/2015 23:01

Yes, and although nothing's forthcoming tonight, tomorrow is another day!

Bettercallsaul1 · 05/04/2015 23:02

Cheers, Chipped!

gaggiagirl · 05/04/2015 23:03

I call Greece! Is that ouzo? Urgh, maybe not.....Spain, sangria? Yes.

Didactylos · 05/04/2015 23:08

readies half a bottle of Gammel Dansk in preparation for the game
seriously foul stuff, but might help me understand the thread...

Longdistance · 05/04/2015 23:12

I'll hve Hungaria and Pálinka. Egészsegedre.

Longdistance · 05/04/2015 23:13

Hungary stupid iPad

JustHavinABreak · 05/04/2015 23:24

Urghhhh. ..just read 20 pages to find out what happened and the OP hasn't come back??

Chippednailvarnish · 05/04/2015 23:26

Just have a drink!

Mouldypineapple · 05/04/2015 23:31

I'll have ouzo from Greece! Although I would prefer Sambuca.. Wherever that's from?!

ToastedOrFresh · 05/04/2015 23:49

I'm reading this in New Zealand. So I've got DB Export, bottled. I've also got some locally brewed port. I'll go and get some Lion Red beer and some Macs, Speights, Tui. Old Mout cider is great.

Patapouf · 06/04/2015 00:18

I bagsy somewhere Caribbean that makes rum Malibu

Come on OP, did you give her the heave ho?