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To Kick Her Out Of My House Immediately?

967 replies

Lilylonglegs · 03/04/2015 12:04

I have the Houseguest from hell.

I was told before she arrived that she was coming for 2 weeks spending a week with another friend and a week with me. I have an 8 month old baby and she has a ten year old son and is pregnant with dc number 2. A day after she arrived she called to say that she has to leave her friend's house as her friend is going on holiday the next day. I thought this was odd as how can you come from a different country to visit someone and they tell you after you have got there that they are going away?

Nevertheless I told her that I wouldn't be around at that time as I hadn't expected her until 5 days later. She u ummmd and Ahhhhed saying that a hotel was too expensive and that she might as well go back to Sweden where she lives. I agreed with her although in the end she booked a hotel and ended up coming to mine a day sooner than arranged which I really was not too pleased with but is better than coming the 5 days earlier.

When she arrived my DC was with her grandmother so I took them out to a restaurant and invited another friend. We had a really good time. The trouble started the next day. She complained that my house was too small, my toilet is too small, there is no room in there for her to change comfortably, my sofa bed is too small and uncomfortable. I don't have any food containers, she doesn't like the type of food I have. The shops in my area don't sell the type of food she likes. I should have shave my daughters hair off to make it grow. My daughter would walk if she was surrounded by more children as her child walked at 7 months, why don't I feed my child salty pasta and on and on and on.

My daughter has a mild cold and she wants me traipsing around with them, even though I have told her my child is my priority and not her. I probably would have made more effort before her inconsiderate ungrateful behaviour.

Now where it gets worse is that she is saying that she doesn't want to go back to Sweden but wants to live in UK permanently. She is meant to leave in a week but claims money is coming to her account from the father of her unborn DC the day before she is due to leave, which she will use to source an apartment.

The problem is how will she find and move into a place in a week and who will rent a room to a single pregnant mother and child? She can't afford anything more than a room. My fear is that she is trying not to leave my house. She says her friend who went on holiday will let her stay for a few months until she finds her feet, but that friend is not due back for another 3 weeks. I've asked her repeatedly where she will go until her friend comes back as she is leaving mine in a week and she just keeps saying "it will work out" oh and I forgot she has already asked me to lend her £300 when she knows that I am only on maternity pay.

Would I be Unreasonable to just tell her to leave now as I don't think I can take much more of this!

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TaliZorahVasNormandy · 07/04/2015 22:58

Sally Send the Aliens, Farage' address. He can get Intergalactic and Multicultural all night long.

Bettercallsaul1 · 07/04/2015 23:05

I suspect an anti-European and also anti-Earth bias here, Netty. A lot of us suspect alien involvement and someone has suggested that an alien takeover may have already started in the person of George Osborne. He certainly has no empathy with Earthlings.

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 07/04/2015 23:10

He certainly looks like with of them. I bet he controls Cameron with his mind control device.

No, I bet Cameron is his robot. Any one see The Day the Earth stood still?

Maryz · 07/04/2015 23:13

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TaliZorahVasNormandy · 07/04/2015 23:13

Osborne at the front, Cameron at the back.

To Kick Her Out Of My House Immediately?
Bettercallsaul1 · 07/04/2015 23:14

No - was it as exciting as this thread?

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 07/04/2015 23:15

Twat a bit boring. Much like the election debate really. Alien being threatening to ruin country. Same thing right?

Coconutty · 07/04/2015 23:15

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Lweji · 07/04/2015 23:16

You should never put yourself in a position like that again.

The wisest words written in here.

Choose your friends and people you receive as house guests carefully.

Bettercallsaul1 · 07/04/2015 23:17

Oh, no-one's mentioned that word, Maryz! That would be wrong.

Maryz · 07/04/2015 23:18

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Lweji · 07/04/2015 23:21

I wonder if the nose bleeding friend is at London Bridge Hospital.

PiperIsTerrysChoclateOrange · 07/04/2015 23:24

Well what an interesting thread, could not understand any of it but a good read.

Can we nominate for it to go on classic.

I'm just shocked a flat screen TV hasn't be mentioned, the goat gets all The attention.

PunkrockerGirl · 07/04/2015 23:27

I'm hoping the friend is in A&E at St. George's. Then maybe we'll see her on 24 Hours in A&E on Channel 4 and there'll be a sad voice over about the very traumatic circumstances.
Then OP will be on at the end all choked up and tearful about how her friend survived the nosebleed.

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 07/04/2015 23:29

Maybe she'll end up on OBEM if she has the baby. First Alien born on Earth TV.

bellybuttonfairy · 08/04/2015 00:18

I work in the NHS - if I had a patient on holiday with her child (single parents do go on holiday...). If her child was with her waiting for mum to be discharged to a new address on her holiday. He is 10 not 2 If their relationship looked ok - why on earth would I contact child protection???

bellybuttonfairy · 08/04/2015 00:21

Also - there is a huge difference in the expectations of hosting/being a guest in different cultures.

Sometimes it doesnt work - I think op and her guests expectations of this holiday are at completely at opposite sides.

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 08/04/2015 01:16

Just read all this - no idea about most of it but the blood clot in pregnancy is not an unlikely scenario, especially if she has a blood clotting disorder (pretty common, about 5% of the UK population for example) that causes increased likelihood of clots. Pregnancy and flying both increase risk of clots, both together = even bigger risk.
However, if she's also had nosebleeds, or even said she has, then they will be wary of giving her anticoagulants until she's had a thorough check up to see what's going on.

And that's assuming that this is all genuine. Which I can't really see why it wouldn't be, tbh.

I wonder if the OP will start a second thread as this one isn't far from the end...

skinoncustard · 08/04/2015 01:42

Thumb Witches Abroad

And that's assuming that this is all genuine. Which I can't really see why it wouldn't be, tbh

Well where would you like to start !!!!

I wonder if the OP will start a second thread as this one isn't far from the end...

Please NO !
It started off quite amusing / funny , then as with these things, the OP didn't know when to stop .

Topseyt · 08/04/2015 02:46

I wonder what Farage and UKIP will make when they realise that Martians and even intergalactic aliens are now amongst the immigrants to this country? Shock

They might, shock horror, actually need to devise a second policy, an anti-alien-invaders one. Grin

Wannabestepfordwife · 08/04/2015 06:37

Surely the most sensible thing to do would be to ask the son his fathers name and have a search for him on Facebook or other family members to let them know the situation

skinoncustard · 08/04/2015 08:28

Can't believe that someone comes in after 945ish posts and in all seriousness suggests looking for 'the boys ' father!!!!!

In all likelihood the boy doesn't exist , except in OP's imagination.

Inkanta · 08/04/2015 08:34

I hope Lilly comes back before we get to 1000 posts. I want to know the end of the story.

That would be ironic if we ran out of posts on the day the lodger left.

merrymouse · 08/04/2015 08:35

Never mind the boy's father, I want to know what has happened to the very close friend and her brother who introduced the OP to her HG!

Never mind the various countries mentioned in this story, I suspect people have contributed to this thread from a variety of continents and timezones. However, except for the 'mediator', the OP seems to have received little help in real life, taking into account that she doesn't know the HG that well and the HG, rather than visiting for a holiday, appears to be in a state of crisis.

Inkanta · 08/04/2015 08:39

I think everyone should hold back from posting so we don't use up the last 50 posts.

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