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To Kick Her Out Of My House Immediately?

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Lilylonglegs · 03/04/2015 12:04

I have the Houseguest from hell.

I was told before she arrived that she was coming for 2 weeks spending a week with another friend and a week with me. I have an 8 month old baby and she has a ten year old son and is pregnant with dc number 2. A day after she arrived she called to say that she has to leave her friend's house as her friend is going on holiday the next day. I thought this was odd as how can you come from a different country to visit someone and they tell you after you have got there that they are going away?

Nevertheless I told her that I wouldn't be around at that time as I hadn't expected her until 5 days later. She u ummmd and Ahhhhed saying that a hotel was too expensive and that she might as well go back to Sweden where she lives. I agreed with her although in the end she booked a hotel and ended up coming to mine a day sooner than arranged which I really was not too pleased with but is better than coming the 5 days earlier.

When she arrived my DC was with her grandmother so I took them out to a restaurant and invited another friend. We had a really good time. The trouble started the next day. She complained that my house was too small, my toilet is too small, there is no room in there for her to change comfortably, my sofa bed is too small and uncomfortable. I don't have any food containers, she doesn't like the type of food I have. The shops in my area don't sell the type of food she likes. I should have shave my daughters hair off to make it grow. My daughter would walk if she was surrounded by more children as her child walked at 7 months, why don't I feed my child salty pasta and on and on and on.

My daughter has a mild cold and she wants me traipsing around with them, even though I have told her my child is my priority and not her. I probably would have made more effort before her inconsiderate ungrateful behaviour.

Now where it gets worse is that she is saying that she doesn't want to go back to Sweden but wants to live in UK permanently. She is meant to leave in a week but claims money is coming to her account from the father of her unborn DC the day before she is due to leave, which she will use to source an apartment.

The problem is how will she find and move into a place in a week and who will rent a room to a single pregnant mother and child? She can't afford anything more than a room. My fear is that she is trying not to leave my house. She says her friend who went on holiday will let her stay for a few months until she finds her feet, but that friend is not due back for another 3 weeks. I've asked her repeatedly where she will go until her friend comes back as she is leaving mine in a week and she just keeps saying "it will work out" oh and I forgot she has already asked me to lend her £300 when she knows that I am only on maternity pay.

Would I be Unreasonable to just tell her to leave now as I don't think I can take much more of this!

OP posts:
toastyarmadillo · 05/04/2015 18:06

Ooh it's too exciting, not a clue what's going on but it's better than staring at my four walls with two small spotty children Grin

EatDessertFirst · 05/04/2015 18:12

Just RTT. Still not sure what is happening but it is riveting stuff nonetheless!!

Sallyingforth · 05/04/2015 18:37

Has anyone else played the Eurovision Song Contest drinking game? You pick a country to follow and each time they get a mention you take a drink.
And to make it more interesting, you have to drink something from that country.

Chippednailvarnish · 05/04/2015 18:58

Why do you think I picked Belgium!?! Grin

glasgowlass · 05/04/2015 19:00

I'm getting a headache just following this thread...

Bettercallsaul1 · 05/04/2015 19:00

I bags France then!

woolymum · 05/04/2015 19:06

dibs on russia Wink

ijustwanttobeme · 05/04/2015 19:24

I've read this thread from the beginning and I'm completely Confused.

Now this is going to make me sound like Nigel Farage's little sister, but....

I wonder if Lilly's friend won't have an abortion, but will end up staying with any random friend who'll have her, long enough to have the baby. Jackpot, British citizenship for baby = good chance of securing UK residency for herself.

Also, European bingo is quite a good game Grin

Sallyingforth · 05/04/2015 19:30

I thought that already ijustwanttobeme, but didn't dare say it.

Nolim · 05/04/2015 19:47

Jackpot, British citizenship for baby
Fyi british citinzenship is not given automaticaly at birth, unless the parent have ILR so they can stay as well.

ijustwanttobeme · 05/04/2015 19:50

sallying whew, I thought it was just me. The whole set up is a bit off though isn't it slight understatement

ijustwanttobeme · 05/04/2015 19:51

Nolim Ok, did not realise that. Must let Nigel know Grin

Nolim · 05/04/2015 19:54

ijustwanttobeme Grin

Chippednailvarnish · 05/04/2015 19:55

Come on, no ones gone for Spain. I love sangria!

backtowork2015 · 05/04/2015 19:55

eurovision drinking game....what do they drink in Belgium then? I'd be stuffed. ..only enjoy aussie red

Chippednailvarnish · 05/04/2015 19:58

Beer. Loads of it!

mindifidont · 05/04/2015 20:21

Having a British citizenship is of no advantage to the baby over a Swedish one, it'll have the same rights.

Andrewofgg · 05/04/2015 20:21

toasty Stop whining, it could be two walls and four spotty children!

Andrewofgg · 05/04/2015 20:22

Belgian beer would be the best in the world if the Czechs stopped brewing!

Chippednailvarnish · 05/04/2015 20:43

Are you taking Czech Republic Andrew?

Andrewofgg · 05/04/2015 20:53

I am Chipped. Pilsner Urquell! Not the American rubbish which calls itself Pilsner, the real thing from the real Plzen.

TouchOfNatural · 05/04/2015 21:03

What a thread!!! More gripping than Poldark perhaps???

SmillasSenseOfSnow · 05/04/2015 21:03

As long as she has money to support herself for a while and/or gets a job, she can, being an EU citizen, stay as long as she wants regardless. I can't see any reason to have a baby in the UK specifically beyond wanting to stay in the UK while also happening to be pregnant.

Chippednailvarnish · 05/04/2015 21:06

I'm surprised no one has gone for Ireland for the Guinness...

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 05/04/2015 21:07

I take Italy. Amaretto is Italian right?

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