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To Kick Her Out Of My House Immediately?

967 replies

Lilylonglegs · 03/04/2015 12:04

I have the Houseguest from hell.

I was told before she arrived that she was coming for 2 weeks spending a week with another friend and a week with me. I have an 8 month old baby and she has a ten year old son and is pregnant with dc number 2. A day after she arrived she called to say that she has to leave her friend's house as her friend is going on holiday the next day. I thought this was odd as how can you come from a different country to visit someone and they tell you after you have got there that they are going away?

Nevertheless I told her that I wouldn't be around at that time as I hadn't expected her until 5 days later. She u ummmd and Ahhhhed saying that a hotel was too expensive and that she might as well go back to Sweden where she lives. I agreed with her although in the end she booked a hotel and ended up coming to mine a day sooner than arranged which I really was not too pleased with but is better than coming the 5 days earlier.

When she arrived my DC was with her grandmother so I took them out to a restaurant and invited another friend. We had a really good time. The trouble started the next day. She complained that my house was too small, my toilet is too small, there is no room in there for her to change comfortably, my sofa bed is too small and uncomfortable. I don't have any food containers, she doesn't like the type of food I have. The shops in my area don't sell the type of food she likes. I should have shave my daughters hair off to make it grow. My daughter would walk if she was surrounded by more children as her child walked at 7 months, why don't I feed my child salty pasta and on and on and on.

My daughter has a mild cold and she wants me traipsing around with them, even though I have told her my child is my priority and not her. I probably would have made more effort before her inconsiderate ungrateful behaviour.

Now where it gets worse is that she is saying that she doesn't want to go back to Sweden but wants to live in UK permanently. She is meant to leave in a week but claims money is coming to her account from the father of her unborn DC the day before she is due to leave, which she will use to source an apartment.

The problem is how will she find and move into a place in a week and who will rent a room to a single pregnant mother and child? She can't afford anything more than a room. My fear is that she is trying not to leave my house. She says her friend who went on holiday will let her stay for a few months until she finds her feet, but that friend is not due back for another 3 weeks. I've asked her repeatedly where she will go until her friend comes back as she is leaving mine in a week and she just keeps saying "it will work out" oh and I forgot she has already asked me to lend her £300 when she knows that I am only on maternity pay.

Would I be Unreasonable to just tell her to leave now as I don't think I can take much more of this!

OP posts:
Missymum6 · 04/04/2015 21:28

Is this a future episode of hollyoaks?

Mouldypineapple · 04/04/2015 21:28

Quite entertaining though...

msgrinch · 04/04/2015 21:33

I haven't drunk enough wine to be this confused.

Topseyt · 04/04/2015 21:36

Well put, Expat.

I do hope it is all tosh, but also that there isn't a confused 10 year old Swedish Italian boy at risk in any such way. The potential results don't bear thinking about.

Topseyt · 04/04/2015 21:38

I have had some wine in the last hour. I hoped it would help me suss this out, but it hasn't. Sad

Fairy13 · 04/04/2015 21:40

Hold on. Uncle who? Bob?
I really thought I had it. Then in strolls uncle Bob.

msgrinch · 04/04/2015 21:41

fairy there's not enough wine. trust me.

Topseyt · 04/04/2015 21:43

Uncle Tom Coblbley too.

Fairy13 · 04/04/2015 21:57

Uncle fester?

msgrinch · 04/04/2015 22:01

uncle Sam. He wants you!!

Bettercallsaul1 · 04/04/2015 22:02

Bob's your uncle?

Bettercallsaul1 · 04/04/2015 22:03

The man from U.N.C.L.E?

ihatelego · 04/04/2015 22:04

if this is true then that poor boy Sad

I don't much care about this woman's dramas.. it sounds mental, but she is subjecting a child to all of this which is totally wrong and he needs protecting by professionals if she really is putting him through this crap. Please contact some professionals for advice and make sure he is safe.

mathanxiety · 04/04/2015 22:07

Why not stay in Switzerland and have the father of the baby (who is Swiss, no?) acknowledge paternity, or force him to via a DNA test) and then she can apply for Swiss citizenship and move to some canton where they speak Italian? Why go to the UK and decide to have an abortion when the baby is her ticket to citizenship in Switzerland via its father?

Like KatieKaye, I don't know how how she didn't know she was pregnant when she left Switzerland less than a fortnight ago, but now has enough of a bump for you to notice it and you think she is more than three months along or is having twins...

Hmm Confused
Eggynuff · 04/04/2015 22:08

OP won't do that Sad

I don't know why.

We all have a responsibility to the safety and welfare of children. No-one should turn a blind eye.

OP has sadly gone down in my estimation.

KatieKaye · 04/04/2015 22:09

Maybe Uncle Tom Cobley or just a load of cobblers?

YouTheCat · 04/04/2015 22:10

I've been to the pub.

This has made all this no clearer.

Bettercallsaul1 · 04/04/2015 22:14

Amen to that.

KatieKaye · 04/04/2015 22:17

OP - why did you post on MN?
You said you had "the houseguest from hell" and asked "AIBU to kick her out of my house immediately".
And you got almost unanimous agreement that YWNBU and should tell her to pack her bags and go.
Only to change direction 180 degrees and say you wouldn't be comfortable about that, drip feed information which only made the story more incredible and bring in a dizzying array of nationalities.

Bettercallsaul1 · 04/04/2015 22:22

There aren't any sheep involved with this story, are there?

BernadetteMatthews · 04/04/2015 22:22

If anyone has a fucking clue Wtf it's going on here then you're a better mner than I am.

LammilyDoll · 04/04/2015 22:25

Sheep??? Or goats?

Lilylonglegs · 04/04/2015 22:27

Mrsallergy the story is so specific someone could recognise it.

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DrankSangriaInThePark · 04/04/2015 22:35

Has she come home?

ToastedOrFresh · 04/04/2015 22:37

Blimey, I started reading this yesterday when it was in the process of taking shape. I come back today and all hell has broken loose. Uncles. Goats. A suspicion of something not being true. On MN ? Surely not !

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