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To be upset at a silly comment on fb

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skyblue11 · 23/03/2013 21:35

Cut a long story short DH is in New Zealand for his sisters wedding, it's really hot there, I have SAD, love sunshine and I posted pics on fb for him to see the snow my SIL said ' and today in NZ it will be scorchio' I commented 'thanks I feel so much better now' I just think she's really insensitive. My DH said she's not and if I carry on I'll make him have a shit time.

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redwallday · 23/03/2013 21:36

Why couldn't you go?

Machli · 23/03/2013 21:37

Seriously? Hmm

maddy68 · 23/03/2013 21:37

You are being very over sensitive tbh. It's a glib comment

GinAndSlimlinePlease · 23/03/2013 21:37

Sorry, but I think you're being over sensitive. I feel for you, this weather is really atrocious. I'd give a lot for some sun right now.

Coconutty · 23/03/2013 21:38

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IDoTakeTwo · 23/03/2013 21:38

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lurkedtoolong · 23/03/2013 21:39

Sorry you're feeling so bad but yes, you are being over sensitive and unreasonable.

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WhatsTheBuzz · 23/03/2013 21:39

so
he got his way in the end? Yeah, it would make me feel as though she
was rubbing it in... 'if you carry on'? Nice. I'd ignore him for the
rest of his holiday.

BelleJolie · 23/03/2013 21:40

Sorry, I think you are being a bit oversensitive. You're upset about a comment about the weather?

Are there other issues here?

FutTheShuckUp · 23/03/2013 21:40

totally over the top

ENormaSnob · 23/03/2013 21:41

Did you post about him goin a few months ago?

Sommat to do with him taking his mums place?

JammySplodger · 23/03/2013 21:41

It doens't sound like it was meant as a jibe. WouldWhy couldn't you go? Could you take yourself off somewhere sunny for a few days or so over the Easter hols?

missmapp · 23/03/2013 21:41

My parents are visiting my brother in Singapore at the moment, so I feel your pain BUT I think YABU as it is the kind of comment you would write without meaning any harm.
Hopefully the sun will shine here soon!!

aldiwhore · 23/03/2013 21:41

YABU. The sunny side of the world doesn't have to shut up just because we're living in eternal grey at present. Sorry.

Though SAD is shit, it's not your SIL's fault.

However you feel, a positive spin on things is less of a bummer for everyone... so on FB, when you post a snowy picture, make the caption happy (even if you hate snow) if you're going to put one on at all.

Because any comment you put is inviting response.

If you put these pics on FB for your DH to see, you're misguided... you should have emailed them. If you post pics on FB your are publishing them to all your friends (and inviting comment).

I can't see your SIL's response as anything other than a happy bride to be who's not going to waste a thought for anyone 'bah-humbugging' about anything, and given that she's about to get married, I think she can be forgiven.

Sorry, I'm not in a great place at present (there's many many people who aren't) but I'm getting a bit fed up of all the FML statuses on FB...

WorraLiberty · 23/03/2013 21:42

The warm cahhhh!

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skyblue11 · 23/03/2013 21:42

Long story, as the flights were 1K each we knew we couldn't afford it. My M and FIL were going but then MIL decided not to so, FIL said he's pay for it had been DH. I was hurt me and my DD were not included. Even more upset that the ticket was business class and cost £3.5K so we could all have gone if it had been economy.
He's there now so I am fine with it but the snow has pissed me off and he's sunburned so I feel jealous of that, being as I am about the sun.

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StuffezLaBouche · 23/03/2013 21:43

If you don't want people to comment on your photos, don't post them for the world to see.

OhDearieDearieMe · 23/03/2013 21:43

YABU. Step away from Facebook if you can't cope with chit-chatty weather posts ffs.

wrongsideoftheroad · 23/03/2013 21:43

This is ringing a bell....are you the poster who's DH was going to NZ in place of his parents at the last minute?

If so, I think your beef is with him, not the sister?

shesariver · 23/03/2013 21:44

This is completely ott, of course NZ will have nicer weather than us back here in the Artic, sorry UK. You sound jealous.u

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skyblue11 · 23/03/2013 21:45

Just feeling a bit down that's all, and hurt by his comment, if you carry on...

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stifnstav · 23/03/2013 21:45

So you're annoyed that its hot in the Southern hemisphere and she mentioned it on your snow photo?

This is mindblowing. Am I supposed to defriend people who put holiday photos on FB? What about the 20% of my FB friends who live overseas?

Get over yourself, its just climate.

Think of those poor goat-herders in the Sahara who get pissed off with my facebook photos of my sodden lawn.

StuffezLaBouche · 23/03/2013 21:47

What comment of his are you hurt by? I thought it was your SIL?

aldiwhore · 23/03/2013 21:49

Given the history, your DH will know even more won't he? He'll know you're not happy with him going in the first place etc etc., therefore this isn't the first 'negative' comment he's heard (even though I vaguely remember that YWNBU to have been upset initially.

From his PoV it's just another example of you voicing your unhappiness at the situation. Hence the 'if you carry on' comment (I suspect).

He's there now, if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all. It's not a bad motto to live by, especially when there's naff all you can do about it.

It would be a point to you, and you could feel rather smug, if you'd put "YAY SNOW!!"

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