To think a baileys dessert from iceland isn't suitable for xmas day and a bit cheeky actually

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I'm cooking dinner tomorrow. One of us is assigned to buy veg, the other meat and the other pudding. So iv'e got a mahoosive chicken,a joint of ham and stuffing, t'other guest has bought carrots potatoes parsnips sprouts broccoli and sauces. So far so good. I phoned the pudding offender last night to find out what scrummy dessert we will be having on xmas day, and this is what she has bought.

It's dome a shaped cake/ice cream thing looks like a panna cotta on the outside and a gateau thing on the inside for 3 quid.
AIBU to think when someone has gone to the trouble of buying naice food and will spend ages preparing and cooking it, the least you could do is buy a naice pudding to go with it.
AIBU to feel a little resentful that they haven't even spent a quarter of what I have and the only prep they have to do is take it out the freezer a couple of hours before?

Am I being the ungrateful one or is she? Merry Christmas

I've had one of those, they are lush...

Also, I've bought a £2.50 gateaux from Sainsburys but then, I am a lone parent, mature student, and on the bread line! Will be delicious though

Depends on the friends circumstances I guess

Mums doing pudding and she is doing fruit salad, I have ice cream - that's fine by me. Brother is doing cheese. Perfect.

Erm you are being ungratful she was asked to buy a dessert and she has its not like shes brought a pack of yougurts or something.

next year: better communication

maybe s/he thinks your an iceland sort of person.

Iceland desserts are really nice! Enjoy it!

Lets face it, the veg buyer won't have spent as much as you either, for all you know they've gone to a market and bought stuff dirt cheap. If you're really bothered you could assign last minute booze buying or ask (cheekily IMO but not rude) the dessert buyer to bring a hot option with custard/cream or a cheese board. That depends on how easy it is for them to get to a shop today though.

YABU - if you wanted a "naice" pudding you should have gotten it yourself. I've got a pavlova in the oven just now, and some christmas pudding, (and a vienette - according to DP it isn't christmas without vienetta)

sounds really nice! you haven't tasted it yet! - if it tastes nice who cares what it cost?

I'd far prefer that to Christmas pudding. Mil is bringing dessert to ours. I don't actually know what she's bringing but regardless of what it is I am grateful.

I'd say that's a bit naff to be honest. I get soooo annoyed when I take nice nibbles/crisps/dips to SIL and we get served up cheesy balls.... FFS!

I'd have put more effort in that just raiding the spare change jar and going to iceland!

Sounds perfectly good to me.

What did you want her to do? Spend hours hand making something from the farts of angels and elf breath? Spend considerably more money on something from Waitrose that will be exactly the same, just in a different box?

Fret not! You shall be in Christmas heaven tomorrow with the shiniest halo in the room.

During pudding time maybe comment on how lovely the dessert and express a hope there is still one left in the shops for you to pick up for a pud later in the week.

Oh yes tell me how nice it is as well please.
I normally wouldn't mind it I just wanted something 'speshul'

Ooooh, pardon me my bought Trifles, then !!!!!

It sounds fab. I need one. I am hopeless at puddings so I would probably buy one too.

What pud would you have done as a matter of interest? I wouldn't know what to attempt to make.

That dessert sounds nicer than anything I've ever had at Christmas, and nicer than what we have planned, wonder if there's still time to get to Iceland...

Yanbu.

I would expect someone assigned to bringing pudding for Christmas dinner to bring mince pies, Christmas pud, and something like a trifle, or a Yule log, or a pile of profiteroles. And cream, brandy butter etc.

She should at least bring an alternative for people that don't like Baileys, like me!

It's Christmas Day dinner!

Haha I knew I'd come off like this, despite what you may think I'm not being a pretentious twat. I just expected something to make me go mmmm.
Regardless of whether it's from home bargins or waitrose I still would've experienced that 'oh is that it' feeling

Really Festive? Would they all have to be home made?

That sounds bloody delicious!

Baileys -good
Ice cream -good
Cake - good

It's a win win win from me

It's not that it's unsuitable for Christmas (although in my mind an Iceland dessert is probably unsuitable at any time ) , it's just that it's a bit lame compared to what everyone else is bringing.

Unless that is they also bring cheese, or they're broke or something.

Baileys dessert is special - unless you normally have it every Sunday.

Also I have to say, it is unreasonable to judge someone's contribution, it's Christmas and it's about loving and enjoying each other regardless of how differently we all do things. She's made her contribution and probably thinks it's good enough - and we all know it's the thought that counts, how hurt do you think she'd be if she knew this is how you felt.

It sounds nice! I bet if she had told you it was from Waitrose or M&S you wouldn't have minded!

We're having Lidl's luxury Christmas pudding. It costs £2.79 and is bloody lovely, full of fruit and nuts.

Just as well DH doesn't know about those Baileys puddings, he'd be in the car on his way to Iceland right now!

Chicken for Christmas?! I'd be gutted at that to be perfectly honest, I love turkey.

Yes it's the thought that counts, but how much thought did it take to buy an Iceland dessert?