To have thought this was racist

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Ex was dropping off my ds earlier, at which point ex and dp were talking and it became a little heated. Dp kept getting cut off by ex interrupting him, at which point dp said "you're not even listening to me, maybe if you get your bloody afro out your ears you'll hear me better" (ex is part african). Dp is saying he felt ex wasn't listening as was responding with unrelated points. I felt the reference to his afro was racist, AIBU?

Amberleaf posts brilliantly on all these threads. She has more patience than I do. I hide many of them

Thank you too Jins

Well, all I can say is I wouldn't be offended by someone having a jab at my hair in an argument and struggle to find racism in that comment.

OP asked for peoples opinions and I gave mine, everyone is entitled to theirs.

If the OP's DP was black, I doubt he would have made that sort of comment

LDN it's actually exactly the sort of thing XP (black) would say.
He may be a bit of a tosser in some ways, but he's not 'self-loathing'.

TBH I'm quite taken aback by your referring to 'the self-loathing type' of black person (that said, though, I can't help drawing inferences about the 'type' of white person who categorises people in this way). See, that comment of yours, to me, looks a tad dubious in terms of ignorance, arrogance and racial stereotyping.

I wrote that last comment quite quickly so did not elaborate well what I meant to say. I will come back to explain tomorrow as too tired to do so now.

There was also a lot I left off the end of that comment so I will explain later.

It was a very poorly written post.

I think I am getting too old for all this MN debating, especially on the more emotive topics.