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To wonder why the fuck I agreed to visit DH's parents again!

259 replies

HeyNa · 07/08/2012 13:56

We are in Eastern Europe. It is 40C in the day and 35C at night. No wind, no air con. We have 4 Dcs and DH reverts to the ignorant sexist pig that most of his countrymen are aslmost as soon as we arrive in the country!

It is too hot to sit around the in-laws house (they expect me to constantly clean and make chai anyway), we have a 2 year old and we need to go somewhere where there is air con as we had planned, but he has buggered off with his cousins without a word to me. No idea when he will be back. All he does while here is sit on his arse drinking chai and jibber jabbing away with his numerous relatives, leaving all the cleaning, cooking and washing to me. The electricity goes off constantly so it can take all day to do one load of washing.

I can drive but I am terrified of driving here as they drive like maniacs and on the wrong side of the road to boot! The older Dcs have not had lunch as there is nothing in. I feel absolutely trapped and powerless. I do not speak fluently in his language so can't join in with conversations and I can't get a word in edgeways. He has been ignoring me.

I would like to smash DH's teeth in actually. This is not a holiday for me or the DCs. This is our 3rd time here and he promised this would not happen again. At home, he helps a lot and I wear the trousers if you will. I will never come here again. I am even thinking divorce would be a better option. AIBU?

OP posts:
kukeslala · 11/05/2013 20:30

How does a thread so old pop up again?

GingerBlondecat · 12/05/2013 05:51

gotta love a good zombie thread Grin

has the OP ever been back ?

KittensandKids · 12/05/2013 14:07

zombie thread

I read it ALl yesterday before realising it was from last year and still would like to know how the OP got on when she got back.

NynaevesSister · 12/05/2013 15:35

I followed this when it was originally up and I too would love to get an update from OP

shebangsthedrum · 12/05/2013 15:45

o ffs I have been reading this fucking thread avidly all afternoon. Still anyone know if HEYNA is still about or did she stay in kosovo?!!

Jux · 12/05/2013 16:23

I remember this yhread from last year! I, too, wonder how HeyNa is, and whether her dh is still d? Has he made up for his horrible behaviour?

digerd · 12/05/2013 16:48

I read several pages before I noticed the date. Wondering where in eastern Europe could possibly be 40 degrees and 35 at night, in the first half of MAY .

I don't even know where Albania is Blush.

My neighbour in the 70s was married to an italian man, and he wanted to go back. She refused as knew she would be forced to cook for all his family and so on. They divorced in her 50s.

At work was a lovely indian girl, and she was almost falling asleep. We were so concerned for her she told us how it was.
When the man marries, his wife belongs not only to him but his whole family. All the women still at home and the unmarried sisters now do nothing, until it is their turn to get married.

She not only had she to work full-time, but also do all the shoppng cooking and cleaning for the whole family Shock Angry

LegoLegoEverywhere · 12/05/2013 17:07

I read quite a bit before I realised it was a zombie. I am intrigued to know whether Heyna's H is also now a zombie after this holiday from hell. Grin

Bobyan · 12/05/2013 17:29

Kosovo was mentioned in another thread...

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