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feeling hard done by....:(

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DidISayThatOutLoud · 17/04/2012 20:48

Sooo, I am new to this (as in 30seconds old)...after regularly reading the threads and seeing it's ok to have a moan, I was wondering if it would be ok for me to do the same?

I am 25 and have an amazing husband (he is my best friend) and 2 beautiful girls aged 5 and 3, I have fab friends and a family that love me... and because I am the "bounce back Queen" I fnd it hard to ever have a moan...

BUT....

My hubby is registered disabled, he has ME/CFS, (this was diagnosed by an endocrinologist after rigorous amounts of tests and eliminating everything else) Fibromyalgia, Diverticulitis (recurrent), a hyatus hernia, GORD, A new hip problem (which may result in a replacement), low testosterone.. Asthma...the list goes on.

It's been on and off for a few years, but the past 2 yrs have really been down hill... He has even spoken to a GPSI (GP with a special interest) who has told the hubby that he is too young to have half of these problems... which of course doesn't make it any less so.

My 3 year old has a paediatricians appt on Thurs for a pooing problem which has been ongoing (movicol and lactulose do NOT work)

I have an appt on Fri for a pre op assessment for Endometrial Ablation (my periods last approx 3 weeks and stupidly heavy)...other than that my health is great...could do with losing a stone since having children... but one day at a time. :D

Now my whole thing is...for just a second (Even though it sounds SOOOO unbelievably selfish) I would like someone to just give me a hug, a bar of chocolate and beat up the world with me...just for 5 minutes.

I found out recently that a few of my close friends don't want to confide in me because they think I have too much on my plate... I never really get down about my life, like I say, my hubby is my best friend and my children are amazing... but now I feel unable to say anything even if I am having a crappy day because I would never ever tell my friends they are worse off or anything like that, one of them point blank said "I don't know how you manage to smile at all without me adding to it".... this offends me a little because as far as I can see I am a bloody good friend, I don't want to be shielded (they know this)

So basically I am taking 5 minutes to feel hard done by, please feel free to do the same... rant over. And I don't even know what the title of this should be...random rants? sorry folks....

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DidISayThatOutLoud · 17/04/2012 22:18

I think CrystalMaize that you would surprise yourself at how you just adapt to things! x

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SarahStratton · 17/04/2012 22:22

Umm

Sometimes threads appear, on different boards by different OPs, that are very similar.

A thread has just been deleted in Chat.

Possibly that could be it. Although there is a finite number of thread subjects and one is bound to be repeated at some stage or another.

I dunno though, this is a very sweet thread.

Starwisher · 17/04/2012 22:23

Spit it out cystal , whats your beef?

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DidISayThatOutLoud · 17/04/2012 22:23

Hi Marilyn, he is 29, we told the docs to just give him a bag, but the youngest they'd performed surgery on at the time was 28 and it was full of complications, so he has now been told that he basically has to wait for the diverticula to spread which they inevitably will. The other problem is because he is seeing several specialists, they all seem to have no idea what other is doing and none want to step on eachother's feet.. if they started operating I think they'd have to keep going for a while, they just dose him up with Oramorph and other painkillers and hope he'll keep quiet :S
So glad they operated for you BIL, must be such a relief to get right back into life again! Scary op though... xx

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StealthPolarBear · 17/04/2012 22:25

Eh?

AvocadoAndFitch · 17/04/2012 22:26

Well DidISay you seem to be coping with it all brilliantly even though its made you turn to XFactor

SarahStratton · 17/04/2012 22:27

I had sexytime with Mr Cowell once.

In a dream.

He was very good, but he was wearing clown trousers. Blush

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DidISayThatOutLoud · 17/04/2012 22:28

Hi Sarah I'm guessing you were trying to be delicate then? no offense taken, Like I say I'm new to this... I came to get things off my chest, not interested in being baited by anyone...as you can probably tell. xx

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DidISayThatOutLoud · 17/04/2012 22:30

Hahaha, I do love Xfactor..if only I could sing :S Erm my real Dad actually reminds me quite a lot of Simon Cowel so that is wrong on SO many levels ahahahaha. Clown trousers? I wonder how that would be interpreted hehehe

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SarahStratton · 17/04/2012 22:30

Huh?

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DidISayThatOutLoud · 17/04/2012 22:31

BTW, is there any way to see the chat message, or is it a private chat thing? Like a room? xx

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AvocadoAndFitch · 17/04/2012 22:31

I'm jealous, everytime I dream about him we never get to, Ahem Blush the actual act, too busy doing other things. so I've never found how good he is to dream shag.

SarahStratton · 17/04/2012 22:32

He was vair good Avocado. Grin

He keeps his socks on though, better warn you.

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DidISayThatOutLoud · 17/04/2012 22:33

Hahahaha, I may have actually just wee'd a little that really made me laugh!!
Am I allowed to say that on here? Oh well it's worth it anyway :D

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WorraLiberty · 17/04/2012 22:33

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hermionestranger · 17/04/2012 22:34

A moan I totally allowed and you are allowed five minutes! Go for it! You'll feel better for it!

I had a strop moan and a cry earlier on and I feel lot better for it.

Here have an unMN hug xx

ChopMyPerry · 17/04/2012 22:34

I would imagine it would be quite frictionful, sex with all that hari and SiC.

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Starwisher · 17/04/2012 22:34

This thread is mumsnet on acid

boringnickname · 17/04/2012 22:35

why Worraliberty?

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DidISayThatOutLoud · 17/04/2012 22:35

Why would you say I'm not new?

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AvocadoAndFitch · 17/04/2012 22:35

Ooh good to know, hopefully the man will stop messing about and get down to it tonight although clown trousers and socks, its going to be an interesting dream tonight Grin

ChopMyPerry · 17/04/2012 22:36

Well your NN is quaite MNy tbf.

Most floks normally join with a wibblywobblymmmy84 style name.

[true]

thebody · 17/04/2012 22:36

Poor u, you are quite welcome and entitled to have a moan and a crappy day, so much on your plate, you doing well kid xxx

WorraLiberty · 17/04/2012 22:37

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StealthPolarBear · 17/04/2012 22:37

Your post at 22.33 speaks for itself. still, I have no idea what's going on really