feeling hard done by....:(

[DidISayThatOutLoud]

Sooo, I am new to this (as in 30seconds old)...after regularly reading the threads and seeing it's ok to have a moan, I was wondering if it would be ok for me to do the same?

I am 25 and have an amazing husband (he is my best friend) and 2 beautiful girls aged 5 and 3, I have fab friends and a family that love me... and because I am the "bounce back Queen" I fnd it hard to ever have a moan...

BUT....

My hubby is registered disabled, he has ME/CFS, (this was diagnosed by an endocrinologist after rigorous amounts of tests and eliminating everything else) Fibromyalgia, Diverticulitis (recurrent), a hyatus hernia, GORD, A new hip problem (which may result in a replacement), low testosterone.. Asthma...the list goes on.

It's been on and off for a few years, but the past 2 yrs have really been down hill... He has even spoken to a GPSI (GP with a special interest) who has told the hubby that he is too young to have half of these problems... which of course doesn't make it any less so.

My 3 year old has a paediatricians appt on Thurs for a pooing problem which has been ongoing (movicol and lactulose do NOT work)

I have an appt on Fri for a pre op assessment for Endometrial Ablation (my periods last approx 3 weeks and stupidly heavy)...other than that my health is great...could do with losing a stone since having children... but one day at a time. :D

Now my whole thing is...for just a second (Even though it sounds SOOOO unbelievably selfish) I would like someone to just give me a hug, a bar of chocolate and beat up the world with me...just for 5 minutes.

I found out recently that a few of my close friends don't want to confide in me because they think I have too much on my plate... I never really get down about my life, like I say, my hubby is my best friend and my children are amazing... but now I feel unable to say anything even if I am having a crappy day because I would never ever tell my friends they are worse off or anything like that, one of them point blank said "I don't know how you manage to smile at all without me adding to it".... this offends me a little because as far as I can see I am a bloody good friend, I don't want to be shielded (they know this)

So basically I am taking 5 minutes to feel hard done by, please feel free to do the same... rant over. And I don't even know what the title of this should be...random rants? sorry folks....

Yeah, your really not fanning the flames at all there are you pinot?

I tried to read the thread before posting buit the firts few pages reflect a printed copy of top secret files; Full of stuff that's been deleted!

OP, I know what tough times are like. To the point where my expectations all together are seriously lowered. It just makes life's darker quarters a bit more bearable. I'm sure that things won't always feel bad all the time but I get those moments where you think, "You know what? I feel sorry for myself and that i actually OK."

We're all entitled to throw ourselves a pitty party sometimes. Even if all that is is a bar of chocolate, a glass of Jack red and a bubble bath.

Feel better x

*I get those moments where I think

But ever, your problem to begin with was that I was a fake and you were "team Crystal" now that HQ have said there is no reason to think that you are still trying to give me a hard time... I don't understand why...if it was constructive criticism it wouldn't be a problem but from the previous posts you wrote I can't really believe that it is...

A lot of people have gotten into this big old fight, I still have everything going on in my life that I wrote to begin with... if I knew it would cause this I would NOT have bothered to begin with..but I did and being the person I am, I have taken time to write and reassure people about who I am... I don't know what else people want/expect from me... I just hope that in your RL, you give people more benefit of the doubt!!!

Autumn...thank you , unfortunately I am still stupidly optimistic about everything, I don't think I would cope at all if I wasn't... but yes am realising it's ok to feel hard done by sometimes xxx

It wasn't worded offensively at all..

just hard to believe that after being "against" me...you are trying to help?

Felt like a dig..sorry if it wasn't meant that way but you could certainly see why I would think so.

At the end of the day I am NEW to this, I already made a MEGA mistake by posting to begin with and no doubt I will make more, but I can't just change who I am, if I offend someone I will apologise... not a lot else I can do. People will either see it how it's meant or not.

I think your mistake was posting this in aibu instead of chat or relationships. The longer i'm here the more I see that a lot of people often post in here to be contrary. The AIBU section is famous for people doubting what is written / posting deliberately inflammatory stuff.

Hi OP. :)

IMO I think you should abandon this thread (Just a suggestion, Certainly not telling you what to do) or even ask for it to be deleted because I can see this dragging on. The more people who read this the more people will be suspicious of you. That's not your fault.

You are constantly having to defend yourself here but I think the best way to do that is move on and just post around the forum normally.

MN is an excellent place but there have been quite a lot of trolls and people deliberately trying to stir things up here recently so people are getting more and more suspicious. Obviously that's nothing to do with you and MNHQ have proven that's not the case here but it's just a small explanation for peoples reactions.

I don't see the problem with what you posted in your op.

Ok you didn't ask a question but the basic gist was, ok so I know I've got loads of shit going on, I don't want my friends to shut me out though.

I honestly have no idea why the thread turned the way it did.

Yes, people get flamed in AIBU, usually because they are being U. However with this one posters just jumped on the op because they didn't believe her circumstances.

Then it all turned into a bunfight.

I've been around to witness lots of bunfights, this one is the most bizarre.

Hi Purple, thank you,,, if I wasn't such a stubborn cow I would defo had have it deleted etc but in my eyes, then I am giving in... aren't I? And isn't going quietly also suspicious? In RL I would never back down if I was innocent of something.. but I will also be the first to apologise too..I am damned if I do, damned if I don't...

Sigh... who knows?

I wouldn't say giving in or going quietly, You will still post won't you?

I would call it putting the whole thing behind you. You have been proven to be genuine so anything else on this thread will be drama IMO.

Didi

You are been naughty now! Just let the thread die. Die thread die!

You will find decent support in health etc

Ok..you are right!! How do I kill it? Or do I need to wait a certain time period or something!!!!

You just bumped it as it was about to die

Arse! So did I

Stop posting..

Sorry

Hun, will we see you in Health? :D
Hope so xxx

I agree with brownjoy, what the hell has it got to do with you everlong!? That's why these situations happen in the first place, because people like you everlong think they have the right to dictate what is acceptable for others to put in their posts. And we're not even talking insults or swearing, just kisses and smiley faces.

Serious get a life!

Just caught and and saw that the op wants the thread to die. Fair enough.

Have noticed though . . . Not one single apology . . . Not a single one.