feeling hard done by....:(

[DidISayThatOutLoud]

Sooo, I am new to this (as in 30seconds old)...after regularly reading the threads and seeing it's ok to have a moan, I was wondering if it would be ok for me to do the same?

I am 25 and have an amazing husband (he is my best friend) and 2 beautiful girls aged 5 and 3, I have fab friends and a family that love me... and because I am the "bounce back Queen" I fnd it hard to ever have a moan...

BUT....

My hubby is registered disabled, he has ME/CFS, (this was diagnosed by an endocrinologist after rigorous amounts of tests and eliminating everything else) Fibromyalgia, Diverticulitis (recurrent), a hyatus hernia, GORD, A new hip problem (which may result in a replacement), low testosterone.. Asthma...the list goes on.

It's been on and off for a few years, but the past 2 yrs have really been down hill... He has even spoken to a GPSI (GP with a special interest) who has told the hubby that he is too young to have half of these problems... which of course doesn't make it any less so.

My 3 year old has a paediatricians appt on Thurs for a pooing problem which has been ongoing (movicol and lactulose do NOT work)

I have an appt on Fri for a pre op assessment for Endometrial Ablation (my periods last approx 3 weeks and stupidly heavy)...other than that my health is great...could do with losing a stone since having children... but one day at a time. :D

Now my whole thing is...for just a second (Even though it sounds SOOOO unbelievably selfish) I would like someone to just give me a hug, a bar of chocolate and beat up the world with me...just for 5 minutes.

I found out recently that a few of my close friends don't want to confide in me because they think I have too much on my plate... I never really get down about my life, like I say, my hubby is my best friend and my children are amazing... but now I feel unable to say anything even if I am having a crappy day because I would never ever tell my friends they are worse off or anything like that, one of them point blank said "I don't know how you manage to smile at all without me adding to it".... this offends me a little because as far as I can see I am a bloody good friend, I don't want to be shielded (they know this)

So basically I am taking 5 minutes to feel hard done by, please feel free to do the same... rant over. And I don't even know what the title of this should be...random rants? sorry folks....

Thanks MrsVandekamp xx

I don't really know tbh Vivian... kinda sad though :'(

Op, may i suggest you post in anywhere but aibu as a heads-up? Its crazeeeee town in this section...

Unfortunatley, the thread police on here seem to think that this is their board.

I've seen many posters new and old being hounded out because some people seem to think its is their right to 'expose' people as fake, to dig through thier previous posts, and accuse them of making things up, when all the OP is looking for is a bit of support.

Its a nasty quality in these posters, i like to think of them as sad, old and unloved dragons

"sad, old and unloved dragons" ohhhhh, id just want to go and cuddle an unloved dragon though!

I just read the guidelines and about trolls or whatever, I just think that the blue quote box thing is right...that if I had been someone at breaking point with nowhere else to turn, to come here and feel like I was being persecuted, or that it was all in my head...what the heck? Everyone is entitled to their opinion... I get into all sorts of trouble saying what I think(hence my screen name) but to be outright mean with absolutely nothing to back you up... reallllly? Oh well, once again thank you to the LOVELY people who have made me feel very welcome!
Starwisher... you could've told me earlier..tsk tsk :D
xxx

Some people do just need a hug :D

No one told me either didi, and i got burned alive! More than once...

Think of it as your baptisim of fire *)

Hahaha, well you survived...A lot of posts have been deleted so either this has been looked at or someone has reported some of the snipey stuff...thanks either way :D

Think this section needs to come with a warning label lolol.

At least one of them just came out and said they didn't believe me... but really I know I keep saying it but I have no reason to lie, I couldn't imagine why anyone would want to live this by choice...even imaginary, and if I was making it up I must've done an awful lot of time on research :S

Oh well, c'est la vie xx

I firmly believe aibu should be emblazoned with the words:

"Abandon all hope all ye who enter here"

Yikes! Threats now!

Oh dear. Well being fairly new to Netmums I have no idea what's happening here. But op from what you say you sound like you need a big hug, so a big hug to you.

This isnt netmums!

Ahem, this is Mumsnet Noq

Yes it is Star, hun xx

Lady, I am really really sorry to hear about your sister, my hubby has diverticula...he gets regular bouts of diverticulitis and has to go to hospital for a course of IV antibiotics when he gets an infection but with everything else wrong he has regular appts with gp, and I definitely keep an eye on him... it's scary!

Crystal.. I know it seems a bit stalkerish but after reading some of what you've written on threads and stuff recently, it seems you've gone to hell and back yourself...I really hope things improve for you!!!!...BUT I just can't understand how you can go through things like that and seem to think I am lying outright...

anyway, I'm done with the pettiness, please if anyone needs any help or just someone to unload on PLEASE just ask!!!!!

Bed, before you get yourself into more trouble.

No not a threat.... not at all, but people should not have to put up with what you're doing to me...and I will warn them to ignore it, more ppl seem to want to help than harm~!!!!

Thank you Noq... don't be put off, some people are SO nice here as you can see by the comments xxx