feeling hard done by....:(

[DidISayThatOutLoud]

Sooo, I am new to this (as in 30seconds old)...after regularly reading the threads and seeing it's ok to have a moan, I was wondering if it would be ok for me to do the same?

I am 25 and have an amazing husband (he is my best friend) and 2 beautiful girls aged 5 and 3, I have fab friends and a family that love me... and because I am the "bounce back Queen" I fnd it hard to ever have a moan...

BUT....

My hubby is registered disabled, he has ME/CFS, (this was diagnosed by an endocrinologist after rigorous amounts of tests and eliminating everything else) Fibromyalgia, Diverticulitis (recurrent), a hyatus hernia, GORD, A new hip problem (which may result in a replacement), low testosterone.. Asthma...the list goes on.

It's been on and off for a few years, but the past 2 yrs have really been down hill... He has even spoken to a GPSI (GP with a special interest) who has told the hubby that he is too young to have half of these problems... which of course doesn't make it any less so.

My 3 year old has a paediatricians appt on Thurs for a pooing problem which has been ongoing (movicol and lactulose do NOT work)

I have an appt on Fri for a pre op assessment for Endometrial Ablation (my periods last approx 3 weeks and stupidly heavy)...other than that my health is great...could do with losing a stone since having children... but one day at a time. :D

Now my whole thing is...for just a second (Even though it sounds SOOOO unbelievably selfish) I would like someone to just give me a hug, a bar of chocolate and beat up the world with me...just for 5 minutes.

I found out recently that a few of my close friends don't want to confide in me because they think I have too much on my plate... I never really get down about my life, like I say, my hubby is my best friend and my children are amazing... but now I feel unable to say anything even if I am having a crappy day because I would never ever tell my friends they are worse off or anything like that, one of them point blank said "I don't know how you manage to smile at all without me adding to it".... this offends me a little because as far as I can see I am a bloody good friend, I don't want to be shielded (they know this)

So basically I am taking 5 minutes to feel hard done by, please feel free to do the same... rant over. And I don't even know what the title of this should be...random rants? sorry folks....

Didi maybe someone could kindly recommend a part of mumsnet where you could receive the support you deserve?

Aibu will not be it. Its a very weird place. You just neec to be directed to the right sub-forum

Fair enough crystal, sorry I probably over reacted too after telling the op off for it, am such a bloody hypocrite I just worry that fear of troll hunters could put people in genuine need off posting, and mnhq are usually pretty good at deleting trolls aren't they? I think it was just the cloak and dagger stuff that made me a bit but I know you were just trying to help

OP some of the posters on here are LOVELY, maryz is one of the nicest posters ever and would never be nasty.

There is lots of good to mumsnet and a little bit of bad, without its support a lot of people would be lost.

I would like to say sorry to all the people just trying to help for going a little bit crazy there, yes I over-reacted about getting the site shut down, and will definitely be careful about what I say and where I say it from now on (meaning my personal life).... thank you so much to all the people that made all this crap worthwhile, I will go away knowing that I'm not alone..thanks xxx

"this is supposed to be a "safe place"

Who told you that about AIBU? There is a disclaimer and everything!

There are safe places on MN - lots of them. Support in abundance if asked for rather than phrased belligerently.

So no need to go away unless you are truly convinced that we have nothing to offer. The name-change facility after a particularly unpleasant drunken episode experience is especially valuable I find

Thanks Night, I refuse to change my name as I have done nothing wrong... apparently I missed the blood dripped page when I went onto AIBU... thanks xx

You are welcome and as said on the other thread, people report without even having posted if things look wrong. I missed all this earlier but have done exactly that in the past.

My dh probably feels like you. I have fibromyalgia and numerous health problems too.

I'm reading this as I can't sleep and I am both and at some if these posts.

Have an unmumsnetty [hug] OP.

It's strange around here at the minute

Omg, as they say. OP, you have my sympathy

Some posters have embarrassed themselves on this thread.

How shameful

DidI, I hope you come back on this morning - I wouldn't blame you if you ran to the hills and never looked back.

Sounds like you're doing a great job and you have every right to feel a bit down every now and then!

As you say, one day at a time - hope this is a good one

What is wrong with some people?
They get an idea in their head and go on and on even when all their MN 'friends' join in and tell them to go to bed.

Oh for the love of god.

MNHQ obviously not out of bed yet! Christ this is unpleasant. I am sure there are hundreds of posters here who only give their sides of stories, embellish and tell lies, if you think that, why bother with the thread, just have a little moment to yourself and go and do something more constructive with your time? I think whenever someone has been trolling, especially maliciously,it pretty much shows itself in the thread at some stage. One would have to question why someone would post the OP if it wasn't true, I personaly would think that was just as much a cry for help if it wasn't tbh. I also think if you have something to say you should say it instead of making nasty jibes and hijacking the thread. It is incredibly damaging, not only potentially to the OP but to anyone else with similar issues who thinks that they might get support here - they will run to the hills thinking that Mnet is a horrible cliquey place where folk take pride in goading someone. I would suggest that if the OP is not true there is still a cry for hep underneath it. I have no opinion either way - why? Because i have not been able to form one amid all the troll calling.

MNHQ are perfectly clear on trolling - if you see it, report and move on.

Hi, I am still here :D woo-freakin-hoo, :D

I won't be made to go away, it has all been reported and although I got my head up my ass a bit and said I would get the site shut down for bullying (cringe...A "DidISayThatOutLoud" moment for sure) I don't have anything to worry about with the admin...unless my rant is considered a personal attack...I consider it defending myself.

there are SO many nice people on here, I am back to my usual self today... :D

Why the clandestine messages then Ali, just come out and say it FFS

just so that I dont have to be confused anymore if nothing else

Why would I lie about something that trivial... I mean really?

The reason you think this is....because I'm internet savvy? because I'm not running away?

The whole reason I joined was to get stuff off my chest..which is exactly what I did, why else would I join a forum if I wasn't going to contribute?

I don't know how the admin work here, but they know the truth, they can tell from my email address and IP rubbish etc.
If you want to think I'm not new... go for it, I can't really prove it to you all can I... not that I need to anyway!!!!

Just to satisfy my curiousity - how exactly were you going to get the site shut down? Funniest damned thing I've ever read and quite seriously unhinged!