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feeling hard done by....:(

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DidISayThatOutLoud · 17/04/2012 20:48

Sooo, I am new to this (as in 30seconds old)...after regularly reading the threads and seeing it's ok to have a moan, I was wondering if it would be ok for me to do the same?

I am 25 and have an amazing husband (he is my best friend) and 2 beautiful girls aged 5 and 3, I have fab friends and a family that love me... and because I am the "bounce back Queen" I fnd it hard to ever have a moan...

BUT....

My hubby is registered disabled, he has ME/CFS, (this was diagnosed by an endocrinologist after rigorous amounts of tests and eliminating everything else) Fibromyalgia, Diverticulitis (recurrent), a hyatus hernia, GORD, A new hip problem (which may result in a replacement), low testosterone.. Asthma...the list goes on.

It's been on and off for a few years, but the past 2 yrs have really been down hill... He has even spoken to a GPSI (GP with a special interest) who has told the hubby that he is too young to have half of these problems... which of course doesn't make it any less so.

My 3 year old has a paediatricians appt on Thurs for a pooing problem which has been ongoing (movicol and lactulose do NOT work)

I have an appt on Fri for a pre op assessment for Endometrial Ablation (my periods last approx 3 weeks and stupidly heavy)...other than that my health is great...could do with losing a stone since having children... but one day at a time. :D

Now my whole thing is...for just a second (Even though it sounds SOOOO unbelievably selfish) I would like someone to just give me a hug, a bar of chocolate and beat up the world with me...just for 5 minutes.

I found out recently that a few of my close friends don't want to confide in me because they think I have too much on my plate... I never really get down about my life, like I say, my hubby is my best friend and my children are amazing... but now I feel unable to say anything even if I am having a crappy day because I would never ever tell my friends they are worse off or anything like that, one of them point blank said "I don't know how you manage to smile at all without me adding to it".... this offends me a little because as far as I can see I am a bloody good friend, I don't want to be shielded (they know this)

So basically I am taking 5 minutes to feel hard done by, please feel free to do the same... rant over. And I don't even know what the title of this should be...random rants? sorry folks....

OP posts:
AutumnSummers · 20/04/2012 11:30

C'mon folks let's just give it a rest, eh?

PooPooInMyToes · 20/04/2012 11:43

Its clear from my post everlong that i didn't realise the op wanted it dropped. And yes and its quite clear you couldn't give a f otherwise you would try to be behave nicely to complete strangers with sick husbands on the internet. Oh and where's the apology you owe the op?

Maryz Did you not read that i didn't see the op wanted it to die either or is it an avoidance technique? You know so you can avoid apologizing? Waiting . . .

everlong · 20/04/2012 11:59

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Treblesallround · 20/04/2012 12:02

It's getting a bit tedious now ladies

WorraLiberty · 20/04/2012 12:04

I think the OP's already milked the bollocks out of this thread.

everlong · 20/04/2012 12:14

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