feeling hard done by....:(

[DidISayThatOutLoud]

Sooo, I am new to this (as in 30seconds old)...after regularly reading the threads and seeing it's ok to have a moan, I was wondering if it would be ok for me to do the same?

I am 25 and have an amazing husband (he is my best friend) and 2 beautiful girls aged 5 and 3, I have fab friends and a family that love me... and because I am the "bounce back Queen" I fnd it hard to ever have a moan...

BUT....

My hubby is registered disabled, he has ME/CFS, (this was diagnosed by an endocrinologist after rigorous amounts of tests and eliminating everything else) Fibromyalgia, Diverticulitis (recurrent), a hyatus hernia, GORD, A new hip problem (which may result in a replacement), low testosterone.. Asthma...the list goes on.

It's been on and off for a few years, but the past 2 yrs have really been down hill... He has even spoken to a GPSI (GP with a special interest) who has told the hubby that he is too young to have half of these problems... which of course doesn't make it any less so.

My 3 year old has a paediatricians appt on Thurs for a pooing problem which has been ongoing (movicol and lactulose do NOT work)

I have an appt on Fri for a pre op assessment for Endometrial Ablation (my periods last approx 3 weeks and stupidly heavy)...other than that my health is great...could do with losing a stone since having children... but one day at a time. :D

Now my whole thing is...for just a second (Even though it sounds SOOOO unbelievably selfish) I would like someone to just give me a hug, a bar of chocolate and beat up the world with me...just for 5 minutes.

I found out recently that a few of my close friends don't want to confide in me because they think I have too much on my plate... I never really get down about my life, like I say, my hubby is my best friend and my children are amazing... but now I feel unable to say anything even if I am having a crappy day because I would never ever tell my friends they are worse off or anything like that, one of them point blank said "I don't know how you manage to smile at all without me adding to it".... this offends me a little because as far as I can see I am a bloody good friend, I don't want to be shielded (they know this)

So basically I am taking 5 minutes to feel hard done by, please feel free to do the same... rant over. And I don't even know what the title of this should be...random rants? sorry folks....

You have my sympathies. I also would love a bag [ have crohns disease, on the loo 20-30 times a day and have had several bowel resections]. It is all consuming and has given me lots of extra health problems.

Its exhausting and is difficult to live a normal life. You are doing brilliantly x

Keep going hun, we're all rootin for ya!

ive never had acid

Well you come pretty close by reading this thread boring :)

boring, if you ever get any...just take a Rennie

Rennies, now we're talking hardcore.

well yes, this thread is upsetting my constitution somewhat!

Shhhhh keep it down CrystalMeths

I like Tums, mainly for the jingle. Tum, t - tum tum Tums.

The one where I said I almost just wee'd a little... what?

Ok, can I just say:

1st of all...why on earth would I make something up like this? I came here to have a moan, because it seems I can't bear my soul to my loved ones... not to be made to feel like a storyteller :O

secondly, I have a nickname that's different, I have used other sites before...like Bebo, where my name was mouthofthsouth... "Did I say that out loud", "I just wee'd a little" and "I was just sick in my mouth" are things I generally say about 10 times a day...

Thirdly...I use facebook and have had a blog so I generally have a basic idea of how to use a forum, I also answer yahoo questions every now and then if I feel I can help... in between my posts I have been looking at acronyms and the smilies below to try and familiarise myself because I'm not really making sense of all the abbreviations.

I was feeling a bit down and thought for once I would make a post... sorry if this offends anyone... what else can I possibly say? .....Gobsmacked is an understatement!!

Thank you to everyone who has been understanding n made me feel like it's ok to be selfish and think about myself for 5 mins xxx

I'm

FWIW you seem genuine enough to me. Rant away

Crystal...what????

x-post. I'm not by your posts DidI

It's all the other randow wink wink tap tap posts I can't work out and don't see the point of

Me too bochia! What the diddley diddle is going on?!

I'm too at this thread, I realise I'm probably missing something but I had to say that just because someone posts 'well' doesn't mean they're not new, I posted on loads of forums before I started to worship at the alter of mn joined here and a lot of them have the same netiquette and sayings

Op you sound genuine to me but what do I know sounds like you cope really well don't blame you for having a moan

Thanks Katniss... The reason I joined THIS site is because like I said, I've read a lot of posts on here: whenever I type in a google search there seems to be an answer that links back to this website, you can read through the different things, (eg earlier I was looking at working from home,) but you can't post.

xx

Didi, apologies, didn't mean to upset you. I was genuinely answering the question as to which post made it seem like you weren't new. I have no actual opinion either way.

Why lbe?

I really wish the people who are making underhanded snipes at the OP would just come out and justify their comments.

Do stick around OP, you might want to post your DHs health issues in general health, you might get more support. AIBU is often just a fight club at times.

DiDI please don't let one thread put you off, I think some are stil a bit twitchy after the easter holidays and it might take a day or two for things to settle down.

Please ignore those that you don't find helpful you sund like you are internet savvy so you must have a semi hard skin to help you ignore.

you will find lots of like minded people & support here, you have already if you over look the others.

Don't let a few in a million put you off.....

Thanks Bohica and boring, tbh, I have bigger concerns then people who seem to be judging me...as I already wrote. Ha.

I'm pretty sure if I was a little less funny (ok-maybe not) or had fewer problems it would be perfectly acceptable/believable or whatever it is people are having a problem with...

I think I will be observing for a while or trying to help and support others when they need it, especially as I'm sure others must invoke the same kind of reaction as this occasionally?

Won't be too hasty in starting a thread though... Sad to say but it appears a place which is meant for parents also seems to be full of children. :'(