feeling hard done by....:(

[DidISayThatOutLoud]

Sooo, I am new to this (as in 30seconds old)...after regularly reading the threads and seeing it's ok to have a moan, I was wondering if it would be ok for me to do the same?

I am 25 and have an amazing husband (he is my best friend) and 2 beautiful girls aged 5 and 3, I have fab friends and a family that love me... and because I am the "bounce back Queen" I fnd it hard to ever have a moan...

BUT....

My hubby is registered disabled, he has ME/CFS, (this was diagnosed by an endocrinologist after rigorous amounts of tests and eliminating everything else) Fibromyalgia, Diverticulitis (recurrent), a hyatus hernia, GORD, A new hip problem (which may result in a replacement), low testosterone.. Asthma...the list goes on.

It's been on and off for a few years, but the past 2 yrs have really been down hill... He has even spoken to a GPSI (GP with a special interest) who has told the hubby that he is too young to have half of these problems... which of course doesn't make it any less so.

My 3 year old has a paediatricians appt on Thurs for a pooing problem which has been ongoing (movicol and lactulose do NOT work)

I have an appt on Fri for a pre op assessment for Endometrial Ablation (my periods last approx 3 weeks and stupidly heavy)...other than that my health is great...could do with losing a stone since having children... but one day at a time. :D

Now my whole thing is...for just a second (Even though it sounds SOOOO unbelievably selfish) I would like someone to just give me a hug, a bar of chocolate and beat up the world with me...just for 5 minutes.

I found out recently that a few of my close friends don't want to confide in me because they think I have too much on my plate... I never really get down about my life, like I say, my hubby is my best friend and my children are amazing... but now I feel unable to say anything even if I am having a crappy day because I would never ever tell my friends they are worse off or anything like that, one of them point blank said "I don't know how you manage to smile at all without me adding to it".... this offends me a little because as far as I can see I am a bloody good friend, I don't want to be shielded (they know this)

So basically I am taking 5 minutes to feel hard done by, please feel free to do the same... rant over. And I don't even know what the title of this should be...random rants? sorry folks....

it's not odd!!
if you're new, how would you know that it's a bun fight topic??

Sorry about this thread DidI. Nasty behaviour.

I really don't know why people feel the need to appoint themselves Trollfinder General and get the fucking thumbscrews out. So bloody self-important.

ever... what is so odd about that? I don't understand what you're trying to say... I have explained why I came to this particular section.. sigh sigh sigh.

Lots of reasons for the OP posting what she did, where she did. If she doesn't know MN. If she doesn't understand the unwritten rules about AIBU. If she isn't used to the posting style of some posters. A brief look will tell you AIBU is the one board that gets most usage so best place to go for a response.

Focus on the nice posts didi

Ignore the haters

am here! cat on lap, laptop next to me. bliss :)

I'm new. No really, I am. I read these posts over night chuckling away to myself at the silliness of it.

When I say new, I mean I joined at some point in the past but never posted. Am I allowed to start a new thread in here or am I required to have been a member since the dawn of time?

OP, as the Doors famously sang, people are strange, when you're a stranger. If you care that much, in future, pretend you're old. Or will you get villified for that too? Hmmmm, funny one that!

Im not explaining myself to a troll hunter everlong.

Sorry to hear of your troubles. Just saw that you were trying lactulose for your 3 year old - assuming your DS/DD has a constipation problem. Think lactulose is very mild as it didn't even work on my baby. I also tried movicol and sometimes did not work although suppositories did - don't know if that would work for older child?

Thanks wheres.. hopefully tomorrows appt will get us somewhere... movicol made her sick.. but gp said this is not supposed to be a side effect so didn't really take me seriously, went to get 2nd opinion and referred to a paediatrician so fingers crossed... they may suggest that. Does your baby still have problems? Hope he/she is ok now!! xx

My you sound great.

I've been feeling sorry for myself this am too, I've ranted about it on here too, so hope you feel better for that. There are lots of supportive lovely people on the health boards you should post more often.

Have you told your friends how you feel?

but DidI is a lurker, just an here-to-for unregistered one!

or heretofore.
i can't spell today.

I would imagine most pre-posters are lurkers of some sort.
It's akin to watching soap operas. I love corrie. Never wanted to be an actor in it though.

The difference in AIBU - It's (mostly) real.

I finally started posting because I agreed muchly with a thread on another area of MN. Once you pop, u can't stop!

pre-posters... sorry I meant IMposters :-)

DidISayThatOutLoud - baby good now, seemed to be just a phase. Go with your instinct on this. Could it be a food intolerance or would cutting out foods that are harder to digest help?

Excellent post Antsy

Yep the one night im not on MN and a shit storm the size of america errupts!

This thread has confused me ever so much.

almost as much as the three fannied marsupual eh puds