feeling hard done by....:(

[DidISayThatOutLoud]

Sooo, I am new to this (as in 30seconds old)...after regularly reading the threads and seeing it's ok to have a moan, I was wondering if it would be ok for me to do the same?

I am 25 and have an amazing husband (he is my best friend) and 2 beautiful girls aged 5 and 3, I have fab friends and a family that love me... and because I am the "bounce back Queen" I fnd it hard to ever have a moan...

BUT....

My hubby is registered disabled, he has ME/CFS, (this was diagnosed by an endocrinologist after rigorous amounts of tests and eliminating everything else) Fibromyalgia, Diverticulitis (recurrent), a hyatus hernia, GORD, A new hip problem (which may result in a replacement), low testosterone.. Asthma...the list goes on.

It's been on and off for a few years, but the past 2 yrs have really been down hill... He has even spoken to a GPSI (GP with a special interest) who has told the hubby that he is too young to have half of these problems... which of course doesn't make it any less so.

My 3 year old has a paediatricians appt on Thurs for a pooing problem which has been ongoing (movicol and lactulose do NOT work)

I have an appt on Fri for a pre op assessment for Endometrial Ablation (my periods last approx 3 weeks and stupidly heavy)...other than that my health is great...could do with losing a stone since having children... but one day at a time. :D

Now my whole thing is...for just a second (Even though it sounds SOOOO unbelievably selfish) I would like someone to just give me a hug, a bar of chocolate and beat up the world with me...just for 5 minutes.

I found out recently that a few of my close friends don't want to confide in me because they think I have too much on my plate... I never really get down about my life, like I say, my hubby is my best friend and my children are amazing... but now I feel unable to say anything even if I am having a crappy day because I would never ever tell my friends they are worse off or anything like that, one of them point blank said "I don't know how you manage to smile at all without me adding to it".... this offends me a little because as far as I can see I am a bloody good friend, I don't want to be shielded (they know this)

So basically I am taking 5 minutes to feel hard done by, please feel free to do the same... rant over. And I don't even know what the title of this should be...random rants? sorry folks....

That one blew my brain boring.
It still hasnt recoverd. Who needs 3 vaginas? i mean its just excessive.

I'm horribly confused.

Don't worry Purple you are absolutely not the first and i'm sure you wont be the last

Trys to understand why people are being nasty, fails, closes thread.

Antsy.

I can't say that i did a Google of mumsnets internet reputation before posting here for the first time! Are you really suggesting that everyone genuine does?

You seem to be saying that NO ONE genuine would post on this section at all due to its reputation! And anyone that does is looking to start a fight and for attention.

Im not sure how you can use your "authority" as an ex mod to declare that THIS op is most likely posting this for attention and a fight! How on earth did you come to that conclusion!

All i can assume is that your time spent in your previous job has left you with an unbalanced amount of suspicion. Whatever your experience, you do not have the right to declare this about someone else. Report like everyone else.

I also don't think its a moral crusade to not like troll hunters! Wtf?

Your thoughts are most likely wrong.

Pretty sure my first post was in AIBU as I'm sure lots of others were too.

It's a very thin bit of "evidence" to use to make a judgement about someone and then put that judgement on their thread.

I read AIBU. i dont read any other part of MN. i read for along time before posting.

i feel if you are vulnerable in RL it may not be wise to post here on a sensitive issue, because as well as support you will hear not so supportive comments.

i like AIBU you get all sides of people's opinions and makes you think. and its brutally honest.

hope you feel better soon OP.

I think this debate about troll and hunters is going round in circles. Do you think, PooPoo, you've made your point really clear and maybe you should agree to disagree and leave it? I say that with respect. Honest, guv.

my first post (with a different name) last week was done in AIBU and initially I got flamed. I know now, it should probably have been done in 'relationships'.

Mumsnet was recommended to me by 2 friends but I avoided it because I had read a Cherry Menlove thread and (although I agreed with most of it) it all just looked so scary here. I didn't click at that point that it was even on AIBU section and that AIBU was such scrum at times.

When I was pissed off last week and wanted some support, i signed up to mumsnet and literally immediately posted (badly)on AIBU for 2 reasons.

1.It was at the top of the list at the bottom of the screen
\2. the words am I being unreasonable...kinda fit my complaint to a T.

Maybe didi posted here for the same reasons? Or maybe because she didn't want advice, she wanted a rant and AIBU seemed to fit the bill? I don't know. Everyone is entitled to their opinions but personally, what I've earn from the last couple of days is that I'll be giving people the benefit of the doubt.

This is what you get for going to bed early :(

FWIW, I think you seem lovely, OP.

Oh my...just poked my head back in, would have loved to have read what antsy wrote before it was deleted... thank you for everyone defending me etc, but it doesn't seem to be worth the hassle to yourselves, I am ok now..honestly, it doesn't bother me what people are saying, I have had a fab day and feel much better after all the nice comments etc... I could retaliate and get personal but what would be the point? Go on about your day and smile knowing that you helped me smile when I really needed it!! Hugs :)

I lurked for about a year before I registered...and played safe with a post about a noisy neighbour in chat play the game,son...play the game

Everlong. A thread like that? A thread like what? A thread saying her husband is ill and she's having a rough time? What's wrong with that? In your opinion what sort on thread would have been acceptable?

Didi. Glad you are feeling ok and not too upset about all this.

Troll hunting i would imagine considering what she said.

The post was nothing personal towards you didi, I'm just bemused at all the random behaviours on the thread, seemed like you wanted a rant and got a shitstorm instead my point was that you have read threads here so there is an aspect of knowing what to expect from AIBU...

But in the end you wanted a bit of a bun fight and have responded in kind yourself. What's not to like? It's AIBU atypical for this last few months.

I don't agree that people are bullying on this thread, for the most part they are either amused, bemused, or confused.

Hope things are a bit brighter for you today.

Don't understand why antsy's post got deleted either.
It was very measured and sensible and looked at both sides of the argument.
Weird.

My post on this thread got deleted because I suggested someone take their concerns to MNHQ instead of airing them on the thread (not realising that they already had) - and I welcomed the OP to MN.

Random!

MNHQ have confirmed that they have no reason to believe that the op is not genuine.