feeling hard done by....:(

[DidISayThatOutLoud]

Sooo, I am new to this (as in 30seconds old)...after regularly reading the threads and seeing it's ok to have a moan, I was wondering if it would be ok for me to do the same?

I am 25 and have an amazing husband (he is my best friend) and 2 beautiful girls aged 5 and 3, I have fab friends and a family that love me... and because I am the "bounce back Queen" I fnd it hard to ever have a moan...

BUT....

My hubby is registered disabled, he has ME/CFS, (this was diagnosed by an endocrinologist after rigorous amounts of tests and eliminating everything else) Fibromyalgia, Diverticulitis (recurrent), a hyatus hernia, GORD, A new hip problem (which may result in a replacement), low testosterone.. Asthma...the list goes on.

It's been on and off for a few years, but the past 2 yrs have really been down hill... He has even spoken to a GPSI (GP with a special interest) who has told the hubby that he is too young to have half of these problems... which of course doesn't make it any less so.

My 3 year old has a paediatricians appt on Thurs for a pooing problem which has been ongoing (movicol and lactulose do NOT work)

I have an appt on Fri for a pre op assessment for Endometrial Ablation (my periods last approx 3 weeks and stupidly heavy)...other than that my health is great...could do with losing a stone since having children... but one day at a time. :D

Now my whole thing is...for just a second (Even though it sounds SOOOO unbelievably selfish) I would like someone to just give me a hug, a bar of chocolate and beat up the world with me...just for 5 minutes.

I found out recently that a few of my close friends don't want to confide in me because they think I have too much on my plate... I never really get down about my life, like I say, my hubby is my best friend and my children are amazing... but now I feel unable to say anything even if I am having a crappy day because I would never ever tell my friends they are worse off or anything like that, one of them point blank said "I don't know how you manage to smile at all without me adding to it".... this offends me a little because as far as I can see I am a bloody good friend, I don't want to be shielded (they know this)

So basically I am taking 5 minutes to feel hard done by, please feel free to do the same... rant over. And I don't even know what the title of this should be...random rants? sorry folks....

Everlong Only with the usual "Message deleted for breaking talk guidelines" replacing my words.

I was genuine in my welcome to the op too.

actually I used to post in AIBU all the time when I was a newbie, because it kept coming up in most active!

There are too many subsections for anyone to know where to post until they have been posting for a while

YANBU. But I think your friends mean well.

And may I say you do have alot on your plate but sound pretty amazing with it. I wish you and your family the best.

I can see that OP is ok now. Good, just ignore nasty comments and only take in those kind words from other nice MN posters. I was accused for being someone else on my 1st post for support here as well. I didn't take it seriously, but thinking they are silly! Don't they know that MNHQ can track each account IP address!! So they know who is genuine who isn't! I got both nasty and very helpful comments. I just ignore those bad one , and response to those helpful advise in which I am very grateful. Because of those advice I can sort out my frustration in a beneficial way. So...confirm...IGNORE them, there are plenty of nice people on MN who ready to give anyone sincere advice and supports.

Just read the whole thread.

WTF.

It's a MN car crash.

Time for bed.

Just read it too and in 8 years of lurking and occasional posting (not so much these days) I've never seen such an unpleasant thread, so much nastiness and so little wit.

[Closes thread in disgust and hides AIBU]

"MNHQ have confirmed that they have no reason to believe that the op is not genuine."

(Waits patiently for the apologies that will inevitably be coming the ops way . . . )

Thanks once again for all of the support, :D Oh well I'm glad MNHQ have backed me up..no surprise to me lol... I doubt there will be any apologies though. Still, it has all opened my eyes... will still be posting etc, I have far too much to say not to :D xxx

Must admit that the OP does seem a little odd. Not troll hunting, just a lot of kisses and :D but then that would be explained if she was new. I'm half expecting her to "hun".

Yeah, yeah kisses and smiles are a clear sign someone is odd.
Maybe in your world

Not at all starwisher, I use them too. But putting "xxxx" on the end of posts that clearly do not need any is odd. Almost seems deliberate.

Move along, no hunting to be had here

Who are you to tell me to move along? I have just as much right as you have to post on this thread where countless others have been a bit . Bloody hell. Who said I was "hunting" anyway, I think a declared I wasn't in my first post.

I think your implications are clear, why else bring up "suspicious" behaviour and talk about, an not too, the op on her own thread?

Excited, i will sometimes put xx at the end of a post if i am posting to someone who is upset or saying something they might not want to hear but trying to do it kindly, but im not very good with tact so find the xx works, but then im odd

I put kisses and smiles meant for the people who are nice... because it is a way to show appreciation....I do it at the end of all my texts, facebooking etc... I also call people hun (def try to be avoiding using that one on this site though) which to me is a term of endearment along with chicken, dudette and random other things that pop into my head... some people may find it offensive... I however don't!
It's also to show that even though there are so many comments trying to bring me down..I am still smiling.
Fuck me, if you are nice you are clearly upto something... The admin here have said that I am not fake etc... so why is this still being questioned?
Of courses my xxx and :D are deliberate.... otherwise why would I put them there?
There are apparently a few on this site who make it hard for people to show that they are well meaning... GRRRRRR.
like I keep saying, think what you will of me..I am STILL here justifying myself.. DAMMIT!!!
I am not getting into this that deeply again.. big massive hugs... yes I said it :O for the people that have bothered to reply to boost me up... and for the ones that are clearly in need.!!!!

She can do what the fuck she likes everlong, what the hell has it got to do with you??

Im going to start littering the boards with xxxx and huns for shits and giggles.

Take that MN police!

And again... why should I do something different? If people take offense...please you do NOT have to write or comment on my thread, it is usually pretty hard to know how to take something that is written...what tone of voice, what facial expressions if people are talking. I am positive and upbeat 98% of the time... that is who I am, even when I was feeling really shitty the other night, I was still taking the time to say thank you to people, I don't HAVE to put xx and smilies and hugs, you are right. But I choose to, I will also choose not to go onto other threads to criticise and accuse and generally make people feel defensive for what they have written when they are being genuine, I will write on things that I think I can help with, I guess this makes me an alien?