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Original poster

to think jailbird dp is bein selfish

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sickofshittynappies · 16/04/2012 22:57

my dp is in prison and for the past week has been doin my head right in maybe im just frustrated at the situation or is he just bein selfish? all he does is moan that hes stressed and that he needs money or new clothes etc etc ive explained to him that dts also needs all this stuff and i cant do it all they have to come first he then trys to guilt me into giving into him by saying i would be there for him and help him when he needs it and if i loved him i would aibu or is there any women that would do this for their dp in this situation?

and please ladies i dont really need a bashing tonight i know hes a plank but hes my plank nd i love him.

OP posts:
ExitPursuedByABear · 16/04/2012 22:59
IckleWedWidingHood · 16/04/2012 22:59

Not sure what you're asking really - could you tell us more?

LowFlyingBirds · 16/04/2012 23:00

He's being a twat, a selfish and whiny one at that, but you love him so....

Codandchops · 16/04/2012 23:00

YANBU, your DTs have to come first. Presumably he gets all the basics in jail and needs to understand that the chldren have the same needs and more.

TupperwareTwat · 16/04/2012 23:00

No

HateBeingCantDoUpMyJeans · 16/04/2012 23:02

Would I spend money on clothes for my dp who is in prison or on my children? The children of course.

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sickofshittynappies · 16/04/2012 23:02

what would u do in this situation give in to him or not i know there are some women that would rush out and get all the things hes askin for.

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LaurieFairyCake · 16/04/2012 23:04

How much money is he even allowed? £4 for a choccy bar?

How can he give a fuck what he wears - he's not in a fashion parade?

He IS a plank - you're doing the right thing by spending the money on the children - he needs nothing. Just cos he wants it doesn't mean he has to have it.

How long will he be away for?

squeakytoy · 16/04/2012 23:04

he is in prison, why does he need clothes? do they not provide him with some sort of "prisonware"?

BonkeyMollocks · 16/04/2012 23:05

Kids come first.

He fault he is inside. He gets the basic's and what he needs.

He sounds like a twat if he can't figure all that out for himself!

LaurieFairyCake · 16/04/2012 23:05

To answer you're question, you're right there are women who would give him money.

Do you really want to be one of those women (for those read fucking eejits)?

Fecklessdizzy · 16/04/2012 23:06

Why does he need new clothes in jail? Who is he trying to impress ... Hmm

ImperialBlether · 16/04/2012 23:06

Is he joking? I can't imagine you have a lot to live on, given that he's inside - does he really think you'd spend money on him? I'd take him a Mars Bar when I visited him and that'd be his lot.

ImperialBlether · 16/04/2012 23:06

It would depend why he was in, too. I might cut that down to a Milky Way.

LaurieFairyCake · 16/04/2012 23:07

Typo correction - first is your not you're.

Pandemoniaa · 16/04/2012 23:07

New clothes? Where's he serving time? HMP Saturday Night Fever?

ImperialBlether · 16/04/2012 23:07

Grin @ Saturday Night Fever.

Angelico · 16/04/2012 23:08
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sickofshittynappies · 16/04/2012 23:09

not even sure how much money hes allowed to spend i already send him ten pound a wk so he can call me so i personally think thats more than enough he gets everything he needs in there.

i think its just all about sheeps and shepards in there one has something so the other wants it its all about keepin up appearences.

hopefully he will be out within the next month or two.

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ImperialBlether · 16/04/2012 23:10

Will he cause problems for you if you don't buy him clothes?

ImperialBlether · 16/04/2012 23:11

Just thinking that when women are in prison, I can't imagine their partners taking them clothes. Their mums might and their sisters, but their partners? I very much doubt it.

squeakytoy · 16/04/2012 23:11

oh well, if he is going to be out soon, he can get something himself when he gets out..

TheSecondComing · 16/04/2012 23:11

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McHappyPants2012 · 16/04/2012 23:11

The children come first, it must be hard on all of you but he will get the basic in prison and don't have to worry about housing food and bills

lisad123 · 16/04/2012 23:12

Is he 12?