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The OFFICIAL buddy bench/naughty bench thread No. 6

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Teaandcakeplease · 02/08/2011 21:09

Come hither all those who haven't found their place on mumsnet, have scrapped in Aibu or crossed words in chat. The buddy bench shalt not judge.

The buddy bench will hand out wine and cakes, it will join you on your scoffathons getting pissed

All those who sit on the bench, will have their sins erased and be given a warm welcome and cheerful chat from CheerfulYank, gomummy, tiredmum, Elmo, valiumredhead and far, far too many more to mention.

Welcome to the buddy bench, we look forward to meeting you all Smile

Oh and don't forget, last one to leave polishes bench and locks up!

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CheerfulYank · 02/08/2011 22:40

Elmo, oh my God! I never say this, but holy fuck! I am beyond shocked that children would act that way. I just can't even believe it!

I think legal advice is the way to go. I wish I could be there, I really, really do.

Tiredmumno1 · 02/08/2011 23:10

my god elmo, i really hope you are ok, has it calmed down yet, and i so hope you called the police, that is disgusting, i am so angry for you, and they are bloody lucky i am not there to help you.

dh said if you need any help like if you want ds to come over here, he really is more than welcome to stay with us, we cant believe it to be honest, what the hell is wrong with people, i really am fuming AngryAngryAngry

please let us know how you are xxx

sending you all

elmofan · 02/08/2011 23:13

You are all so lovely - thank you xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

going to leave the dog to sleep outside in the back garden tonight (first time) because he is a great watchdog and would alert us if they try anything .

Tiredmumno1 · 02/08/2011 23:17

oh bless ya elmo, but its terrible they are making you live like that, are you from ireland originally if you are from what part - dh is asking as he is half irish, and what about this family are they irish and have they been there long?

dh says he will get the mccarthy clan down to help Smile

elmofan · 02/08/2011 23:22

lol Tiredmum I'm in north Co Dublin - Dubliner true & true born & bred.
wish i could just pack up and leave .

So unhappy living here .

Tiredmumno1 · 02/08/2011 23:26

dh's family live in the south co clare, this is the mccarthy household aswell Grin

maybe you should pack up and move over here, someone so needs to sort them idiots out, wht the hell are the parents pissing it up and not watching their kids, its a dreadful situation, and seriously if you need any help you just shout x

Tiredmumno1 · 02/08/2011 23:28

what and what the hell are the parents doing pissing it up - Blush sorry about that

elmofan · 02/08/2011 23:31

I'm worried that because i have contacted their landlord and filled him in on what they are doing if they find out things will turn nasty Sad
The landlord has promised to say nothing about our conversation and he is going to try get legal advice tomorrow . I feel really terrible for having to phone him but i just can't take any more Sad

CheerfulYank · 03/08/2011 01:42

You shouldn't have to feel terrible! It is beyond ridiculous that this has happened. What can their parents have doing to to raise children like this?

I would never ever ever have dreamed of doing/saying anything like that to an adult...I remember once my brother and some neighbor kids and I were being not very nice to an older lady in the neighborhood because she'd yelled at us for climbing in the tree near her house. Blush Nothing at all like what those kids were doing though! I think we just ran around in her yard or something. The minute my mother and father found out they sat us down and told us off one side and down the other about how ashamed they were of us and marched us over to beg forgiveness and offer to mow her lawn for the rest of our lives. Literally, we had to say that we would do her yardwork for the rest of our lives.

I would be beyong mortified if DS pulled something like this and believe me he would know it! I am just aghast. Poor you and your DCs! They must have been terrified. :( Really hope things have calmed down a bit and your landlord can kick them out soonest!

gomummygo · 03/08/2011 01:46

I'm so sorry I'm late, have had no internet until now. Oh Elmo :( That is HORRIBLE.

I am just so Angry for you. Understand how you would feel scared and shaky, it sounds very initimidating and awful. I wish there was ANYTHING I could do. I will be up for hours yet if you want to chat or pm me or whatever.

I am so sorry that you are going through this.

HairExtensions · 03/08/2011 02:10

Oh I can get on this thread, yay!

Elmo that is truly shocking behaviour. I hope you are okay xxxx Do you want to leave? Or are you otherwise happy there and its just those twonks that are making you so unhappy? Hopefully some landlord support will help sort it out.

Hello lovely ladies, how are you all?

HairExtensions · 03/08/2011 02:12

Jeez they are lucky tiredmum isn't there, she would kill them!

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Teaandcakeplease · 03/08/2011 09:34

How are things today Elmo? I can't believe the neighbours on the otherside may've caused things to escalate with the neighbours on the otherside Sad As you hadn't really had any problems with them until now had you? Are you still trying to sell the house? You've been trapped there for so long now with problems with the bully and your son, malicious untrue gossip and the friend across the road stirring too. It's all so awful for you Sad

Maybe you should take Tiredmum up on her offer? Wink

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CheerfulYank · 03/08/2011 12:38

Just checking in. How are things today, Elmo ?

elmofan · 03/08/2011 18:42

Hi

Just wanted to pop by and thank you all for being there for me last night [hugs]
Things still not great today their kids are still causing trouble. Trouble making neighbour and the local gossip are taking full advantage of the situation and standing outside our house laughing and nodding in at us . Dh has just pulled down the blind . Just want to hide away .

Tiredmumno1 · 03/08/2011 21:52

oh Elmo what the hell is wrong with them, i really am so peed off i am not there,

or maybe its a good thing i am not as HairExtensions said i would probably feel like killing them, well maybe not literally but i wouldnt be able to hold my temper thats for sure Angry

and of course the offer is still open if you need me Smile

hope everyone else is ok, cant wait for this weather to cool down, i am melting Grin

Tiredmumno1 · 03/08/2011 21:53
CheerfulYank · 03/08/2011 22:37

Mmmm, wine!

Can't believe them Elmo. What is their problem, exactly?!

elmofan · 03/08/2011 23:48

It's a long long story cheerful and its been going
on for over 5yrs now with the neighbour on my left.
I'll try find the thread i had on here when lovely tea
helped me try make sense of it all.
I'm on my phone in bed atm so if i find the thread I'll
pm you the link in the morning x

Tiredmum i'll pm you the link too x

gomummygo · 04/08/2011 01:52

Thanks Tiredmum, needed that.

Thinking of you. Wish I had more to offer. :(

Tiredmumno1 · 04/08/2011 20:35

Bumping for valium she is lost in the oblivion of mn lol

Be back in a little while x

valiumredhead · 04/08/2011 21:51

Elmo sweetheart you poor darling! I am truly shocked Shock Did you ring the police? Are you ok? Sad xxx

Is anyone on FB or email contact with elmo? Does anyone have an update, can you PM please if you do or I shall worry!

Thank you for bumping this tired :)

Tea Thank you for including my name in the OP - that's made me all warm and fuzzy Grin

:)

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Teaandcakeplease · 04/08/2011 22:06

Pleasure, you're a right regular now Wink x x x

Off to bed in a sec, as I'm shattered, just popped my head in to see what I'd missed Smile

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Tiredmumno1 · 04/08/2011 22:09

No probs valium Smile

Elmo if you do find the link send it on, i have been thinking about you all.

Grin

What a busy day!

elmofan · 04/08/2011 23:09

Hi . Things still very bad here :(
DD is very upset and scared . I can't leave the house at all now without abuse .
Sorry my original thread was over two years ago and must have been in chat as i can not find it now .
That was the thread i first got chatting with Tea Smile she then invited me to the bench . Don't suppose you might have saved that thread Tea ? Its a long shot i know but it would be a way of letting you all know my back story without having to type it all out again on board .

Think we need legal advice as their landlord is backtracking on his promise to help :(