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to have thought my sister in law might be a little bit enthusiastic

237 replies

CotswoldCountryMummy · 05/04/2011 17:10

It's our 10th wedding anniversary at the end of this year. Instead of a party, we thought it would be nice to hire an old vicarage for 14 friends and family. I phoned my SIL to run the idea by her, all excited as this place has lettle beds up in the eaves and is a childrens haven. She has always been very dour, sour and unforthcoming. She is always in a bad temper and snapping at the children. My MIL does everyting she can to make things nice, she bought a pony for SIL daughter, but all SIL does is whinge and moan about "That fucking pony" and is sour face about having to take her daughter riding. I don't think mIL needs this shit, as my FIL has motor neurone and is deteriorating.
I just thought it would be nice for us all to get together for a weekend in november. When i excitedly told my SIL about it, and how we have 10 other friends coming to stay too and what a fun night we would have on the saturday - all she could say was "Well, my kids won't go to sleep at 7.30pm." (our DD goes to sleep then - shes almost two)
Her children are 7 and 10. they run around until1 am.
AIBU it think that she might have shared my enthusiasm? That she might have silently thought - how nice to be invited, i'll make sure the girls stay upstairs because the staurdau night is their anniversary and no one wants kids running round when grown ups are having a bit of a drink/party. My DH was furious with me for inviting her. I just thought it would be a nice family thing to do.

OP posts:
usualsuspect · 06/04/2011 18:07

sock puppets everywhere

YouaretooniceNOT · 06/04/2011 18:10

YADNBU!
I think you sound a good person.

As somebody else here has said - time to stop trying with her now.

Good luck x

DontGoCurly · 06/04/2011 18:11

hedgefundwidow -OP's reputation preceeds her, as it were Hmm

Some think she lives..."under a bridge" Wink

atswimtwolengths · 06/04/2011 18:12

Hedgefund, I agree, this is bullying.

scaryteacher · 06/04/2011 18:15

Hedgefundwidow - read all the thread and then you'll understand. The deleted posts were the OP being rude and abusive. If you don't want an alternative point of view, or just want your ego stroked, then the AIBU board is not the place to post.

MrsBananaGrabber · 06/04/2011 18:18

There can be bullying on MN but I don't think it applies to this thread.

DontGoCurly · 06/04/2011 18:24

OP yabvu to not realise we know thread is a big hoax Hmm

BitOfFun · 06/04/2011 18:26

Yes, I was a bit Hmm at the early rudeness of the posts (and still am, to be fair), but I realise now that the OP is quite capable of rubbing people up the wrong way all by herself.

MardyBra · 06/04/2011 18:41

I wonder if the SIL is on MN!

hedgefundwidow · 06/04/2011 18:41

youaretoonice and atswimtwolengths - refreshing to hear like minded opinions This is blatant bullying. Does she know about this? How do you go about reporting it? I started a RUDE MOTHER thread, and they're all lovely on there.
If the person who posted got "Rude and abusive" i can't say i blame her. I would lose patience with this nonsense aswell.

From an outsider looking in, it seems there is more than a touch of the green eyed monster in the lot of you. Dear oh dear.

suburbophobe · 06/04/2011 18:45

I am trying to do my best for everyone

Maybe time to give that up and stop trying to "fix" everybody's lives

Honestly, the peace is wonderful! Smile

usualsuspect · 06/04/2011 18:45

There is a report button

hedgefundwidow · 06/04/2011 18:46

i have reported this bullying. Assuming you are WOMEN, not children, you should be ashamed of yourselves. I am disgusted.

DontGoCurly · 06/04/2011 18:49

I'm callingshennaingans on this thread!

as you were!

usualsuspect · 06/04/2011 18:51

Don'tgoCurly I think its fairly obvious

but then I did from the start

DontGoCurly · 06/04/2011 18:56

Fair play to you usual suspect....me too Wink

Etalb · 06/04/2011 19:01

What a fantastic thread way better than that Eastenders crap! Is cotswoldcountrymummy really so perfect? Is the SiL really so vile? Will the usualsuspect be subject to her wrath again? Or arrested for cyber abuse? Can't wait for the next episode.
Btw anyone with such a twat like name as the op deserves a good old flame fest IMO.

scaryteacher · 06/04/2011 19:04

hfw - this is AIBU - some thought she was and told her so. Read the caveats at the top of AIBU.

I am tempted to call shennigans as you put it Don't Go, on Hedge Fund Widow as well, unless she is really Jilly Cooper, having read the RudeMother thread.

Etalb · 06/04/2011 19:21

Rudemother thread very good reading too!

reelingintheyears · 06/04/2011 20:21

Have just been reading Rude Mother.....Grin

TaudrieTattoo · 06/04/2011 20:45

I just want to know what colour the MIL's hair is...

DontGoCurly · 06/04/2011 20:45

What is Rude Mother?

usualsuspect · 06/04/2011 20:51

trashy novel

gordyslovesheep · 06/04/2011 20:54

goodness what a marvelous freakoid Grin

merrywidow · 06/04/2011 21:02

Fucking Marvelous!

DPs got fabulously entertaining footie, and I have this!

Was the pony definitely in the cuntyside?

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