to have thought my sister in law might be a little bit enthusiastic

[CotswoldCountryMummy]

It's our 10th wedding anniversary at the end of this year. Instead of a party, we thought it would be nice to hire an old vicarage for 14 friends and family. I phoned my SIL to run the idea by her, all excited as this place has lettle beds up in the eaves and is a childrens haven. She has always been very dour, sour and unforthcoming. She is always in a bad temper and snapping at the children. My MIL does everyting she can to make things nice, she bought a pony for SIL daughter, but all SIL does is whinge and moan about "That fucking pony" and is sour face about having to take her daughter riding. I don't think mIL needs this shit, as my FIL has motor neurone and is deteriorating.
I just thought it would be nice for us all to get together for a weekend in november. When i excitedly told my SIL about it, and how we have 10 other friends coming to stay too and what a fun night we would have on the saturday - all she could say was "Well, my kids won't go to sleep at 7.30pm." (our DD goes to sleep then - shes almost two)
Her children are 7 and 10. they run around until1 am.
AIBU it think that she might have shared my enthusiasm? That she might have silently thought - how nice to be invited, i'll make sure the girls stay upstairs because the staurdau night is their anniversary and no one wants kids running round when grown ups are having a bit of a drink/party. My DH was furious with me for inviting her. I just thought it would be a nice family thing to do.

Ha there are some people on here who would almost be funny if they weren't so unpleasant! I can see why you got snappy with one or two OP.

Changing2011, do you have some sort of problem with Le Creuset?! I think that you and usualsuspect are cliches of one kind or another too... and I know which cliche I would rather be!

wannabe I can assure you I have never come accross this poster in my life.

I jsut do not like weekend house parties.

'USUAL SUSPECT - maybe i don't like YOU very much, you boring,juvenile moron. You should be called USUAL IRRITATING GOBSHI*E WITH NOTHING INTERESTING TO SAY. Jog on FFS'

yes the op is very pleasant

CCM - if you all can't get on for an afternoon dinner, in my opinion you are asking for trouble to put people who don't get on into an enclosed house situation for a weekend.

Pressure cooker springs to mind.

REALLY not a good idea.

Fight fire with fire and all that...

would you all like to read my posts ..previous to this outburst please

I wasn't rude at all! I just asked some questions and made some observations to help the OP think it through.

OP, maybe you should have posted in Relationships to get a more measured response.

If I am really, really, really honest, there is a woman I know very well. (DH's cousin) who is so bloody perfect and everything she touches is perfect and she's so giving and caring and does volunteering and stuff and she gets on my nerves. She has never done anything to me. She isn't snide nor is she nasty but the truth is, I just don't like her because she's so bloody nice and perfect. I'm quite ashamed of it and this is my first real admission!

i said maybe she doesn't want to come
and maybe she doesn't like you

where is the name calling there?

no perhaps not wf but there are certainly some on here who appear to have come here specifically to name-call. I suspect that changing whats her name and cotswald cunty mummy are the same poster, for instance. There's simply no need for that.

no Jade I really love boiling my children in Le Crueset, only the best for my little darlings.

Im not Cotwald Cunty Mummy by the way. Guess again!

come on jade80 ...

where is my name calling previous to her out burst ?

So if you aren't changing then who is?

CCM - brilliant wind up, you had me till your second last post.

I bow to your utter fab-ness.

LOL I went to answer the phone and came back to this!

OP's last few posts are hilarious. What's with all the swearing? Sounds like her SIL's not the only one with a problem.

Poor pathetic MIL no one will stick up for her in her own family so it's up to righteous DIL to save the day. BOAK. Come off it luv, even the flattest pancake has two sides.

Really get the Fuck Over Yourself.

And she did call me a moron cries

Sorry op. Im sure your tarts vicarage party will be lovely. And your SIL will be there with an air of dutiful boredom like normal so you can carry on feeling like shes jealous of you.

I dunno JoB. (looks for Columbo coat).

I dont understand why UsualSuspect saying that maybe the SIL doesnt like you is so offensive?

Maybe she doesnt and maybe that is why she behaves the way she does to you and around you. Who knows? All you can be sure of is that she does behave like that and you either have to put up with it or avoid it by not inviting her.

And I wouldnt particularly relish the type of weekend you are planning. For some people it would be a delight, for others it would be a nightmare. YABVU to expect everyone to feel the same as you about what you like to do and for everyone to be as excited about your anniversary as you. It is YOU that has been married 10 years, not anyone else, so frankly apart from the odd "congratulations" I think you are expecting a bit much.

As for your ridiculously childish comments and tantrums on here, you asked AIBU and some people think you are! If you may not like the answer then dont ask the question! Are you this spoilt and nasty in RL? That would go along way to explaining your SIL attitude towards you!

Just thinking outside of the box.

How well behaved are her DC's? I wonder if shes doing the defensive because she's worried that they'll misbehave and doesn't want your friends seeing that?

(have a friend in the same situ - but will come with just me as I just let it all go over my head iyswim?)

CotswaldCuntyMummy - you have got serious problems. Take yourself off somewhere quiet and have a word with yourself. Seriously.

Are CotswaldCuntyMummy and CotswaldCountryMummy the same person? I'm confused.

Me too Millie