Would it be kind to take treats in after an awkward comment?

[ForMerryPinkCat]

I saw the most awkward situation at work today and have to share it because I keep thinking about it.

I work in a small team and we had a new person start today who unfortunately seems to have foot in mouth syndrome.

She's already accidentally insulted the business owner by making a bad joke about his car. (He's a farmer and drives a mildly battered pick up)

She then made a thoughtless remark because I put a spoonful of sugar in my coffee. Fat people shouldn't have sugar, apparently.

The thing that's making me cringe is a conversation I only got the last bit off but it was awful.

The business owner's wife also work for the business. New hire said "sorry, I have CDO. It's OCD but the letters are in alphabetical order like they should be."

That's cringe enough but it was incredibly awkward and horrible because the couple who own the business have a teenager daughter who has been suffering very badly from (diagnosed) OCD and is currently in hospital because of it.

Would it be weird if I took a few treats in tomorrow? They're both lovely people and the family has been through so much I'd like to do something to show them we care!

Why ask us, then?

There’s a post from the OP saying the owners want to give the newbie a ‘fair chance’ or some such rubbish so it does sound like they are refusing to deal with it.

You’d be out the door in a second if you were calling other employees fat where I work in your first week.

They've only had her in their employ for four days! Give them a chance. (It is still the first week.)

At what point does calling another member of staff fat a conduct issue which needs to be managed properly by the owners of the business (who are responsible for providing a safe and respectful workplace for all their staff) in your opinion?

Luckily, where I’ve worked, making comments about other people’s weight would be dealt with straight away. The OP and her colleagues are presumably adults at work, with a right not to be bullied about their weight and they don’t need to fawn all over and appease their bosses (who are failing in their responsibilities) with cake like they are toddlers who need to be soothed. Just do their jobs and manage this woman properly!

Given that everyone has unsuccessfully challenged the new employee about her rudeness I think it is only right that the employer has to step in.

I agree that it is now up to the employers to get rid of this pest, but I do feel that insulting the OP for wanting to cheer everyone up with brownies in the break room, accusing her of sucking up to her bosses for providing a treat for everyone, and castigating the bosses for not having thrown out the new employee after her first day, is being rather extreme.

Totally agree @AskingQuestionsAllTheTime

She hasn't been invited back for another week.

I'm extremely relieved because it's the most unpleasant week I've had in this job. She was a vastly unpleasant woman and spoiled the vibe for the entire team.

Friday's treat was chocolate chip cookies 😆

I am very glad for you. Not for the horrible week, but because it's so good that it has stopped.