Do your children call your brother in law uncle ?

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Does it depend on how close they are, if they see them frequently?
I'm a bit surprised to hear the neice of my sil refer to my brother as her uncle.
The neice is an adult in her 40s , wasn't close to my brother
First time I've heard her use the word.
It's in connection with selling the house he lived in with his wife.

Is it also childish to refer to your parents as mum and dad, or your grandparents as grandma/granddad?

Ha ha - I had a close Nigerian friend at school and the day I graduated from calling her Mrs S to ‘Auntie’ was a big day!

I do and did call them uncle as does DS. It was very common in the working class community I grew up in. No way did I call any adult the same age as my parents by their first name!

H’s niece and nephews call me auntie still even though they’re in their 20s and I’ve said they don’t have to.

Where I grew up, all my mum’s friends (the neighbours) and her aunts and uncles were Auntie Joan or whatever to me and my brother. It was too formal to talk about Great Auntie Joan, etc! It was only when I was an adult myself, that we started to call them by their first names.

my adult niece had nephew call me aunty, they don't call DH uncle but they were 10-12 when we got together and have never seen much of him. it wouldn't bother me if they did, it's just about respect.

however, you clearly think it's manipulative to try and get money which is obviously different

Yes all aunts and uncles and all BIL’ and SIL’s no matter if they are blood relatives or not.

Well my BIL is biologically my children’s uncle (their dad’s brother), so obviously they do. But I also call the men who are married to my mum’s sisters my uncles. They are my uncles through marriage.

I use it for all my aunts and uncles still, as far as I know they all like it - it's something not everyone can call them, so it seems to nice to recognise the special relationship. My adult kids use it too, for their and our aunts and uncles.

My dad pretends to be highly offended on the rare occasion I call him by his first name. I wouldn't dare try it with my mum.

Yes this is me exactly.

Uncle and first name

My DH, who is now in his 60s, still calls his auntie and her DH ‘Auntie’ and ‘Uncle’. I don’t, but I think this is because I only got to know them when I was in my early 30s when I got to know them. I don’t think they mind either way; we have a lovely relationship with them.