Do your children call your brother in law uncle ?

[limetrees32]

Does it depend on how close they are, if they see them frequently?
I'm a bit surprised to hear the neice of my sil refer to my brother as her uncle.
The neice is an adult in her 40s , wasn't close to my brother
First time I've heard her use the word.
It's in connection with selling the house he lived in with his wife.

Depends on the closeness I guess. I, in conversation, still refer to my aunt’s partner as Uncle Danny, they split up years ago.

Of course they do, but then practically every adult is aunty or uncle (unless old, in which case they're a grandma or grandpa). I remember first feeling like a proper adult when a neighbour kid referred to me as aunty (talking to her sibling " ask that aunty over there to tie your shoelaces")

I’ve only ever heard on Mumsnet that couples only refer to themselves as aunt/uncle if they are blood relatives. My dn are my nieces even if we are not related by blood

All my blood aunts and uncles died some time ago. I still have an aunt and uncle by marriage (different marriages) refer to them as such. They are 86 and 90 respectively and I am 61.

That is the usual name - sibling of parent and their spouse is officially aunty/uncle.

Actually none of DH's sisters' DC call me aunty, but all his sisters are 25y+ older than him and so the DC were all adults/teenagers when I met them so it would have been a bit strange.

do you feel the niece is trying to muscle in on your inheritance @limetrees32

Yes, of course. I have two brother in laws-my husband’s brother and my sister’s husband. My children call both of them uncle.

What would you suggest they call them?

(They just call me my first name. And DH TBF - they don't call him "Uncle John" either, he has just always been "John, my uncle")

OP- what else would they be called? Bob, Keith? Mr Jones? My aunties husband??? 😕

Yes because he is their uncle

Yes of course

Also family friends who are not blood relatives - they are aunt and uncle too

Oh my kids had Aunty XXX and soon-to-be Uncle YYY. Eldest was 10 but still called hi. Uncle after the marriage.

My sister's children call me by my first name and my DH "Uncle X". And I'm the blood relative! I'd love to be "Auntie" but it's never caught on.

My children only use first names for all aunt/uncles but certainly think of the spouses of their actual aunts/uncles as the same - and would say "my aunt, rachel" rather than "my uncle's wife, Rachel"

They obviously sensed you wanted it too much

Children are little gits like that

A friend of mine cried the first time she was called Auntie in a nightclub 😂
So interesting how these titles differ between cultures.

I used to call my BIL (Dsis’ husband)’s nana by ‘Nana -name-’

And my Husband’s nana is also ‘Nana -name-’

It’s normal in my family to use those names for spouses of aunts and uncles. I have an auntie by marriage and I never even met her husband (my mum’s brother). But I’ve always called her auntie.

My own children call my brother’s wife auntie.

It's not a thing for DD because there isn't anyone of that relationship but when I was growing up I jad aunts and uncles who were my parents siblings and their spouse was also aunt and uncle.

I can't imagine it any other way. If my DH"s sister does ever have children I'd honestly be devastated if I wasn't considered to be their auntie.

i call people auntie and uncle who are not related at all 🤣

I have another thread over in legal @Hotmess101 .
Id only ever heard the neice call my brother by his first name
I guess she was about 10 when my brother married.

Errr what else would you call them?! I’m confused!

Yes when they are married before birth.

My DN and DS don’t call my SIL auntie.

Although Tbf we just use first names anyway so it doesn’t really matter and they do actually buy her auntie cards!

Yes

If she’s just started doing it now it probably feels manipulative to you. And may well be.