Do your children call your brother in law uncle ?

[limetrees32]

Does it depend on how close they are, if they see them frequently?
I'm a bit surprised to hear the neice of my sil refer to my brother as her uncle.
The neice is an adult in her 40s , wasn't close to my brother
First time I've heard her use the word.
It's in connection with selling the house he lived in with his wife.

We called all of them by their first names. However if we spoke about them to someone else we’d call the ‘my aunt and uncle’ .

Of course they do! I’ve never seen otherwise

Yeah OP.. you’re the odd one.

Yes

That’s not what I thought the Op was talking about at all. AB isn’t the uncle by any stretch

My family seem to refused to call my DH uncle for siblings kids.

I'm the only married sibling and my kids never met the partners of siblings - their choice not mine - and not stayed round beyond a few years so not come up with my DC what to call them.

Odd thing is when I was a child family did thing of insisting family friends were refered to as aunt/uncle by kids.

So in your scenario…

We have two brothers (Grant and Phil).
Grant marries Tiffany.
Phil marries Kathy.

Phil and Kathy’s son Ben would call Grant uncle and Tiffany Aunty.

Ben wouldn’t call Tiffany’s brother (Simon?!) uncle as he isn’t his uncle.

Yes. And my sister in law, they call Auntie.

This! Family is definitely more than DNA

Yes definitely. Even as an adult my mum's siblings' wives are auntie. My children's uncles wives are also called auntie x

Second sentence of the OP I'm a bit surprised to hear the neice of my sil refer to my brother as her uncle which was what I tried to explain, and you've put in your second post. Even if OP is one of the brothers, he's still not related to SILs neice unless he's married to SIL.

Yes, amd so did we as children. IMO it’s normal.

The op has a brother. The brother is married (to SIL) and SIL has a niece (SIL’s sister or brother’s daughter).

If that daughter is SIL’s niece, it’s the brother’s niece as well. No relation to OP though.

In our family wed generally stop addressing them, in person as "uncle" after the age of about 10, and just call by first name.
But would still refer to them as uncle if mentioned in conversation with someone else eg im going to a bbq at my aunt and uncles

I grew up even calling the neighbours Aunt and Uncle and shock, horror.....we are white.

I still call dad's sisters ex husband uncle but her current husband by his commonly used nickname (as does my cousin).

Things have changed but when i was a child ( born in1973) most of my parents friends were known aunty or uncle sometimes even random neighbours

No, my kids don’t.
Uncle Al & Sue (not aunty Sue)
Aunty Mag & Brian etc
We just use first names for everyone so in reality nobody get called uncle/aunt.

I only had one aunt and her husband was uncle so I’ve no idea why we did that.
Dh uses only names for his too.

Bit childish for an adult to use Aunty Mary instead of Mary, no?

I’ve always been Aunty Lizzie to my BIL and SIL’s 5 DC (now all adults). And my DH has always been Uncle to my DSis and BIL’s 3 joint DC. My DSis’s DSS has never called us that, though, which is fine.

My oldest DNiece (one of BIL and SIL’s DC) was married this weekend. I’ve been there right through her life and she definitely sees me as her aunty. She looked stunning.

Me too most of the neighbours and the playgroup ladies too. I thought it was a white working class thing of that era (I don’t think kids where I grew up do that now).

And yes I’m in my 50s and still call my aunts Aunty (and I call DH’s aunts Anti Sue etc, because that’s the way they all pronounce it)

We always called neighbours Mr and Mrs So and So.
However my own dcs would usually call any close friends/neighbours by their first names. But never Auntie or Uncle.

When I lived in a Middle Eastern country it was usual to call someone whose name you didn’t know, sister, brother, aunt, uncle, grandfather, grandmother, etc. according to age and sex.
Locals wanting a favour would come into my office saying, ‘Sister…’.
I liked it.
(Nowadays I’d be Grandmother!)

My kids would describe them as their aunts and uncles if talking to others about them, but they call all of their Aunts and Uncles just by their first name.

That.makes sense .
It was the use of the word Uncle to a third party that jarred .
But that's because I'd only ever heard the first name used

Bit childish for an adult to use Aunty Mary instead of Mary, no?

No.
Perfectly normal.
Just like people continue to call their Grandparents 'Gran and Grandad' if they are lucky enough to have them as adults, or 'Mom / Mam / Mum and Dad' for their parents. Aunty Mary is still her 'name' as it always was.

I don’t think I could just call my uncle John simply John. Just wouldn’t be right. I don’t know him as John. Uncle John is his name!!