Omg I shagged the vicar

[Lapdog78]

BC for this one!!

last summer I moved to a new village with my 2 teen DC’s following my divorce. I’ve made a real effort to integrate into village life and joined a cycling group which I love.

a couple of new members joined a few months ago, one of whom is the vicar from a nearby parish. He’s 39 single. I’m 43.

on Friday we all met for drinks snd I ended Ho inviting a group back to my house. Kids are away with their dad. We all had a few more drinks at my house before people started heading home. There’s been a little bit of flirtation between me and the vicar and it ended up just me and him- we had some more wine and he was being very complimentary and was clearly trying it on. We ended up kissing and I’m afraid that I ended up shagging him on my kitchen sofa. Very out of character for me.

im now mortified that I have to see him at cycle meet this week. My friends think it’s hilarious but im worried he’ll think I’m loose and common. 😲

Yes, sofas in kitchens are common as dert.

Probably there to witness the second coming 😇

Vicars are human too. This may be hard work, but try to behave as though nothing happened, but be friendly and open to the relationship progressing if it feels right. I hope you both had a great evening!

Could be now you mention it, but I thought some might have picked up on the coming down part.

Actually, this both funny and accurate. New parishioner in a village, male vicar in a cycling club, his precise age. Quite a lot of identifying information there. What’s the betting that village parishioners everywhere are now going to try to look into the kitchen’s of single women newbies to see if there’s a sofa? 😂

OP, if a neighbour ‘pops around’ with fairy cakes, they are not just being friendly 😀

I don't know about loose and common, but probably loose lipped if you've gone round telling everyone and he's now a joke. What ever happened to discretion?

I wouldn’t have boasted about it if it were me!

Or, 'more D vicar'

It’s only the fornication that keeps him off the sin of Onan.

Given you are single and presumably (?) not a practising Christian, sounds fine to me.

Given he is in a position of leadership and is a practising Christian, I think his behaviour isn't right. Although we are all human of course. I also know a variety of vicars/Christians - some don't even believe in God, whereas for others sex outside of marriage would lead to lots of difficult guilty feelings and issues.

I do think yabvu to share it with all your friends and the internet.

@Allseeingallknowing I wouldn't have thought so. The Bishops like them married off quickly if there's a sniff of a family in the vicarage.
The intended wife would be sitting in the congregation.

Make sure you count them out on your rosary 😂

@Lapdog78 Not many women will have Vicar on the bingo card! Has he not even sent a text?

'keeping it in his cassock ' as aposed to trousers.

Living the Fleabag dream for us all 😂

Good for you!! 😀😀 you are both free and single!! fair play!!

What denomination is he?! i feel we ought to know this before judging him for breaking his religious vows. Maybe it’s allowed.

I do have a lot of sympathy with this view. Vicars should not be coming onto single women and shagging them. If you are paid to represent your religion you should be trying to uphold its teachings, and that includes making sacrifices for your religion.

I mean, he’s not the plumber or milkman is he?

In his capacity of Vicar he is dealing on a daily basis with vulnerable people. Do you really think a man who has taken religious orders but goes round drinking and then having sex with random women in their homes is a fit person to be helping vulnerable people?
To my mind this is similar to the police officers who prey on vulnerable women and use their position to have sex with them.

Hallelujah! Good for you.

"How was it for you, my learned friend?"

Please tell me the first thing you said after the deed was done was "More tea, vicar?" 😁

Same, as long as he’s Anglican then fill your, erm, boots. Or indeed your kitchen sofa.

I didn’t realise OP was vulnerable. I missed that bit.

To be honest, this also crossed my mind. Although OP did say he was from a nearby parish and not HER vicar, he simply attended the same cycling club. And his occupation just happened to be "vicar"

You better hope the population picks up soon then or King Charles may order fornication under his command.

Assume you are without sin yourself to cast such stones.