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Omg I shagged the vicar

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Lapdog78 · 31/08/2026 13:21

BC for this one!!

last summer I moved to a new village with my 2 teen DC’s following my divorce. I’ve made a real effort to integrate into village life and joined a cycling group which I love.

a couple of new members joined a few months ago, one of whom is the vicar from a nearby parish. He’s 39 single. I’m 43.

on Friday we all met for drinks snd I ended Ho inviting a group back to my house. Kids are away with their dad. We all had a few more drinks at my house before people started heading home. There’s been a little bit of flirtation between me and the vicar and it ended up just me and him- we had some more wine and he was being very complimentary and was clearly trying it on. We ended up kissing and I’m afraid that I ended up shagging him on my kitchen sofa. Very out of character for me.

im now mortified that I have to see him at cycle meet this week. My friends think it’s hilarious but im worried he’ll think I’m loose and common. 😲

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Doozycan · 31/08/2026 19:17

Lapdog78 · 31/08/2026 13:21

BC for this one!!

last summer I moved to a new village with my 2 teen DC’s following my divorce. I’ve made a real effort to integrate into village life and joined a cycling group which I love.

a couple of new members joined a few months ago, one of whom is the vicar from a nearby parish. He’s 39 single. I’m 43.

on Friday we all met for drinks snd I ended Ho inviting a group back to my house. Kids are away with their dad. We all had a few more drinks at my house before people started heading home. There’s been a little bit of flirtation between me and the vicar and it ended up just me and him- we had some more wine and he was being very complimentary and was clearly trying it on. We ended up kissing and I’m afraid that I ended up shagging him on my kitchen sofa. Very out of character for me.

im now mortified that I have to see him at cycle meet this week. My friends think it’s hilarious but im worried he’ll think I’m loose and common. 😲

Thats a comedy carry on movie bloody ell you gotta laugh. The dirty vicar clearly thinks he's still 'got it' and he didnt even have to egg you on!

RainRainKeepComing · 31/08/2026 19:18

Was he wearing Lycra for the ride?

SpareMe · 31/08/2026 19:19

Nobody knows except you and him. You are both single. I don’t suppose he will advertise the fact but hypothetically, if he did, who cares. He’s a vicar who shagged a divorcee out of wedlock, hypocritical much!

He would be doubly so if he in anyway characterised YOU as loose

bananaobama · 31/08/2026 19:19

What was it like? 😁

RainRainKeepComing · 31/08/2026 19:20

SpareMe · 31/08/2026 19:19

Nobody knows except you and him. You are both single. I don’t suppose he will advertise the fact but hypothetically, if he did, who cares. He’s a vicar who shagged a divorcee out of wedlock, hypocritical much!

He would be doubly so if he in anyway characterised YOU as loose

Read all her posts.
She's told all her friends. Supposedly.

FunCrab · 31/08/2026 19:21

Bless you my child!
And he has bestowed an extra blessing on/in you.
You are now blessed ++.

SpareMe · 31/08/2026 19:22

I’m not religious but my home village had a “trendy vicar” who always had a harem of young female parishioners around him. Marvellous entertainment.

You should watch “falling” on tv and don’t give yourself such a hard time. You aren’t a nun.

Timmydoesstuff · 31/08/2026 19:24

Why are people so shocked a vicar would have unprotected sex? He's a man! Men don't stop being men just because they believe in God. Actually, some of the worst men in history were very God-fearing.

I have met 2 men that wanted to be vicars in my life. Both were very clear that they wanted it for the perks rather than a desire to serve God.

comeoncolleen · 31/08/2026 19:24

EmeraldShamrock000 · 31/08/2026 18:50

Agreed. However this man is a vicar, that should be enough to make his devotion clear. He’s not Joe Bloggs who attends mass once a month.

Church of England is a funny old mixture these days with a big variation in what is considered acceptable.

SpareMe · 31/08/2026 19:25

RainRainKeepComing · 31/08/2026 19:20

Read all her posts.
She's told all her friends. Supposedly.

Who has time to read every post in a really long thread?

But that was a judgement error.

Feeling a bit more pity for the vicar now.

going to have to style it out.

OneNewEagle · 31/08/2026 19:28

Don’t tell anyone else OP and delete the thread. You don’t want to ruin his career/calling. I’m also hoping it leads to a great relationship for you both.

Timmydoesstuff · 31/08/2026 19:28

Also highly recommend the Netflix documentary The Pastor's Wife for anyone that thinks religious men are any different.

researchers3 · 31/08/2026 19:31

Lapdog78 · 31/08/2026 13:21

BC for this one!!

last summer I moved to a new village with my 2 teen DC’s following my divorce. I’ve made a real effort to integrate into village life and joined a cycling group which I love.

a couple of new members joined a few months ago, one of whom is the vicar from a nearby parish. He’s 39 single. I’m 43.

on Friday we all met for drinks snd I ended Ho inviting a group back to my house. Kids are away with their dad. We all had a few more drinks at my house before people started heading home. There’s been a little bit of flirtation between me and the vicar and it ended up just me and him- we had some more wine and he was being very complimentary and was clearly trying it on. We ended up kissing and I’m afraid that I ended up shagging him on my kitchen sofa. Very out of character for me.

im now mortified that I have to see him at cycle meet this week. My friends think it’s hilarious but im worried he’ll think I’m loose and common. 😲

You definitely integrated!!

Are vicars supposed to shag about?! Surely he's the loose one?! 😁

Do you like him? Any chance of romance?

DannyDeever · 31/08/2026 19:34

bafta16 · 31/08/2026 19:00

What a load of old nonsense.

Cycling club?

Yeah, because the cycling club is definately the unusual part of this story! 🤣

HaveYouSeenThatLadysHat · 31/08/2026 19:34

Op there's not much in life as fun as shagging someone new when you're both single. Either make a nice memory of it or a habit and enjoy!

AstonCanKissMyArse · 31/08/2026 19:36

Allseeingallknowing · 31/08/2026 18:51

Lapdog- he could get into serious trouble, even dismissed. If he’d been the GP he’d have been struck off. You shouldn’t have told anybody!

Maybe he shouldn't have done it?

Why should OP be responsible for keeping his secrets? Although this thread seems like a bad idea for her as well.

Emptyandsad · 31/08/2026 19:37

You'll have to turn up to the next cycle club outing on a tandem

CroissantsByTheSeine · 31/08/2026 19:38

PurplebudsWhitebuds · 31/08/2026 15:23

She doesn't sound very vulnerable. But how do we know because the only information is what she included in this thread.

But if he is open to having sex on a casual basis presumably OP isn't the only woman he has had sex with and we have no idea about what his standards are as regards who choses to have sex with. He certainly doesn't come over as somebody with any principles.

Edited

You are jumping to an awful lot of conclusions here.

F63C · 31/08/2026 19:41

PenelopeAsks · 31/08/2026 13:42

It’s a bit ‘more v vicar’ than more tea.🤣

😆

SillyGooseyGander · 31/08/2026 19:41

bananaobama · 31/08/2026 19:19

What was it like? 😁

I need to know too. Was it actually good sex?

Also, op, I applaud you 👏 I'm kind of hoping the two of you make this a regular thing and you get married and live happily ever after. But even if you don't, you have one amazing anecdote to dine out on for years.

Also applause for your holy sex metaphors.

F63C · 31/08/2026 19:42

HaveYouSeenThatLadysHat · 31/08/2026 19:34

Op there's not much in life as fun as shagging someone new when you're both single. Either make a nice memory of it or a habit and enjoy!

Habit? I think you mean surplice.😆

HarshbutTrue2 · 31/08/2026 19:42

tsmainsqueeze · 31/08/2026 16:57

Did he keep his dog collar on😆

He was probably wearing lycra. Or cycling shorts.
They don't wear dog collars off duty.

HaveYouSeenThatLadysHat · 31/08/2026 19:43

F63C · 31/08/2026 19:42

Habit? I think you mean surplice.😆

Hahaha!

Op ai love this thread and actually I want to know, do you like him? Do you think this could be the start of a romance?

NotMeAtAll · 31/08/2026 19:46

I have had a lot of involvement with a cathedral choir and have heard all sorts. I doubt this is an unusual occurrence.

cadburyegg · 31/08/2026 19:50

This is hilarious OP

May I live vicariously through you??