Advice am I being unreasonable due to illness
I've been unwell for the past few days, bedridden with an awful chest infection.
I work 60 hours a week and have two children that to various activities each week, life is pretty busy,
I've been married for 20 years and for the last few it feels like my husband has checked out of our relationship, he's a good dad when it comes to the practice things but doesn't show much emotion warmth to either me or the children,
In the last few days of being bedridden he hasn't once check in on me, not once asked if I need anything he's just left me to rot, luckily the kids have been lovely and have made sure I e got drinks and have taken my medication, I was feeling a little better this morning so asked him why he hasn't even checked in, he told me that I need to think about others not just myself,
That's hurt more than the not checking in to be honest, I'm constantly considering others like most mums juggling everything to make sure everyone has what they need when they need it,
I do love him but I don't think I can spend the next 40 years of my life with someone so selfish, he considers himself somewhat of a hero and portrays this to others but with me and the kids he's grumpy and miserable 99% of the time, I'm scared of ending the relationship because I don't want the kids to be upset but I really can't see this working