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He’s hit me and I don’t know what to do

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ThinkINeedHelp · 15/06/2025 23:01

I’m crying and I probably won’t make much sense but please try to help me see straight.
Had an awful evening. I know it started as my fault. I was cross as trying to house train two puppies but it’s been a bad day with them today. I was a bit annoyed and swore. I didn’t swear at anyone, it was a case of oh ffs, this is getting ridiculous.

He was angry with me and we argued. It’s eventually ended up with him grabbing my wrists, shoving me against the bedroom wall and then hitting me in the face. My nose hurts, so does my shoulder.

I’m now going to be homeless. I’ve no family, no friends anymore, don’t work and I live in his house. I’m so utterly pathetic.i can’t drive as I’ve had two glasses of wine but come tomorrow I’ll have to leave.
I’ve allowed myself to end up in this position , I’m in my late 50’s and I can’t believe I’ve been so bloody stupid.

OP posts:
Nottogetapenny · 27/06/2025 07:22

Happy Birthday Hope you have a lovely day. 🌺🎁🍫🎈🎂😘

Youllnevergetabetterbitofbutteronyourknife · 27/06/2025 08:00

Happy birthday lovely lady! 🎈 🎁🎂🎉 I truly hope you enjoy your first freedom birthday! 😘

CRCGran · 27/06/2025 08:01
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Happy birthday OP...... have a great day.

Pashazade · 27/06/2025 08:05

Happy Birthday OP, hope you have a truly lovely day. 🎉🍝🍦🎂🍸🎉

PeggyMitchellsCameo · 27/06/2025 08:09

You’ve found freedom is the very best gift,
Your stepbrother has helped this first shift,
With just a passport in hand,
You’ve reformed the band,
With some MN support as a lift.

A wonderful future awaits,
You’ve already opened the gates,
To future adventures,
No washing HIS dentures,
We raise a glass on this most special of dates.

Open the windows and let out a scream,
Because you can this isn’t a dream,
Sod what the neighbours think,
Sod dishes left in the sink,
You have just joined your very own team.

Have a weekend of incredible bliss,
Give blocked numbers a resolute miss,
Another year around the sun,
The next one will be all about fun,
Happy Birthday, enjoy a BBQ chef’s kiss!

Have a wonderful day, OP!

FamBae · 27/06/2025 08:14

Happy Birthday OP 💐🍾🥂

CoffeeBreak8 · 27/06/2025 08:24

PeggyMitchellsCameo · 27/06/2025 08:09

You’ve found freedom is the very best gift,
Your stepbrother has helped this first shift,
With just a passport in hand,
You’ve reformed the band,
With some MN support as a lift.

A wonderful future awaits,
You’ve already opened the gates,
To future adventures,
No washing HIS dentures,
We raise a glass on this most special of dates.

Open the windows and let out a scream,
Because you can this isn’t a dream,
Sod what the neighbours think,
Sod dishes left in the sink,
You have just joined your very own team.

Have a weekend of incredible bliss,
Give blocked numbers a resolute miss,
Another year around the sun,
The next one will be all about fun,
Happy Birthday, enjoy a BBQ chef’s kiss!

Have a wonderful day, OP!

Aw how wonderful ❤️‍🩹
Happy Birthday OP, have a wonderful day, you deserve it! 🎂

rainbowruthie · 27/06/2025 08:32

Happy birthday!

ThePoshUns · 27/06/2025 08:33

Happy birthday queen! 🎉🥳

K0OLA1D · 27/06/2025 08:34

Happy birthday 🎂

isthismylifenow · 27/06/2025 08:46

Happiest of birthdays to you @ThinkINeedHelp.

Lalgarh · 27/06/2025 08:58
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Happy birthday @ThinkINeedHelp

Justkeepingplatesspinning · 27/06/2025 08:59

I've only seen your thread today but am rejoicing for you that you are out of that abusive relationship.
Your step-bro has come up trumps for you and that's made the transition easier, and congratulations on your job too. The stars are aligning for you, and it's well deserved and about time!
I just wanted to say about women's aid and refuge. They certainly wouldn't have laughed at you etc It would be a place to get some outreach support and to talk over everything. If nothing else, to have a completely objective person say that none of this was your fault and yes, it was abuse.
Edit: Just seen it's your birthday! Happy birthday 🎂 and what a fabulous present you have given yourself. 💐

EasternEcho · 27/06/2025 09:06

Happy Birthday OP! Wishing you all the very best.

NeedWineNow · 27/06/2025 09:26
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Happy, Happy Birthday!!!

Dandylonglegs · 27/06/2025 09:31

Happy birthday Op . Xx

murasaki · 27/06/2025 09:55

Happy birthday!!!

Baileysandcream · 27/06/2025 10:02

Happy birthday @ThinkINeedHelp I hope you have a fabulous day today.

Your updates are such a joy to read, I'm so pleased for you.

ChaToilLeam · 27/06/2025 12:41

Wishing you the happiest of happy birthdays! 🎉

Have a wonderful day, you deserve it so much!

Sunnyside4 · 27/06/2025 15:07

Happy Birthday. Hope you have a lovely day x

ThinkINeedHelp · 27/06/2025 17:56

Wow, I’ve never had so many birthday wishes. The gratitude I feel is huge. All your kind messages, support, advice and encouragement is incredible. @PeggyMitchellsCameo your poem really made me smile

My step brother has been more of a help than I can begin to explain, with out him, I’m sure I’d be struggling, I will be eternally grateful to him.

The day didn’t start too well, there were three missed calls on my phone by the time I was out of the shower, the fourth time, I decided to answer it. It’s was him, he said happy birthday, told me he loved me, missed me, was sorry, had learnt his lesson and said for me to go home.
Im not going to lie and say it was easy especially when he was crying. But I told him I have a new home and that his door was firmly closed. I asked if he loved a Stupid Fat Bitch, A Thick Cow? Did he love me when he hit me? I told him that I’ve spoken to the police, a lie but he doesn’t know that, and that they will pay him a visit if he doesn’t leave me alone.

My work day has been good, I received a nice bottle of wine from my boss which was a real surprise.

My wonderful step brother gave me a stick of rock, don’t ask, and a beautiful pair of earrings I saw last weekend, he went back to get them when we were on the beach and he said he needed the toilet!

Im really looking forward to going g out tonight, wearing my new earrings, and I’m going to make sure the rest of the weekend is filled with happiness x

OP posts:
CRCGran · 27/06/2025 18:01

Amazing OP. So brave. Well done you. Have the best weekend ever. You deserve it.

Seawolves · 27/06/2025 18:03

Loving your updates! Have the best time this evening and Happy Birthday!

LurkyMcLurkinson · 27/06/2025 18:05

Happy Birthday! You’re an inspiration. It’s incredibly hard to leave but you did it and already your life is so much better.

BrentfordForever · 27/06/2025 18:06

How cathartic!!

well done! Xx