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Offered something on Facebook .. now confronted by harrassment

343 replies

listsandbudgets · 13/01/2023 13:41

Luckily I'm quite robust and couldn't give a damn but for your entertainment

I'm having a big clear out and putting things in Facebook and olio for people to take.

This morning I listed a play pen on a local group and after about half an hour.got a message from a lady who will come.and take.it this evening.. brilliant.

Just before marking it as taken gone got a message from.someone else

"Need this .. please drop off at X address between 3 and 5pm today" I replied saying it was taken and anyway collection only and left it at that.

Then received

" I can't believe you would give it away without even asking why I need it I bet I need it more than anyone else "

"You're so selfish I bet you sold it instead"

"You don't care about anything but clearing out your house you couldn't give a sh*t about a young mum like me"

"If you've got any other children's stuff message me and you can drop it over tomorrow, I need things"

"You obviously don't care if my child gets hurt because they dont have a play pen.. youve got to give it to me, dont be heartless"

" How am I supposed to come and get it Ive got children you need to drop it off today"

I ignored her and blocked her and now receiving stroppy messages from another person saying they're her friend, I'm victimising her,.I shouldn't just give things away without talking to people about what they need it for everyone deserves a chance..

and best of all:

" you should be dying of shame for treating a young mum like this I hope you carry the guilt.to your dying day"

WTAF ?????

I've blocked them too and await next messages with interest. I strongly suspect they "friend" is also her. I am having quite a boring day cleaning out the loft so this is brightening it up no end

OP posts:
Tamarindtree · 13/01/2023 14:01

Set up another profile with a fake name and offer a very similar item and wait for her to ask for it.

Then string her along for at least a week with drop off times so she has to keep waiting indoors for it. Keep adding photos of even more fantastic free items that you want to give her.

Use the same Chav-speak language as her with lots of hun and babe.

PunishmentSnart · 13/01/2023 14:21

I'd have screenshot and posted it on hers and the local Fbook page, but I'm petty.....

Exdpisatwat · 13/01/2023 14:25

I really hope she's just a single nutter and doesn't actually have kids 😕

ParrotsAteThemAll · 13/01/2023 14:25

2 many snakes about jus me n the kids from now. Live laugh love huns xxx

mrsm43s · 13/01/2023 14:27

You shouldn't have to deal with abuse like that, but I suspect that she has some mental health issues.

toocold54 · 13/01/2023 14:27

Just reply “u ok hun? xx”

PyjamaFan · 13/01/2023 14:32

toocold54 · 13/01/2023 14:27

Just reply “u ok hun? xx”

😁

As the old saying goes, no good deed goes unpunished!

LumpyandBumps · 13/01/2023 14:35

It’s always with free items. I have no idea why.
I advertised a chocolate fountain, someone asked for it on the post, and I said they could have it and when would they like to collect.
In between my message and her reply someone else asked for it. When she replied about collection the second person insisted she was first. It was quite clear from the timings that she wasn’t, and I didn’t suggest that it would go to the first person who asked, as that can be unfair to people who aren’t able to be on social media throughout the day. It did in this instance as I vaguely knew the first person.
I also had a ridiculously long tirade of messages once for something I put on a ‘Given in kindness’ site ( never again), he kept insisting he should have it and wanted to know why I had given it to someone else. In the end I told him it went to the person who was most polite.

Original poster
listsandbudgets · 13/01/2023 14:41

I seem to have some more message requests.. I will look later with nice cuppa and a biscuit or 2.

New dilemma.. Ive got a stair gate and a high chair .. not sure I even dare list them
I think I.will put on olio People there seem saner! Hopefully she's not there too!

OP posts:
ODFOx · 13/01/2023 14:46

I'll have them, delivered tonight between 6 and 6.25 and pick us up some chips on the way as I'm a single mum who can't collect chips or free stuff.
What do you mean you live 3 hours away and won't deliver? Selfish ***!!!

ODFOx · 13/01/2023 14:47

... but only if they are good brands, no scuffs and no shops own tat.

Kindofcrunchy · 13/01/2023 14:47

That's some serious mental health issues right there 😳 a stable person would have just said OK or not bothered replying. I hope for their sake they don't actually have kids

Emdubz · 13/01/2023 14:49

listsandbudgets · 13/01/2023 13:41

Luckily I'm quite robust and couldn't give a damn but for your entertainment

I'm having a big clear out and putting things in Facebook and olio for people to take.

This morning I listed a play pen on a local group and after about half an hour.got a message from a lady who will come.and take.it this evening.. brilliant.

Just before marking it as taken gone got a message from.someone else

"Need this .. please drop off at X address between 3 and 5pm today" I replied saying it was taken and anyway collection only and left it at that.

Then received

" I can't believe you would give it away without even asking why I need it I bet I need it more than anyone else "

"You're so selfish I bet you sold it instead"

"You don't care about anything but clearing out your house you couldn't give a sh*t about a young mum like me"

"If you've got any other children's stuff message me and you can drop it over tomorrow, I need things"

"You obviously don't care if my child gets hurt because they dont have a play pen.. youve got to give it to me, dont be heartless"

" How am I supposed to come and get it Ive got children you need to drop it off today"

I ignored her and blocked her and now receiving stroppy messages from another person saying they're her friend, I'm victimising her,.I shouldn't just give things away without talking to people about what they need it for everyone deserves a chance..

and best of all:

" you should be dying of shame for treating a young mum like this I hope you carry the guilt.to your dying day"

WTAF ?????

I've blocked them too and await next messages with interest. I strongly suspect they "friend" is also her. I am having quite a boring day cleaning out the loft so this is brightening it up no end

OP I experienced similar when giving away a piece of astroturf for free on marketplace 🙄 absolutely unhinged messages from people 😂

heidipi · 13/01/2023 14:50

I put something for sale on FB marketplace recently, was asking £20. A couple of days later a chap messaged and offered £15. When I got in from work I replied and said yes ok. He told me to get lost and who did I think I was pissing him about.
He’s right though I should be ashamed of myself.

Northwestsouth · 13/01/2023 14:50

Lol

BliainNua · 13/01/2023 14:50

listsandbudgets · 13/01/2023 14:41

I seem to have some more message requests.. I will look later with nice cuppa and a biscuit or 2.

New dilemma.. Ive got a stair gate and a high chair .. not sure I even dare list them
I think I.will put on olio People there seem saner! Hopefully she's not there too!

I can't wait to hear what new messages say 😁

Enjoy your cuppa, but drink fast! Don't be so selfish and keep us waiting...... Enquiring minds need to know!!

Emdubz · 13/01/2023 14:50

heidipi · 13/01/2023 14:50

I put something for sale on FB marketplace recently, was asking £20. A couple of days later a chap messaged and offered £15. When I got in from work I replied and said yes ok. He told me to get lost and who did I think I was pissing him about.
He’s right though I should be ashamed of myself.

😂😂

Original poster
listsandbudgets · 13/01/2023 14:53

Offered stair gate to.same lady taking play pen and she wants it so.thats good.

Sadly I suspect it is mental health issues, a "normal" person would just shrug their shoulders maybe send a message asking me to let them know.if original person changes their mind and leave it there.

OP posts:
Squirespot · 13/01/2023 14:53

listsandbudgets · 13/01/2023 14:41

I seem to have some more message requests.. I will look later with nice cuppa and a biscuit or 2.

New dilemma.. Ive got a stair gate and a high chair .. not sure I even dare list them
I think I.will put on olio People there seem saner! Hopefully she's not there too!

Oh come on, tell us now!

I've got my biscuits and coffee now.

ReneBumsWombats · 13/01/2023 14:55

This is what all self-righteous emotional blackmail sounds like to me. Although this one's funnier than usual. What a loon.

ReneBumsWombats · 13/01/2023 14:56

listsandbudgets · 13/01/2023 14:41

I seem to have some more message requests.. I will look later with nice cuppa and a biscuit or 2.

New dilemma.. Ive got a stair gate and a high chair .. not sure I even dare list them
I think I.will put on olio People there seem saner! Hopefully she's not there too!

Screenshot and share with name blacked out? I could use a laugh and Prince Harry isn't funny any more.

Original poster
listsandbudgets · 13/01/2023 14:58

OK..

Another account " my friend is crying and it's all your fault she's been waiting for a playpen to come up for weeks and you just brushed her off she's so upset, you di tknow how much this means to her"

and..

" I've reported you to Facebook for being so nasty"

I've blocked that account too!

I can see its going to be a shitty afternoon ..luckily just found 2 potties and a toddler training seat so well equipped

OP posts:
Flyinggeesei234 · 13/01/2023 14:58

PyjamaFan · 13/01/2023 14:32

😁

As the old saying goes, no good deed goes unpunished!

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@PyjamaFan I was just about to post the same! Agree. It just puts you off even trying this stuff; it’s never valued.

WiddlinDiddlin · 13/01/2023 14:58

I wouldn't assume mental health issues, just total lack of any education in how to interact with others, be polite, be grateful etc etc. So probably dragged up by someone else with the same sort of behaviour and expectations/entitlement.

Anyway, you've probably made her kids cry now and should be discusted wiv yorself!!!

user1471538283 · 13/01/2023 14:59

Some people are unhinged. I once gave away a TV and a bloke went absolutely mad because he should have it, he would be there straight away, I wasn't being fair. What? You (and I and everyone else) can give our property to whomever, whenever we like!