Offered something on Facebook .. now confronted by harrassment

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Luckily I'm quite robust and couldn't give a damn but for your entertainment

I'm having a big clear out and putting things in Facebook and olio for people to take.

This morning I listed a play pen on a local group and after about half an hour.got a message from a lady who will come.and take.it this evening.. brilliant.

Just before marking it as taken gone got a message from.someone else

"Need this .. please drop off at X address between 3 and 5pm today" I replied saying it was taken and anyway collection only and left it at that.

Then received

" I can't believe you would give it away without even asking why I need it I bet I need it more than anyone else "

"You're so selfish I bet you sold it instead"

"You don't care about anything but clearing out your house you couldn't give a sh*t about a young mum like me"

"If you've got any other children's stuff message me and you can drop it over tomorrow, I need things"

"You obviously don't care if my child gets hurt because they dont have a play pen.. youve got to give it to me, dont be heartless"

" How am I supposed to come and get it Ive got children you need to drop it off today"

I ignored her and blocked her and now receiving stroppy messages from another person saying they're her friend, I'm victimising her,.I shouldn't just give things away without talking to people about what they need it for everyone deserves a chance..

and best of all:

" you should be dying of shame for treating a young mum like this I hope you carry the guilt.to your dying day"

WTAF ?????

I've blocked them too and await next messages with interest. I strongly suspect they "friend" is also her. I am having quite a boring day cleaning out the loft so this is brightening it up no end

Nice bit of single parent shaming there, wow

Yes to using Olio. Find that people there are just more straight forward and turn up with no dramas

This is the best idea 😂

Thank heavens you are resilient, OP. Unfortunately poverty does affect people's mental health

A few years ago I would have dismissed posts like this as exaggerated. Until I had a clear out!

I don't know if it is a sense of entitlement so much as paranoia. I think these are poorly educated people with poor social skills who were probably raised in the same chaotic fashion by their own parents.

Behind the rudeness and anger seems to be a real fear that someone will 'get something over on them'. I think they probably live in a world where they don't fully understand a lot of the systems they are stuck in (housing, etc) and so feel constantly persecuted.

WTF??? Seriously? I'd have locked him out after the first bit of attitude as he walked out with the first piece. How dare he?!

Does anyone else actively prioritise people that ask nicely and in full sentences, like I do?

I advertised an office chair recently for £30. It had cost me £85 new a year ago and was now £110 to buy the same one new. Practically perfect condition as I'd only used it for a short time for a stint WFH.

I had four messages:

1. "Is this available?" (Answer - Yes - no reply)
2. "I'll have it for £20" (Answer - no thanks, I've only just advertised it, I'd prefer to leave it for a while)
3. "20" (I ignored that one as there wasn't even any punctuation or question mark)
4. "Hi, is this still available? If so, I'd like it please. Could I come and collect it tomorrow?"

Went with number 4, had a lovely email back and forth with a couple of minor questions, then she appeared at the door on the day and time she promised, and handed over £30 without question. I later had a message thanking me so much saying it was perfect for her Uni studies.

She restored my faith in facebook marketplace!

Yep. Not cool, not funny.

That link doesn't work. What's the username please?

Crikey, she sounds unhinged!

I had this with a Christmas tree early December. The first person to respond said she would collect next day so DH put it in the hallway ready (I'm disabled and can't cart boxes around!

No sign of her. So messaged her and she said day after. No sign again.

In the meantime I had another message from someone wanting it so I explained I had someone calling to pick it up but if she didn't turn up the 3rd time then it was hers. She went proper nuclear on me because it was for her daughter who had fled DV and didn't have a tree. I got called every name under the sun for being so heartless.

First woman didn't turn up on the 3rd occasion but no chance in hell was I offer wrong to person number two!

I also thing they lack insight into why someone might give away a higher-value item.

My guess is that they either assume it's likely to be broken/unusable - therefore expect you to drop it off because they are doing you a favour taking it. Or they see you as a resource, much like a food bank, and expect you to offer a service to suit.

I find the whole psychology behind it fascinating!

I had one of those once on FB.
I replied with 'I do apologise, I thought it was my item to do as I wish with'.
Then logged out.
I don't put things on there any more, too many halfwit, entitled pillocks.

SchoolTripDrama his username is
chriswguerra

Sorry not great with links.

SchoolTripDrama his username is
chriswguerra

Sorry not great with links.

Never advertise anything free, stick it on for a fiver. It sorts out the genuine from the loonatics.

I once set up a local freebie page on Facebook. I archived it after a couple of months as the abuse I got was awful.

Hilarious! Reminds me of this: m.youtube.com/watch?v=OLmun1JEIw0

A suggestion - there are charities, often hospices who will collect furniture and sell it in their shops.

Our council also has a shop for furniture. I assume they charge for collection but the hospices don't seem to.

I am going to take the easy option and find someone to take the large stuff away, even if I have to pay a few £.

You could have asked your health visitor if they wanted to pass baby things on to anyone.

Then, when the cf contacts you to ask where the items are, insist you dropped it off to her and that she was very charming and said 'thank you very much'. When pushed, say that you are almost certain it was the right road, although those roads all look very alike, don't they?

I've had my share of entitled nutters on fb marketplace but also had a woman leave me a jar of homemade jam after I gave away some kitchen stuff which restored my faith a bit.

This sort of stuff happens ALL the time on Facebook.

I'm having a big clear-out this month and after reading this thread I'm half tempted just to chuck stuff I don't want in the bin rather than advertising it on FB. I'm really stressed at the moment and don't think I can face any hassle or drama!

Why?