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Offered something on Facebook .. now confronted by harrassment

343 replies

listsandbudgets · 13/01/2023 13:41

Luckily I'm quite robust and couldn't give a damn but for your entertainment

I'm having a big clear out and putting things in Facebook and olio for people to take.

This morning I listed a play pen on a local group and after about half an hour.got a message from a lady who will come.and take.it this evening.. brilliant.

Just before marking it as taken gone got a message from.someone else

"Need this .. please drop off at X address between 3 and 5pm today" I replied saying it was taken and anyway collection only and left it at that.

Then received

" I can't believe you would give it away without even asking why I need it I bet I need it more than anyone else "

"You're so selfish I bet you sold it instead"

"You don't care about anything but clearing out your house you couldn't give a sh*t about a young mum like me"

"If you've got any other children's stuff message me and you can drop it over tomorrow, I need things"

"You obviously don't care if my child gets hurt because they dont have a play pen.. youve got to give it to me, dont be heartless"

" How am I supposed to come and get it Ive got children you need to drop it off today"

I ignored her and blocked her and now receiving stroppy messages from another person saying they're her friend, I'm victimising her,.I shouldn't just give things away without talking to people about what they need it for everyone deserves a chance..

and best of all:

" you should be dying of shame for treating a young mum like this I hope you carry the guilt.to your dying day"

WTAF ?????

I've blocked them too and await next messages with interest. I strongly suspect they "friend" is also her. I am having quite a boring day cleaning out the loft so this is brightening it up no end

OP posts:
IncessantNameChanger · 13/01/2023 16:11

We have similar FB nutters our town FB" advert for a 4 bed detached house for £1750pcm. Some twat posting "good luck with that! I'd offer you £5 per year, come back begging when you realise no one will pay that!" We had one person selling a travel cot for £4. CF posts I will give you £1 that's all its worth. So sellers mate pipes up saying just dump.it for £1. CF threatens both of them with violence and the police. Weird, weird weird people about

Allthegoodnamesarechosen · 13/01/2023 16:13

@Ponderingtosk

sometimes wonder where on earth these altered words come from.

it’s me😈

AtomicRitual · 13/01/2023 16:14

I'm glad you saw the funny side OP - I kind of hope the "friends" are all her too, as otherwise there's a load of deluded people out there!

I got embroiled in an argument on a holiday facebook group the other week. I've booked our honeymoon and have, through the generosity of our wedding guests, been able to push the boat out and get a suite, which I've never had before.

As I've never had a suite before, I don't know what "perks" come with it, but know there are some.

I asked a question about whether the suite concierge can book us a restaurant and was suddenly on the receiving end of abuse from one woman who called me a snob.

Apparently proof of my snobbiness was that I was expecting to receive more for paying more... Err... that's how life works, mate. If I want a bigger meal in McDonalds I pay more to supersize it. If I want to receive my deliveries quicker, I pay more for it...

I was slightly disappointed when the group Admin chucked her out - I was quite enjoying arguing back, politely of course!

Cuppasoupmonster · 13/01/2023 16:14

I sold something recently, a fairly cheap item. Got a message from A asking if it was still available, I said it was. A few minutes later another message came through asking to take it that day at 5pm, so I accepted. I then told person A it was now pending collection and they lost it - demanded to know whether I had made it up because ‘10 minutes ago it was free’, ‘I bet you just don’t want to sell it to me’ etc.

Did I break some kind of etiquette? I was always under the impression the first person to make an arrangement to collect had the item, rather than just the first person to ask about it?

SalmonEile · 13/01/2023 16:14

I remember reading a post on Facebook where a woman was second to comment on a phone and missed it so she posted up a rant on the group about how she was done dirty by the awful
seller and for every “oh poor you hun” reply she got she wrote that she hoped the phone blows up in the sellers hand 😳

readingismycardio · 13/01/2023 16:15

It's so sad that these people have children.

Dontsayyouloveme · 13/01/2023 16:15

I’ve had this years ago with some cherry blossom light thing. Apparently this lady should have had it because she’s a nurse!

Tamarindtree · 13/01/2023 16:16

Cuppasoupmonster · 13/01/2023 15:13

And does anyone get a bit suspicious of those ‘posting for my friend whose house has burned down including all the Christmas presents for her 7 children, we are a lovely community and sure we can make the kiddies Christmas magical by replacing them, just drop the gifts with me and I’ll make sure they get to her’

And people believe it!!!!!

There’s usually one at Christmas where she’s gone shopping with £400 in her purse which was for all the ‘kiddies’ Christmas ‘prezzies’ but she got to the till she discovered her purse had been stolen. Completely made up bollocks.

She’ll then have a mate chime in asking if people can all chip in £20 for the ‘kiddies’! 🙄

One year some chap suggested they ask the shop to go through their camera’s and he got her delightful chums piling on calling him all kinds of names!

These people are disgraceful chancers.

Poppyseed14 · 13/01/2023 16:21

Bloody hell. You have her address though. If you need a break from your decluttering you could always consider a strategically placed shit through her letter box 💩

red4321 · 13/01/2023 16:22

I gave a pair of curtains away recently and someone asked if they could also have some towels, pots and pans, plates, cups glasses cutlery as they had just moved into a new flat and needed those things.

Same, I gave away a microwave and the CF started wandering round my kitchen saying all the other things of mine he wanted as he had to equip a whole kitchen.

I simply can't understand the sheer sense of entitlement? Do people say, yes, go on, take my kettle, toaster, oven and crockery that we use every day to eat and drink?

amonsteronthehill · 13/01/2023 16:29

Hilarious. cheefy fuckers everywhere

I'd list the other items with an additional sentence, that CF Name shouldn't bother asking for it as you will not be giving her anything ever.

ladyvimes · 13/01/2023 16:37

Kindofcrunchy · 13/01/2023 14:47

That's some serious mental health issues right there 😳 a stable person would have just said OK or not bothered replying. I hope for their sake they don't actually have kids

Oh yes, of course the person being a dick on Facebook must have mental health issues! 🙄

tolerable · 13/01/2023 16:37

THATs horrendous.screenshot-report block\friend also. Apart from wtf?factor did you advertise as saddest story wins? its nuf to put you off really.ugh

IncessantNameChanger · 13/01/2023 16:37

This has reminded me of another cf. I often used to give away the kids outgrown clothes. One CF would always reply every time, then wait a few hours before saying she didn't have a car. Could drop them off? No I also have kids and didn't want to do that. But no o e else got a look in as she replied to evert single post first. She would also do "has anyone got a ride on mower, gass bqq, leather corner suite" to give away? Posts. Never just a bqq, or just a sofa. It had to be exactly what she wanted. She thought FB was a free catalogue. Just waiting for the "has anyone got a BMW? Must be under two years old" request.

Roussette · 13/01/2023 16:39

I gave away a kitchen... literally gave it away. I had to get rid quickly... there was a fridge freezer, double oven and kitchen units.
I needed someone who could take it out and take it away themselves, and quickly.

All well and good... a guy and his son came. Dad had bought a flat for son to live in at Uni town. He was going to fit it all himself. He cleared the lot.

Then next day the phone goes. His wife was asking if we had the baking tray that fitted on the runners of the Neff oven. (they had the oven shelves but not a baking tray that she had looked at online that came with the original oven)
No idea says I, we have cleared out kitchen stuff into the garage, and everything's a mess. I'll ring you if I find it.

2 days later she rings again. Have I found it.
NO says I. I don't have it, it's best you don't ring again. I don't have it.

A week later doorbell goes. It's the wife wanting to know if we found the baking tray.
I said... we are living in a hovel, you have had a whole kitchen for free including appliances, do NOT contact me again, and she stropped off saying 'what a cheek'
!!

TeachyFish · 13/01/2023 16:40

"Sorry the play pen has gone to a lovely lady with house bunnies."

User359472111111 · 13/01/2023 16:40

Yes, you are right. I have had some nasty experiences (as well as flaky no-shows on FB. There’s a nicer group which I tend to offer first on, and yes olio is often better.

Climbles · 13/01/2023 16:40

When I list things for free I reply to the ones who sounds most likely to actually come and pick it up. When I get messages like ‘does it come with the x or y?’ I just ignore but if someone says ‘can I pick up tonight?’ I respond. Otherwise I end up messaging all week to various time wasters.

Twillow · 13/01/2023 16:43

LumpyandBumps · 13/01/2023 14:35

It’s always with free items. I have no idea why.
I advertised a chocolate fountain, someone asked for it on the post, and I said they could have it and when would they like to collect.
In between my message and her reply someone else asked for it. When she replied about collection the second person insisted she was first. It was quite clear from the timings that she wasn’t, and I didn’t suggest that it would go to the first person who asked, as that can be unfair to people who aren’t able to be on social media throughout the day. It did in this instance as I vaguely knew the first person.
I also had a ridiculously long tirade of messages once for something I put on a ‘Given in kindness’ site ( never again), he kept insisting he should have it and wanted to know why I had given it to someone else. In the end I told him it went to the person who was most polite.

Love that response! OP you should add this to your next post - due to previous harassment, this will be offered to polite replies only!

toocold54 · 13/01/2023 16:47

You have much more patience than me.

I would have replied “not my problem”.

And if she gave me a mouthful I would have given it back.
I can’t stand entitled people.

MyPurpleHeart · 13/01/2023 16:47

Oh my god I cant stand the entitlement of FB marketplace. 'I need this drop it off between 3-5pm tomorrow'

Id have replied, no problem see you then. Then I'd not go and watch her implode on with a glass of wine

Itsrudemeghan · 13/01/2023 16:50

I’d have been tempted to directly say I don’t give a fuck about her kids or her mental health, her kids are her responsibility and if she needs a playpen that badly then she should bloody buy one from Argos or some shit.

Mariposista · 13/01/2023 16:51

What a cheeky, entitled POS. Screenshot if she keeps up and report.

OnMyWayToSenility · 13/01/2023 16:52

I think o had the same woman on free cycle! Had to block her in the end 🤣 absolute loon

User359472111111 · 13/01/2023 16:55

DottyLittleRainbow · 13/01/2023 16:03

This is why I always charge a tiny fee for things now instead of offering for free, as it is generally weeds out the crazy or verbally abusive ones.

Yes, I have found this. A small fee definitely reduces the no-shows.

And we were once giving away a TV for a small fee but the person needed to wait until pay-day, so we just decided to give it to her for free on the day when she turned up as she clearly needed the £30 more than us. Felt like Father Christmas 🎅🏻