This is really fucking awkward.

[LordOfTheThings]

I've discovered a relationship between two work colleagues. She is widowed and he is married and I really wish I didn't fucking know anything about it. She is head of my department and I have regular meetings etc. Why do I feel embarrassed when it's not be doing anything wrong? This is excruciating.

Is she also AP's boss?

How has she dealt with knowing you witnessed it? Has she addressed it with you?

Omg you caught them in the cupboard!!

I'm a teacher and am MORTIFIED for you!!

What did they say/do when you walked in on them?!!

I can't even... fucking hell op!!!

Well then hopefully they’ll consider that a warning sign not to do it again and risk being caught by someone else.

You're a better person than me then OP as I would love this knowledge !

Ah seen this is in a school yes it is inappropriate and no I don't know how you should handle it . Sorry

You're a better person than me then OP as I would love this knowledge

Pleased it's not just me. I think I'd be getting the words stationary cupboard, glue sticks and sticky fingers into all future conversations with them both!

@Mammyloveswine well you'll probably understand my utter rage that I still haven't got any glue sticks either. 😂

I haven't seen either of them, I'm leaving shortly so that's most likely to be the time I'll see them. I don't think it's up to me to say anything to them, it's up to them but I actually don't think either of them will say a thing. We have two inset days Thursday/Friday and she is delivering some of the training so I'll have to develop my 'I don't care' look as opposed to a 'I caught a glimpse of your fanny' look.

What did they say when you walked in?!

They didn't really say anything. I think I made a weird kind of surprised noise and I did an about turn and left.

They clearly weren’t trying to be discreet

Oh the more you say about it the more I cringe, how grim!

I confess I would find it hard not to do this face throughout the training sessions.

@DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult

Unless they are inviting you to watch you have nothing to be embarrassed about.

People shag all the time , do you feel awkward and embarrassed around married couples?

Just forget about it, it will likely be short lived.

I think you've really missed the point! Married couples... 🤦‍♀️

Sorry but I laughed at fingering in the cupboard 😂
In all seriousness though it's pretty grim.
The embarrassment is theirs not yours and I bet they're dreading seeing you

That's disgusting 😒 so grossly inappropriate.

I keep coming back to this. I'm thinking about how I'd deal with it as a school leader. I really hope this didn't happen at my school

Totally inappropriate behaviour on their part

(Although I will admit to laughing when I read your update)

I'd have to tell someone!!! I wouldn't be able to keep my big mouth shut

@GreyhoundG1rl. 😂 I totally ignored that comment, it was so ridiculous I really didn't want to give it a response.

@MrsPelligrinoPetrichor

I'd have to tell someone!!! I wouldn't be able to keep my big mouth shut

I would struggle too, but I guess that is why OP has posted - to help overcome the natural urge to tell a colleague!

so I'll have to develop my 'I don't care' look as opposed to a 'I caught a glimpse of your fanny' look.

If you have an unambiguous 'I caught a glimpse of your fanny' look I think you should let her have it with both barrels OP! Why shouldn't SHE be the one squirming, not you?

Oh ew. I thought it was bad enough that two of my former colleagues shagged in the pool car… they were both sacked, although one for general shitness as opposed to the shagging. The other was a director (she was far junior to him) so he was sacked because she threatened to say she was being discriminated against if he kept his job (or something like that anyway). But this is a new level of grim…

I have to say that I think my eyebrow raising muscles would end up sprained if I heard them pearl clutching after seeing that…!

[quote LordOfTheThings]@Mammyloveswine well you'll probably understand my utter rage that I still haven't got any glue sticks either. 😂

I haven't seen either of them, I'm leaving shortly so that's most likely to be the time I'll see them. I don't think it's up to me to say anything to them, it's up to them but I actually don't think either of them will say a thing. We have two inset days Thursday/Friday and she is delivering some of the training so I'll have to develop my 'I don't care' look as opposed to a 'I caught a glimpse of your fanny' look.[/quote]
Haha admit it op that's what's pissed you off the most

God I can't get over this!

Is it secondary or primary? (Not that it makes much difference I'm just being nosey) m.

We have two inset days Thursday/Friday and she is delivering some of the training so I'll have to develop my 'I don't care' look as opposed to a 'I caught a glimpse of your fanny' look.

What’s the training? I’d be preparing some potential responses that indirectly refer to the ‘incident’. But then I’m a sarcastic bitch who can’t stand cheats. 😬
And I’d be mailing one of them to tell them I expected them to deliver glue sticks to my classroom as you didn’t get to collect them. And I’d tell them to make sure they washed their hands first. 😂
Grim.

I would have definitely texted my teacher bestie too telling her what I'd seen!!

I would find it difficult to look somebody in the eye,knowing that .
Hideously old fashioned I know