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Please may I have a handhold? My mum died today.

178 replies

LunaNorth · 01/07/2020 20:18

I can’t believe I just wrote that thread title.

It doesn’t make sense to me. I loved her.

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Whysomanyexcuses · 01/07/2020 22:10

Oh my.

I really feel for you and sending my thoughts and best wishes.

Take care of yourself and take time to grieve xx

Maximoo2 · 01/07/2020 22:12

Your precious Mum sounds like an amazing woman. My thoughts are with you at this heartbreaking time. x

twig1234 · 01/07/2020 22:14

So sorry for your loss Luna. You must feel so sad. X

UncleHerbie · 01/07/2020 22:16

So sorry for your loss. It's the worst feeling ever 💐

plominoagain · 01/07/2020 22:16

Oh Luna I’m really sorry . She sounds like an absolute hoot , your mum. Be very kind to yourself x

NewAndImprovedNorks · 01/07/2020 22:17

Oh, she sounds just BRILLIANT.
All that care and love and creativity and fun.
Now THAT is how I hope people speak of me when I die. With love, pride and respect.
What a woman. Thank you for sharing her with us.

Sleep well. We will still be here for you tomorrow

Akasia · 01/07/2020 22:21

Very sorry op 💐

cheezy · 01/07/2020 22:21

What a lovely mum she sounds.
I hope you can do something to take care of yourself tonight Flowers

CoveredInBeeeees · 01/07/2020 22:22

I’m so sorry. Flowers

Jedimastermama · 01/07/2020 22:24

I’m sorry for your loss 💐

20viona · 01/07/2020 22:25

Sorry for your loss your mum sounds lovely.

Barmychick · 01/07/2020 22:28

31yrs later even tho my mum was quite distant ,I still miss her and what could have been. I send you unconditional love and hope that you can someday remember the good times xx

cafenoirbiscuit · 01/07/2020 22:35

I love how she was looking for sweets and taking care of her appearance until the end. What a trouper. She sounds wonderful, and I’m sure you’ll hold those memories forever x

whereorwhere · 01/07/2020 22:38

She sounds amazing OP I hope my daughters feel the same way about me as you do about her

Mumratheevergiving · 01/07/2020 22:40

I'm so sorry, your mum sounds wonderful, sending you a bear hug and strength Flowers

Confusedbutheyho · 01/07/2020 22:40

Sending you love OP Flowers

WarmthAndDepth · 01/07/2020 22:41
Flowers
dappledsunshine · 01/07/2020 22:44

So sorry for your loss, your mum sounds lovely and I love the words you wrote about her hands Thanks

savemejebus · 01/07/2020 22:46

❤️

Pillowfightnight · 01/07/2020 22:48

I'm glad you have siblings, that definitely helps. How heartbreaking that you couldn't all be there at the end, that must have been tough.
I work in scbu so I know how much those knitted items mean, Your mum was a starStar

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 01/07/2020 22:51

Flowers. Sorry for your loss, Luna. I wish I could say it gets easier and mean it but I can't lie to you, it really doesn't. My mums been gone almost 5 years now and my dad just over 3. There's no t a week that passes when
I don't break my heart sobbing for them. That's certainly not to say every day is a bad a day, though. Xx

Chickydoo · 01/07/2020 23:15

Your mum sounds lovely. Many happy memories. Life is hard and death is so difficult to come to terms with. Sending you a hug & my thoughts 💐

RedDiamond · 01/07/2020 23:29

Your description of your Mother is lovely. I hope you sleep well tonight and hang on to all those wonderful memories xxx

noodlezoodle · 01/07/2020 23:35

I'm so sorry Luna. Flowers for you and everyone else going through this.

It will be 3 months tomorrow since my mum died, and it has gone both very fast and very slowly. I think about her all the time, and I cry sometimes, but I laugh a lot as well. My mum was an absolute cracker, as yours clearly was.

I still feel that sense of unreality - I think it's to be expected when you lose someone who has been there every day of your life. I hope you get some good sleep.

honey7 · 01/07/2020 23:37

So sorry for your loss.