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Just found this in dd suitcase *pic* Where do I leave it?!

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ISayWhatNow · 03/07/2019 09:14

What do I do with it?! It's in a big suitcase that she's brought home from boarding school and I'm sorting out her washing because she's going away for a month. She's still at school.

I have no problem with it at all, but I really, REALLY don't want to embarrass her. Where can I leave it surreptitiously?! To make matters worse the suitcase is being thrown out today because it's broken so I can't just leave it in her room - it would look very obvious and then she'd be embarrassed.

Arghh!

Just found this in dd suitcase *pic* Where do I leave it?!
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sacope · 03/07/2019 09:44

Ok, let's take this at face value.

She is 17 and having safe sex.

What is your problem exactly?

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ISayWhatNow · 03/07/2019 09:44

I did mean actually USED Envy

They were underneath all of her clothes.

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HappyHammy · 03/07/2019 09:44

Shed a adult. Just leave her to unpack what's left.

purplecorkheart · 03/07/2019 09:46

Ok that is vile. I would leave them there case and all. It can be taken to the tip afterwards. I do wonder did a classmate leave them in her bag as a joke considering she knew you were emptying her bag

FiveShelties · 03/07/2019 09:47

Yuck - who would put used condoms in a suitcase?Hmm

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ISayWhatNow · 03/07/2019 09:47

My problem is that I don't want to embarrass her. We have open conversations and I've helped her with getting the pill and everything.

Hang on, I'll take photos of the washing for those doubting me 🙄

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StoatofDisarray · 03/07/2019 09:47

I can't see the problem here. Behave as you wish your own mother would behave in the same situation. If she's almost 18 she's almost 2 years over the age of consent, and great, she's using condoms. This is a non-issue.

Sparklingbrook · 03/07/2019 09:47

She's 17, having safe sex. A bit yuk to put used condoms in a suitcase, so I would be more Hmm about that.

Gingernaut · 03/07/2019 09:47

Naughty boarding school girl?

Really, OP?

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ISayWhatNow · 03/07/2019 09:48

GInger - what?? I don't get it? She hasn't been naughty.

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ISayWhatNow · 03/07/2019 09:50

Washing

Just found this in dd suitcase *pic* Where do I leave it?!
Just found this in dd suitcase *pic* Where do I leave it?!
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HUZZAH212 · 03/07/2019 09:50

Just chuck it all out. She's not going to want the used condoms back, and lube is about a fiver.

WorraLiberty · 03/07/2019 09:50

Used condoms??

Tell the dirty fucker to empty her own suitcase.

Seriously, tell her you're not running around after her.

That's disgusting.

sacope · 03/07/2019 09:50

My problem is that I don't want to embarrass her.

Why would your almost 18 year old be embarrassed about having sex?

HappyHammy · 03/07/2019 09:50

I would just leave the lube and condoms for her to sort out, stop unpacking for her, she is old enough to do it herself. At some point I would suggest they dispose of their condoms.

sacope · 03/07/2019 09:51

The biggest issue is that she can't empty her own case!

welshweasel · 03/07/2019 09:51

Chuck the condoms and leave the lube on the side. Have frank discussion when she’s back about disposing of her rubbish properly next time and not expecting you to sort it! If she’s old enough to be having sex she’s old enough not to get embarrassed about it. Teenage girls are pretty grim sometimes - she needs to be told it’s unacceptable!

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ISayWhatNow · 03/07/2019 09:52

Again - I'm perfectly comfortable with her attitude towards sex and I know she's careful. I don't want to embarrass her!!!!

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jaynelovesagathachristie · 03/07/2019 09:54

I would have just put in her drawer. But the used condoms is gross. If I were her, I'd be pissed you went through my bag, regardless if you're unpacking it. Why?!? Are you doing that ?!? My mother in law did this when I was 19 I was embarrassed she went through my shit.

Sparklingbrook · 03/07/2019 09:54

Why am I now seeing pictures of dirty washing?

sacope · 03/07/2019 09:54

Again - why would she be embarrassed?

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ISayWhatNow · 03/07/2019 09:54

The suitcase came home yesterday. She is still at school until tonight. We fly tomorrow morning at 6am and she's staying for a month so I NEED to get her clothes sorted because she won't have time. The suitcase is being chucked which she knows.

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WorraLiberty · 03/07/2019 09:56

Why would she be embarrassed about something as normal as lube, if you both have such a healthy attitude about sex?

Was she embarrassed when you helped her get the pill? Confused

Either way, I'd tell her she's going to have to deal with this herself as you wont be touching filthy condoms.

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ISayWhatNow · 03/07/2019 09:56

Sparkling - I added them because some posters didn't believe that I am actually sorting through a suitcase Hmm

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Nesssie · 03/07/2019 09:57

If you don't want to talk about it/embarrass her, then you make out you think its a prank? 'DD, it looks like your friends have played a prank on you, with lube and condoms, classic!' or you could just chuck them both away and not mention it.