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Just found this in dd suitcase *pic* Where do I leave it?!

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ISayWhatNow · 03/07/2019 09:14

What do I do with it?! It's in a big suitcase that she's brought home from boarding school and I'm sorting out her washing because she's going away for a month. She's still at school.

I have no problem with it at all, but I really, REALLY don't want to embarrass her. Where can I leave it surreptitiously?! To make matters worse the suitcase is being thrown out today because it's broken so I can't just leave it in her room - it would look very obvious and then she'd be embarrassed.

Arghh!

Just found this in dd suitcase *pic* Where do I leave it?!
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usernameuser · 03/07/2019 10:53

Why am I now seeing pictures of dirty washing?

You're lucky it's not pictures of the dirty condoms 😆

Sparklingbrook · 03/07/2019 10:54

Maybe if you zoom in usernameuser Shock Grin

OKBobble · 03/07/2019 10:59

Look she put it in the suitcase and she knows you were getting it. On the basis that you have helped her go on the pill etc, why not put the bottle in her undies drawer and throw the used condoms away. Perhaps have a word with her about disposing of them properly rather than putting them in a suitcase that her mum will be dealing with. Why would she be embarrassed?

Spinnaret · 03/07/2019 11:02

You need to have a word about the used condoms. If she knew you were going to be sorting her laundry, then stuffing them in the suitcase was really disgusting and inconsiderate. Personally, I think putting them in the case was disgusting whoever was sorting it, as there must be a bin somewhere she could have used. But, to do it knowing someone else would be having to clear it out was really unpleasant behaviour. If she is old enough to have sex, then she is old enough to be quietly asked to dispose of her used condoms rather than leave them for her mother to have to deal with.

YouJustDoYou · 03/07/2019 11:09

Jesus, I'd have a go at how utterly vile it is for someone to have to deal.with that. She does her own shit from now on, who the hell puts used condoms back in with their clothes? She's disgusting 🤮

Bellasblankexpression · 03/07/2019 11:12

This is a weird thread

LenoVentura · 03/07/2019 11:16

OP has said the condoms are opened rather than "used". Odd turn of phrase, but she's not dealing with actual bodily fluids.
I'd do the laundry, leave everything else in the suitcase. It's not crucial that the damaged suitcase gets thrown out today ffs.

LizzieLookAtTheFlowers · 03/07/2019 11:16

Sorry to be frank, but do the used condoms have.... deposits... in them? Or were they maybe used with a sex toy or something? If the former, then why was her partner stashing the used condoms in her case and not the bin like normal people do? That would warrant some serious questions about why she is letting someone treat her stuff like that. Or why she is... saving her boyfriend's jizz as some sort of memento. Confused

If it is just the latter then maybe just a reminder about taking a bit more care about personal hygeine and putting things in the bin?

Just put the lube in a drawer. She will a little bit die inside but we must all have at least one moment of teenage embarrassment as we come of age right?

sacope · 03/07/2019 11:23

OP has said the condoms are opened rather than "used". Odd turn of phrase, but she's not dealing with actual bodily fluids.

OP said they were used.

marcopront · 03/07/2019 11:25

I would assume if she is at boarding school she can't dispose of them there as she may get into trouble. She should have warned you though.

Spinnaret · 03/07/2019 11:26

@LenoVentura see OP's post at 09.44. They were USED condoms. 🤮

WorraLiberty · 03/07/2019 11:33

I would assume if she is at boarding school she can't dispose of them there as she may get into trouble. She should have warned you though.

Oh come on. She could wrap them in tissue and throw them in a bin.

Even if it was a street bin.

Itwontrainallthetime · 03/07/2019 11:38

I wouldn't say anything.
If you are going to chuck the old case and pack her a new one just put them back in the new case when your packing it for her.

She obviously isn't too bothered leaving them in the case as she knows you were going to be unpacking it.

If it makes you feel a little uncomfortable, as in they were just there in plane sight and not hidden or put in the case discreetly. Then get a toiletry bag and put them in the bag and pack it. Then tell her the things you found are now in a toiletry bag and you would appreciate if she kept them in there so you won't see them if you are unpacking her cases for her .

I wouldn't think anything off it and just stick them back in the bag.

LenoVentura · 03/07/2019 11:43

Spinnaret Oh yes, sorry I read that as unused! Shock Yuck. Filthy.

Devilrocknroller · 03/07/2019 11:53

God some people can be harsh and tunnel visioned! You obviously had your daughters best interest at heart. Hopefully it’s all sorted. But if not, just pope the lube in one of her bedside draws and don’t mention it. She might realise and feel a little embarrassed but it won’t get mentioned and will soon be forgotten about. Except in future she might remember to clean out her suitcase before asking you to do her washing!

sacope · 03/07/2019 11:59

I'm sorry, and please call me a dick, but it's 'drawers' not 'draws'.

iMatter · 03/07/2019 12:03

Totally off point I know but I can't stop laughing at @FairyBatman's knocker drawer Grin

AnchorDownDeepBreath · 03/07/2019 12:07

@ISayWhatNow I wouldn't put stuff back... just put them in her underwear drawer, honestly. Putting it all back would be weird!

MissPhonic · 03/07/2019 12:08

Fuck me, that's vile. Don't care about your almost 18 year old having sex, but putting USED condoms in a suitcase that you know your mother is going to be unpacking to sort your washing?! I wouldn't wash any of her stuff for that disrespectful behaviour.
Surely there is a laundry room available at her boarding school? If so, it is her responsibility to ensure she has some clean clothes for her holiday,not yours OP. She is almost 18, if she can't plan ahead for a holiday she is going to struggle in the real world.

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ISayWhatNow · 03/07/2019 12:43

Worra - she hasn't been home! I picked her stuff up from school so there isn't an enormous amount to bring home today. She will return tonight.

The condoms will not be from school use. It's single sex and she's Head of house so max visibility at all times. But most importantly she would never take the risk. We know of a few pupils who have been expelled for exactly this type of offence.

I've chucked the condoms and tucked the lube under a pile of (clean!) clothes in a different bag.

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IhateBoswell · 03/07/2019 12:46

Used johnnies?! That is utterly bizarre.

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ISayWhatNow · 03/07/2019 12:47

The condoms were contained in the box. It wasn't until I opened them that it became obvious they were used. I didn't have to see or handle any bodily fluids.

Knocker Drawer 😂😂 Now that would surprise me!!

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ISayWhatNow · 03/07/2019 12:47

*opened the box.

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IncognitaIgnorama · 03/07/2019 12:55

I was at boarding school. We had washing machines and dryers. I'd have got in an unholy row for turning up at the end of any term with a suitcase full of laundry Grin

As you get on so well, OP, I'd be quite happy to "embarrass" her by saying that leaving used condoms for someone else to unpack is rather unpleasant and definitely unappreciated.

pisspawpatrol · 03/07/2019 12:55

I would actually have a quiet word with her about being careful what she puts in her suitcase if someone else is going to empty it. If she's old enough to have sex she's old enough to respect that you shouldn't have to deal with things like used condoms and her lube.

No need to embarrass her, or shout at her. Just quietly say you found some items in her case that you would rather not have found and please could she check more carefully next time. You could even text her. It's not difficult.

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