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Just found this in dd suitcase *pic* Where do I leave it?!

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ISayWhatNow · 03/07/2019 09:14

What do I do with it?! It's in a big suitcase that she's brought home from boarding school and I'm sorting out her washing because she's going away for a month. She's still at school.

I have no problem with it at all, but I really, REALLY don't want to embarrass her. Where can I leave it surreptitiously?! To make matters worse the suitcase is being thrown out today because it's broken so I can't just leave it in her room - it would look very obvious and then she'd be embarrassed.

Arghh!

Just found this in dd suitcase *pic* Where do I leave it?!
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UncomfortableSilence · 03/07/2019 18:07

Sorry Ihate cross post

WorraLiberty · 03/07/2019 18:07

Ahh thanks

BlueCornsihPixie · 03/07/2019 18:19

If she knew you were unpacking why would she put lube and used condoms in the case? If it was just a suitcase of stuff for you to wash why on earth would she throw in a tube of lube

And are their no washing machines at boarding school? Do people have to taken enough clothes for a whole term Shock

Loveislandfan · 03/07/2019 18:26

So many woke mums on here Hmm

I’m a grown adult with children of my own and would still be mortified if my mum found and had to deal with a bottle of lube and some used condoms. Regardless of the pill thing it can still be embarrassing for the OP and her daughter. Not everyone is so blasé about sex.

GrapefruitIsGross · 03/07/2019 18:31

I’d be furious about the used condoms- not that she was having sex, but that she was disrespectful enough to leave them in her case knowing her DM would sort it out rather than throwing them in any bin between school and home.

I’d be having a word saying that just like you wouldn’t leave a used tampon or loo paper lying around, used birth control with other people’s bloodily fluids on them are hers to clean up, not mine.

theorchidwhisperer · 03/07/2019 18:51

She would be mortified if she'd thought through how leaving this in her suitcase would be discovered.

She's obviously brought them home as she didn't want to leave anything embarrassing behind, but forgotten they are in her case.

She's using safe sex methods. A big plus.

Bin in all and don't mention it at all.

Next time you probably won't be so time sensitive and be able to let her empty her case.

She'll be a bit red faced when she puts two and two together tomorrow!

Ivegotthree · 03/07/2019 19:02

I'm surprised people are surprised that the girl might be embarrassed. I'm in my 40s and would be embarrassed if my mother found my lube and used condoms.

So many people with axes to grind on this thread. It says more about them.

Poor you OP, I wouldn't want to find that!

Bluntness100 · 03/07/2019 19:07

How the hell is she smuggling her boyfriend into school for sex?

And if shes not, then why is she keeping his used condoms. That's fucking disgusting. I'd have to say something about that.

IlluminatiParty · 03/07/2019 19:10

Wowee talk about literally airing your daughter's dirty laundry. It was none of your business to start with.

WorraLiberty · 03/07/2019 19:10

No-one has said the girl wouldn't be embarrassed at the used condoms. It's disgusting and one would hope she'd be very embarrassed.

But lube is no more 'embarrassing' than condoms or the pill, which the OP has said We have open conversations and I've helped her with getting the pill and everything

Plus, if there's the slightest chance the OP may think her DD would be embarrassed about a bottle of lube, why would she photograph that, a box of condoms, a pile of her DD's dirty clothes and then stick said photos on a public forum for all to see?

It doesn't make any sense at all.

maddiemookins16mum · 03/07/2019 19:15

This would never have happened at Malory Towers.

allthegoodusernameshavegone · 03/07/2019 19:15

She knows the suitcase contained theses items, she knew you would empty it and she knew the case was going to be replaced. She won’t be at all embarrassed. I don’t think she gave you a thought, sorry op.

MrsHardbroom · 03/07/2019 19:24

You do know this is now in the fucking Sun don't you?

WorraLiberty · 03/07/2019 19:25

maddie Grin Grin

usernameuser · 03/07/2019 19:25

This would never have happened at Malory Towers.

😆

screamer1 · 03/07/2019 19:39

Not rtft but why not just chuck it away with the suitcase and pretend that nothings happened?

nelsonmuntzslingshot · 03/07/2019 19:39

Seriously you keep going on about the lube but I’d be more embarrassed that she thinks it’s ok to leave USED condoms in a suitcase. That is fucking filthy! I’d be teaching her some basic hygiene if I were you.

fedup21 · 03/07/2019 19:40

If she’s old enough to shag, she’s old enough to unpack her own suitcase.

Orangecake123 · 03/07/2019 19:46

I'd leave her to empty out her own bag.

justasking111 · 03/07/2019 19:49

Umm.. this is the sort of thing others would do as a joke at the school mine attend. She may have no idea she has been pranked. Others are waiting with baited breath for her reaction.

avalanching · 03/07/2019 19:51

You might be comfortable with her attitude to sex, fine, but I wouldn't be comfortable with her lack of hygiene (used conforms??) and laziness in not unpacking her suitcase. Stop coddling her, she should be embarrassed and that's why she should do her own bag. Honestly.

nitgel · 03/07/2019 19:53

Put it all over the internet. There sorted Grin

BoardingSchoolMater · 03/07/2019 19:53

I feel your pain, OP. I have discovered similar (though with a DS, also at a single sex school). Plus, today, while trying to find something that he asked me to find in his luggage (so not snooping) an empty bottle of Smirnoff.

I offered him a G&T this evening, then said "Oh, but you won't want one, as you don't drink spirits". Grin

What is her bedroom like, otherwise? If it's anything like my DD's, you could just chuck said items in, and nobody would ever notice.

I just have to take a very deep breath about it all, because if I start to think about my lovely little toddlers, I'll completely turn to Gin

firesong · 03/07/2019 19:54

I'd just stick it all in her underwear drawer. She can't be that embarrassed or she would've thought about it!

NeverTwerkNaked · 03/07/2019 20:00

It's hard to imagine the mindset of a parent who is worried about where to put the lube because they dont want to embarrass their daughter but yet quite happy to post a very identifying description and photos on the internet Hmm