I think you sound happy and contended and confident. You know what makes you happy and comfortable and what you need to feel good in your space and what feeds you and what doesn't. I think that is admirable. It is also much easier to do this without compromise given you choose to live alone and not to have children. Perhaps down to my ND side I envy having a space that would feel a) super easy/quick to clean, b) calming and c) difficult to lose things in! However, likely because I'm both ADHD and autistic one side of me dreams of this kind of space and the other side of me, the one that wins, is the opposite and I aquire stuff in multiples because I lose everything, I have object permanence issues so I also forget I have things or I panic that I will forget to buy them (so I'll buy stuff in quantities that I fear not having - ie dog food, loo roll, bin liners, keys, specs, washing tablets). I also am always taking up another hobby and I spend a lot of time outdoors coaching fitness or exercising or with my dog so I have an abundance of leads, harnesses, wellies, coats, rain coats, trainers etc. I have two kids and they have their hobbies and their own stuff. I also hate being cold and I hate not being 'cosy' and patterns and fabrics and cosy blankets and pictures and that sort of thing make me feel 'cosy'. But it's definitely a push pull thing where I long to be the person who only has what they needn. I have tonnes of clothes and shoes and books and dishes and crockery etc that I dont' need as well as stationary from old hobbies/business I've taken up and lost interest ibut struggle to throw/or give to charity because 'what if I put on weight/lose weight', or because the number of steps involved in sorting and bagging/boxing up and taking to the place has me exhausted before I've started adn I know I would end up with boxes and bags everywhere all over the house and in the car that sit for months not making it to the dump or the charity bins. I also think I buy clothes as part of my ND struggles to accept myself as I am and fear of being judged or excluded in a bid to feel like I fit in. I could choose to wear the same dress to every work event and every celebration or something but I think unlike you, I don't have that confidence. I also think I likely get a dopamine hit from purchasing 'just the right thing' or from 'feeling like I look nice'. I am very creative so that adds to the aquiring of things. But I also have huge sensory sensitivity so too much clutter kills me, too much stuff feels overwhelming. Too much noise, the wrong lighting all that. I need different textures and I need different mugs, different plates, different glasses for different things or they don't 'feel right' to me. We are all different. And I think that you follow through on what makes you happy is a wonderful thing. I don't think you sound at all unhappy I think you are following through on setting the boundaries in your life that you need to feel good and to me you sound as if you have a very good clear sense of self.