Or is this victim blaming?

I wouldn’t say it’s quite that straightforward.

If your 15 year old daughter came downstairs with an incredibly short skirt, would you not advise her that it’s too short and to go and change it?

I think it’s awful that women have to even think of taking these precautions but ultimately, I believe the girl in the longer skirt would be of a lower risk of catcalling to the woman in the short skirt. And knowing that my daughter would be horrified at being catcalled, I would advise to wear the longer skirt. I don’t think that women are responsible for men’s abhorrent behaviour, but that there are ways to reduce the level of attention if that’s what is wanted.

But none of that equates to saying "there's a risk inherent in taking a man you barely know back to your hotel room" = "victim-blaming" which was, I think, the OP's initial point.

I have no idea what you are trying to say. Seems like quibbling over semantics.

How is it excellent? Are men at the wheel of a 2 tonne speeding penis hurtling down a road you step into? And no matter how they try to swerve, they just couldn't avoid cramming it up your hole?

Being around any man at all is a risk.

But some situations are inherently more risky than others, and acknowledging that isn't victim-blaming in my opinion.

This

As always, people are piling on with the ‘straw man’ argument.
Yes people get raised by boyfriends/husbands. DV /report it.
Yes people get raped by random strangers in the street - lots recently tho’ they tend not to get media coverage /report it.
The ‘grey’ area is where starstruck people, who by their own admission put their tongue in the anus of a complete stranger, whilst their best friend at the same time gives that man oral sex, pay to go to another of his gigs shortly afterwards, and then 20 years later accuse him of rape.

Excellent analogy.

As always, people are piling on with the ‘straw man’ argument.
Yes people get raised by boyfriends/husbands. DV /report it.
Yes people get raped by random strangers in the street - lots recently tho’ they tend not to get media coverage /report it.
The ‘grey’ area is where starstruck people, who by their own admission put their tongue in the anus of a complete stranger, whilst their best friend at the same time gives that man oral sex, pay to go to another of his gigs shortly afterwards, and then 20 years later accuse him of rape.

If that’s what you’ve taken from my posts then you clearly lack reading comprehension.

As always, people are piling on with the ‘straw man’ argument.
Yes people get raised by boyfriends/husbands. DV /report it.
Yes people get raped by random strangers in the street - lots recently tho’ they tend not to get media coverage /report it.
The ‘grey’ area is where starstruck people, who by their own admission put their tongue in the anus of a complete stranger, whilst their best friend at the same time gives that man oral sex, pay to go to another of his gigs shortly afterwards, and then 20 years later accuse him of rape.

Stranger rape is rare. Living with a man you know is statistically more risky than walking alone at night when it comes to the risk of rape.

It definitely doesn’t. But if she didn’t want to consent, why not just stay at home? He obviously didn’t want to know her for her amazing personality. She shouldn’t have to have stayed at home - she should be able to parade naked all around his house without him expecting sex in an ideal world. But obviously he was going to expect sex judging by their previous encounter, so why even go?

I don’t think she’s to blame at all - the rapist is always to blame. But the level of risk there was just insane!

If that’s what you’ve taken from my posts then you clearly lack reading comprehension.

Because it's really easy to remove your vagina so someone assumes you don't have one🤦🏼‍♀️

It definitely doesn’t. But if she didn’t want to consent, why not just stay at home? He obviously didn’t want to know her for her amazing personality. She shouldn’t have to have stayed at home - she should be able to parade naked all around his house without him expecting sex in an ideal world. But obviously he was going to expect sex judging by their previous encounter, so why even go?

I don’t think she’s to blame at all - the rapist is always to blame. But the level of risk there was just insane!

Fucking hell. It's depressing enough seeing this scummy kind of commentary from asshole men on twitter, but an apparent woman on mumsnet??
OP obviously your revolting views are victim blaming. You even got as far as well if she will go out dressed like that... Not to mention the suggestion that there is some sort of rape hierachy and stranger rape victims were asking for it more than women raped by people they know.
What is MOST interesting and depressing is the timing of this though. Some of Russell Brand's victims finally got justice yesterday. David Walliams finally stopped being able to injunct himself away from justice today. And today of all days THIS is what you chose to write on the subject of rape. Not how heinous those men are, or how brave their victims were, not what men can do to be better, no what you chose to add to the discourse was is it really victim blaming if I say I know rape is wrong but..... YES, yes it is victim blaming and it is shameful.

I suspect if you replace the word ‘vulnerable’ with ‘available’ you’ll be nearer the mark as to what this poster really thinks.

It definitely doesn’t. But if she didn’t want to consent, why not just stay at home? He obviously didn’t want to know her for her amazing personality. She shouldn’t have to have stayed at home - she should be able to parade naked all around his house without him expecting sex in an ideal world. But obviously he was going to expect sex judging by their previous encounter, so why even go?

I don’t think she’s to blame at all - the rapist is always to blame. But the level of risk there was just insane!