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To think the treatment of Camilla and Meghan Markle exposes a glaring double standard?

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ThatQuickLimePombear · 04/11/2026 20:30

If the Royal Family and the British public can find room for forgiveness, reinvention and a literal CROWN for Camilla, why does extending even a little grace to Meghan Markle seem to be such a controversial concept? I’m genuinely baffled as to why one woman can be rehabilitated to the point of becoming Queen while the other seems to be treated as irredeemable.

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Eyesopenwideawake · 04/11/2026 20:34

Camilla isn't a threat; she's lovely but her beauty is very much seen in Charles's eyes. She's also white. And don't be mistaken, there are many, many people who will never forgive her for being the person loved above the sainted Diana.

Meghan on the other hand is black, beautiful, opinionated and foreign. A full house.

ColdAsAWitches · 04/11/2026 20:35

It's not that baffling. She's a brown American,"not one of us". And people are idiots.

HRTQueen · 04/11/2026 20:36

Some can’t even bring themselves to feel sympathy towards her finding out that her father is being investigated for chilld abuse

I’m not baffled I think much of it is driven by racist opinions and feeling she got above herself

Thisusernameisalwaysavailable · 04/11/2026 20:36

Because Camilla just went about life quietly.

Thisusernameisalwaysavailable · 04/11/2026 20:38

ColdAsAWitches · 04/11/2026 20:35

It's not that baffling. She's a brown American,"not one of us". And people are idiots.

Oh yes, nothing to do with the fact she lied, mocked the institution she married into, complains loudly, makes herself the centre of everything, was shit at her job.

No all definitely because she has a hint of brown in her skin.

Flamingojune · 04/11/2026 20:39

Thisusernameisalwaysavailable · 04/11/2026 20:36

Because Camilla just went about life quietly.

Ah yes the world prefers quiet women

Zanatdy · 04/11/2026 20:39

Camilla had to wait a long time. So there’s hope for Megan. Especially in light of recent news re her father.

Arbourimage · 04/11/2026 20:39

Do most brits like Camilla?
I didn’t get the vibe feelings about Camilla particularly changed.

MagpiesAndJays · 04/11/2026 20:40

Aren't there enough threads about Meghan over there ---> in the Royal Family board?

No need for people's fixation on her for good or evil to bleed out from there.

Vaxtable · 04/11/2026 20:55

Cast your mind back to when Charles and Camilla first went public. Or Sophie and her sheik or Catherine and her waiting.

they all took the advice given of never complain never explain, all put their heads down ,cracked on with work, said nothing about the RF and worked hard

Meghan on the other hand, along with Harry, moves from crisis to crisis often of their own making refuses to take advice and believes slating the RF is the way to go

Thisusernameisalwaysavailable · 04/11/2026 20:57

Flamingojune · 04/11/2026 20:39

Ah yes the world prefers quiet women

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No we prefer people who don't complain, lie or belittle others

Flamingojune · 04/11/2026 20:59

Thisusernameisalwaysavailable · 04/11/2026 20:57

No we prefer people who don't complain, lie or belittle others

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So yes - quiet

seahorsessky · 04/11/2026 21:02

Some people have a problem that she said positive things about her dad in the 2022 Netflix thing, AFTER she got the letter, wasn't it? And there's no evidence Camilla got a similar letter but made positive comments.

LipglossAndLies · 04/11/2026 21:04

MagpiesAndJays · 04/11/2026 20:40

Aren't there enough threads about Meghan over there ---> in the Royal Family board?

No need for people's fixation on her for good or evil to bleed out from there.

Every now and again some poor soul opens the gates to hell...😆

BloodyRoses · 04/11/2026 21:05

I dont care much about what happens with the RF, l dont live in the UK. But I think we can all agree Harry's life has turned into a circus since he met Meghan. That might be all his doing, but together they're a bit of a shitshow.

Handbagsandoldcurtains · 04/11/2026 21:05

Last time I looked, Camilla didn’t tell quite so many whopping great lies and Hasn’t avoided reporting a relative for child sex abuse even though they claim to have known about it. Since 2018. Sorry 2019.

Genevieva · 04/11/2026 21:07

Camilla was treated horrifically back in the day. Charles is just bloody minded and wasn’t going to bend for any tabloid. I’m sure Harry has no intention of letting the media dictate his private life either. And I’ve not actually seen coverage of Meghan that is comparable to what Camilla received. Admittedly, I can’t read behind paywalls, but a lot of the tabloids seem quite favourable towards her much of the time. What exactly are you after? Harry and Meghan aren’t working royals. It’s Harry that seems to be the basket case, not Meghan. I feel more sorry for her being married to him than for anything I’ve seen in the tabloids of late.

Benjithedog · 04/11/2026 21:08

Nope. The Sussex’s have brought it all on themselves.

Thisusernameisalwaysavailable · 04/11/2026 21:08

Flamingojune · 04/11/2026 20:59

So yes - quiet

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Well I'm sure you are very proud of your children when they lie about things, complain loudly about things and belittle others and go "good on you darling for being loud!"

Being not a twat is ok.

Benjithedog · 04/11/2026 21:09

BloodyRoses · 04/11/2026 21:05

I dont care much about what happens with the RF, l dont live in the UK. But I think we can all agree Harry's life has turned into a circus since he met Meghan. That might be all his doing, but together they're a bit of a shitshow.

It has and he should be embarrassed at the turn it’s taken

Thecatspantaloons · 04/11/2026 21:09

Because she caused a massive genocide 😡 ..oh wait no, sorry wrong thread.

LighthouseKeepers · 04/11/2026 21:11

It took decades for Camilla to be accepted. It's just too soon for Meghan and not helped by their press campaigns.

Seagulldancing · 04/11/2026 21:12

Did I miss Camillas tell all interview on Oprah? No I didn't, and that tells you why they are treated differently.

Genevieva · 04/11/2026 21:13

Arbourimage · 04/11/2026 20:39

Do most brits like Camilla?
I didn’t get the vibe feelings about Camilla particularly changed.

I gather she’s very good at doing the dull UK engagements in village halls, where you drink stewed tea from Woods Ware tea cups and make small talk with octogenarians. Apparently she is good at getting people to feel jolly and relaxed. I think it’s easy to forget that for vast swathes of the population, an interaction like that will count for far more than any tabloid gossip column.

Dollymylove · 04/11/2026 21:13

Camilla never publicly trashed the Royal family. She maintained a dignified silence for years. Harry and Meghan have cooked their own goose. Harry keeps banging on about "reconciliation " and then does another interview taking hotshots at William. He needs to heed the old saying: least said, soonest mended, and just keep his gob shut