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To think the treatment of Camilla and Meghan Markle exposes a glaring double standard?

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ThatQuickLimePombear · 04/11/2026 20:30

If the Royal Family and the British public can find room for forgiveness, reinvention and a literal CROWN for Camilla, why does extending even a little grace to Meghan Markle seem to be such a controversial concept? I’m genuinely baffled as to why one woman can be rehabilitated to the point of becoming Queen while the other seems to be treated as irredeemable.

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CircusMaximus · Today 17:55

SevenYellowHammers · Today 17:45

A priori: you dislike her so you see bad in everything about her. And where’s the personal attack @CircusMaximus ? I go gently, I could tear posters to shreds given their dodgy reasoning and dreadful grammar. I’m being kind.

You will be unable to provide evidence to support your assumptions about me, so I will not ask for that.

You could tear me to shreds? I think you greatly over estimate your impact.

I think I am not the one with obsessive ideas. You asked for sources, I provided. You can’t handle that without getting personal.

EvieBB · Today 17:51

SevenYellowHammers · Yesterday 21:23

So to sum all that lot up:

They felt very vulnerable because they were chased by paps and this brought back trauma about mother’s death

They felt someone in the RF’s press office was stirring trouble

Meghan posted on social media and had a website . I did look at it once but couldn’t quite figure the point of it. But if drawer liners get you worked up , I guess it was incendiary.

Still can’t see the need for all the vitriol!

They weren't chased. It's impossible to get chased in gridlocked traffic. Again it's them sh_t stirring and needing attention and press. It's all very sad and disappointing

EvieBB · Today 17:50

SevenYellowHammers · Yesterday 22:48

I’ve just been looking at As Ever and then I looked at Highgrove House. Meghan’s jam and apple butter are overpriced. Highgrove’s raspberry cordial and praline chocolate collection is better value and you get a nice little tote with a crown on it. Based on that comparison and that comparison alone, I declare that Meghan must go to the Tower and thereafter to Tyburn to be executed on the same site as Cromwell.

You just don't get it 🙄

SevenYellowHammers · Today 17:45

CircusMaximus · Today 17:11

Then when they can’t bear to answer honestly, they resort to personal attacks.

A priori: you dislike her so you see bad in everything about her. And where’s the personal attack @CircusMaximus ? I go gently, I could tear posters to shreds given their dodgy reasoning and dreadful grammar. I’m being kind.

EvieBB · Today 17:33

Makeyourownmister · Today 13:40

I think the problem about making a snap judgement about a video clip is that you don’t know the full background.

Harry said in Spare that Meghan was a week overdue with Lilibet and had tried all other methods of inducing Labour like raspberry tea and eating spicy food.

So she tried a silly dance that mimicked the *Drake Family's viral TikTok rendition of Starrkeisha's "The Baby Momma Dance". that was popular in the US at the time and was doing the rounds on Tik Tok. (You can view the completely benign video on You Tube.)

The internet challenge involved heavily pregnant women performing a synchronised, high-energy dance routine which included hip-swaying to celebrate the final stages of pregnancy and encourage the baby's arrival.

It wasn’t a dance that M had just made up out of the blue and it was understood to be a lighthearted joke in the USA and completely or deliberately taken out of context by the British media.

Edited

Thanks for the context.

It certainly didn't land here in the UK the same as in the US in that case.
It's fine if you're not a royal or behind closed doors but I personally had second hand embarrassment for her being a supposed duchess 🫣😱😳 I was like Nooooo!

chapstickandfibs · Today 17:31

Yeah.

They lost me when they pulled out that card…

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EvieBB · Today 17:26

x2boys · Today 13:35

Whose we ?
Seriously just let the Oprah interview go .

Have a guess who "we" is 🙄
Why should I let it go?
Why don't you wake up instead?
She showed us who she is in that interview....and then it continued with the Netflix documentary and then the Netflix execs called them out for being lying grifters.
I cannot abide people who support such bullies

CircusMaximus · Today 17:11

SevenYellowHammers · Today 16:20

There is nothing there. You’re obsessed. A woman fell out with her extremely odd In laws. That’s it. There’s nothing but hot air.

Then when they can’t bear to answer honestly, they resort to personal attacks.

SevenYellowHammers · Today 16:20

CircusMaximus · Today 14:02

No one in the anti Meghan camp will ever tell me, beyond Oprah, where they get their media from. I have asked but they won’t say.

@SevenYellowHammers No one in the “I don’t understand” contingent ever replies when someone explains like I have above. They just wait for some time then recycle the question.

There is nothing there. You’re obsessed. A woman fell out with her extremely odd In laws. That’s it. There’s nothing but hot air.

Makeyourownmister · Today 15:34

simpsonthecat · Today 14:13

We will always hold her to account until she apologises. Which may be never. But in that case she will never be forgiven and will always be derided

Who are 'we'? And what is she apologising for? Doing an interview?
You don't speak for everyone you know. As for always deriding her, oh yes, that much is obvious, for some posters deriding her is as if their lives depended on it. They are unable to stop

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Absolutely this ^^ simpsonthecat,
I couldn’t agree more!

CircusMaximus · Today 15:33

countribution · Today 14:40

The point is yes you may choose to make silly videos but you're stupid to release them in public - of course you will get criticism.

“and it was understood to be a lighthearted joke in the USA and completely or deliberately taken out of context by the British media”

Not really true. It was not thought to be universally cute in US, either.

Jimsaidpeoplearestrange · Today 14:49

simpsonthecat · Today 12:10

a) whatever it's called (I don't really care what it's called), she was embarrassing herself massively - its was embrassing to even watch! It was all VERY undignified

Oooh Matron! How undignified! You are sounding like that daft bloke who advises on etiquette and when to use a fish fork !
If she wants to be undignified, she can! It's her choice surely?
Personally, I don't care, I really don't! I wish the actual working Royals would loosen up sometimes, it would make them far more relatable!

don't fall into the trap @simpsonthecat
that poster Hates Meghan and will keep trying to trip you up.

countribution · Today 14:40

Makeyourownmister · Today 13:40

I think the problem about making a snap judgement about a video clip is that you don’t know the full background.

Harry said in Spare that Meghan was a week overdue with Lilibet and had tried all other methods of inducing Labour like raspberry tea and eating spicy food.

So she tried a silly dance that mimicked the *Drake Family's viral TikTok rendition of Starrkeisha's "The Baby Momma Dance". that was popular in the US at the time and was doing the rounds on Tik Tok. (You can view the completely benign video on You Tube.)

The internet challenge involved heavily pregnant women performing a synchronised, high-energy dance routine which included hip-swaying to celebrate the final stages of pregnancy and encourage the baby's arrival.

It wasn’t a dance that M had just made up out of the blue and it was understood to be a lighthearted joke in the USA and completely or deliberately taken out of context by the British media.

Edited

The point is yes you may choose to make silly videos but you're stupid to release them in public - of course you will get criticism.

Benjithedog · Today 14:29

simpsonthecat · Today 14:13

We will always hold her to account until she apologises. Which may be never. But in that case she will never be forgiven and will always be derided

Who are 'we'? And what is she apologising for? Doing an interview?
You don't speak for everyone you know. As for always deriding her, oh yes, that much is obvious, for some posters deriding her is as if their lives depended on it. They are unable to stop

Edited

So do her defenders

simpsonthecat · Today 14:13

We will always hold her to account until she apologises. Which may be never. But in that case she will never be forgiven and will always be derided

Who are 'we'? And what is she apologising for? Doing an interview?
You don't speak for everyone you know. As for always deriding her, oh yes, that much is obvious, for some posters deriding her is as if their lives depended on it. They are unable to stop

Benjithedog · Today 14:05

x2boys · Today 13:46

Why do you care so much ?

Why do you?

CircusMaximus · Today 14:04

x2boys · Today 13:46

Why do you care so much ?

Mainly because it’s a common human feeling to be annoyed by someone who ignores societal norms and rules like “Be respectful to your spouse’s grandparents.”

CircusMaximus · Today 14:02

CircusMaximus · Yesterday 20:24

People got their media from:

Tom Bradby - interviewed Harry and Meghan for the ITV documentary Harry & Meghan: An African Journey.

Their Sussex Royal announcement about carving out a progressive new role.

The response to HMQE’s statement about their decision to step down as working royals:
a spokesperson for the Duke and Duchess of Sussex released a statement in response declaring: "We can all live a life of service. Service is universal."

Oprah Interview

People Magazine excerpts of Meghan’s letter to her father leaked with permission by friends.

ANL trial - Meghan’s lawsuit when further letter excerpts were printed. Jason Knauf’s testimony. Meghan’s apology for “misleading” the court.

Spare

Netflix Documentary

Making a virtual stranger their child’s godfather.

The Cut Interview

Twerking Video

Meghan’s instagram

As Ever

ANL trial where Harry claimed not to know Carolyn Griffiths.

Press photos of peace talks between their staff and Charles’ which they complained were the result of Buckingham Palace leaks.

Carolyn Griffiths article proving Harry lied about a number of things including the leaks. (Call is coming from inside the house, Harry).

This is not a full list of the primary sources on which I formed an opinion of them.

No one in the anti Meghan camp will ever tell me, beyond Oprah, where they get their media from. I have asked but they won’t say.

@SevenYellowHammers No one in the “I don’t understand” contingent ever replies when someone explains like I have above. They just wait for some time then recycle the question.

EmotionalSupportCuttlefish · Today 14:01

CandCMusicFactory · 05/11/2026 06:43

Hardly. Camilla has benefitted from a sustained, decades long PR campaign, quietly wooing sympathetic journalists to her cause.

Journalists, yes because she is part of their bread and butter but a large portion of the general public just accept that she is queen consort because there is no choice in the matter. Most people find her (and Charles') behaviour abhorrent I think.

x2boys · Today 13:46

Benjithedog · Today 13:40

Why? It’s evidence of the many lies.

Why do you care so much ?

Benjithedog · Today 13:40

x2boys · Today 13:35

Whose we ?
Seriously just let the Oprah interview go .

Why? It’s evidence of the many lies.

Makeyourownmister · Today 13:40

EvieBB · Today 11:16

a) whatever it's called (I don't really care what it's called), she was embarrassing herself massively - its was embrassing to even watch! It was all VERY undignified.

b) I agree - I also thought the fake bump sounded deranged when that story was first put out there and then I saw the pictures put out on social media of the bump slipping as they day went on 😳
Were they photoshopped do you think? Perhaps....Although many celebs have surrogates carry their babies, so it's not beyond the realms of possibility. There are stories from her ex husband that she's unable to carry a child so who knows. She's the kind of person who would try to pull a stunt like that so I really wouldn't be surprised. Plus when she was twerking/dancing/embarrasing herself her bump was very 'bouncy'. Real preganancy bumps just don't do that. She can't even lie convincingly. She really doesn't do her homework. Shoddy. Half arsed planning. As with everything she does.

I think the problem about making a snap judgement about a video clip is that you don’t know the full background.

Harry said in Spare that Meghan was a week overdue with Lilibet and had tried all other methods of inducing Labour like raspberry tea and eating spicy food.

So she tried a silly dance that mimicked the *Drake Family's viral TikTok rendition of Starrkeisha's "The Baby Momma Dance". that was popular in the US at the time and was doing the rounds on Tik Tok. (You can view the completely benign video on You Tube.)

The internet challenge involved heavily pregnant women performing a synchronised, high-energy dance routine which included hip-swaying to celebrate the final stages of pregnancy and encourage the baby's arrival.

It wasn’t a dance that M had just made up out of the blue and it was understood to be a lighthearted joke in the USA and completely or deliberately taken out of context by the British media.

x2boys · Today 13:35

EvieBB · Today 13:27

It's not twaddle. Her bump looked overly bouncy to me and even to midwives!. Whatever, I don't really care if her pregancy was fake or not. I really don't. It was just an observation. Either way she demeaned herself acting that way. She's supposed to be a duchess fgs 🙄

However I do care that she's a manipulative liar and thinks she can say what she did on Oprah and Netflix documentary and get away with it. She can't. We will always hold her to account until she apologises. Which may be never. But in that case she will never be forgiven and will always be derided.

Whose we ?
Seriously just let the Oprah interview go .

Benjithedog · Today 13:33

CircusMaximus · Today 12:48

A challenge: ask your husband if he would be interested in filming a dance with you to post on social media.

Sorry to interject but it would have been a firm no from my husband. Plus I couldn’t get down that low because by that stage my knees could only manage a very slight bend and that was it

EvieBB · Today 13:32

simpsonthecat · Today 12:10

a) whatever it's called (I don't really care what it's called), she was embarrassing herself massively - its was embrassing to even watch! It was all VERY undignified

Oooh Matron! How undignified! You are sounding like that daft bloke who advises on etiquette and when to use a fish fork !
If she wants to be undignified, she can! It's her choice surely?
Personally, I don't care, I really don't! I wish the actual working Royals would loosen up sometimes, it would make them far more relatable!

Well I do apologise if I have standards! If she was a normal celeb fine. If she wanted to do that behind close doors - absolutely fine. But she's trying to tell us she's a bloody duchess! You can't cling on to that title like she does and then behave like that. It's completely undignified. She has no idea. That's my opinion and I'm absolutely sticking to it.

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