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To think the treatment of Camilla and Meghan Markle exposes a glaring double standard?

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ThatQuickLimePombear · 04/11/2026 20:30

If the Royal Family and the British public can find room for forgiveness, reinvention and a literal CROWN for Camilla, why does extending even a little grace to Meghan Markle seem to be such a controversial concept? I’m genuinely baffled as to why one woman can be rehabilitated to the point of becoming Queen while the other seems to be treated as irredeemable.

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JHound · Today 09:45

ThatQuickLimePombear · 04/11/2026 20:30

If the Royal Family and the British public can find room for forgiveness, reinvention and a literal CROWN for Camilla, why does extending even a little grace to Meghan Markle seem to be such a controversial concept? I’m genuinely baffled as to why one woman can be rehabilitated to the point of becoming Queen while the other seems to be treated as irredeemable.

I have not RTFT but as I recall it took ages for most of the British public to come round to Camilla. Literally years.

Harry and Megs have only been together two business days in comparison.

But I am sure at some point people will get over their deranged obsession with her.

JHound · Today 09:53

EvieBB · Yesterday 23:53

Exactly.
It's all there for people to see.
I had second hand embarrassment for her watching that twerking video 🙈 WTF did she think she looked like?! Omg!!
It did also make me wonder if her bump was real (my sister is a midwife and strongly suspects her bump was as fake - you can't move like that a few hours from giving birth!)

a) She was not twerking
b) The comment about her bump being fake sounds deranged.

JHound · Today 09:55

user1468761869 · Today 06:07

Charles never intended to end things with Camilla, while Diana was a young woman manipulated into marrying him to produce an heir. It was deeply unfair, misogynistic and exposed just how outdated and out of touch the institution was. It is misogynistic to expect Diana to stay faithful.

She really wasn’t manipulated into marrying him. She was fully aware what she was doing and what she wanted for herself.

Makeyourownmister · Today 10:00

JHound · Today 09:55

She really wasn’t manipulated into marrying him. She was fully aware what she was doing and what she wanted for herself.

To the extent that all nineteen year olds are aware I suppose?

EvieBB · Today 10:04

CircusMaximus · Today 00:13

@EvieBB That was sarcasm.

My apologies 🙏

SevenYellowHammers · Today 10:25

user1468761869 · Today 09:42

This is what you have chosen to retain? Meghan was also on maternity leave after giving birth to Archie during this period.

She is an intelligent, strong woman who knows exactly how to turn the media's hostility to her advantage, playing the game on her own terms. Ironically, in today's digital world, those who spend so much time hating and criticising her are often the very people contributing most to her wealth, keeping her name, profile and commercial value firmly in the spotlight.

The bigger issue is that attitudes towards women in the public eye concern every woman. The constant scrutiny, undermining and hostility directed at women should concern us all.
Rather than indulging in this utterly bonkers speculation about moon bumps and who made whom cry, I would much rather see people demanding accountability from Andrew.

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“The bigger issue is that attitudes towards women in the public eye concern every woman. The constant scrutiny, undermining and hostility directed at women should concern us all.”

That’s it exactly ⬆️

countribution · Today 10:28

SevenYellowHammers · Today 10:25

“The bigger issue is that attitudes towards women in the public eye concern every woman. The constant scrutiny, undermining and hostility directed at women should concern us all.”

That’s it exactly ⬆️

You can have more than one cause. 🤷‍♀️

CircusMaximus · Today 10:52

SevenYellowHammers · Today 08:36

I’m sorry… I was taking the piss. Perhaps shouldn’t have. I was misguidedly trying to use a bit of humour to make the haters see how silly they are. 🕊️

Ignored because I thought it was unhinged, even while recognising that you were being sarcastic. If you think you were teaching me something by responding that way, you need another think.

I also ignored the comments about the bump being fake, because I feel accusations like that it should not be given attention,

Marriage; off limits.
Looks; positive comments only.
Bodies; no way

Behaviour; game on.
Fashion; yes indeed
Friendships; absolutely

It’s tiresome repeatedly reading that it’s all racism and it’s all the media causing people to judge. It’s very much not.

Also, posters here were alive and well and posting away during the “where is Kate”
debacle including making shitty comments about their marriage, their children, etc. they forgave themselves and most of them name changed. They have no high ground.

CircusMaximus · Today 10:52

countribution · Today 10:28

You can have more than one cause. 🤷‍♀️

You can have more than one standard, too and often these posters who think Meghan never put a foot wrong do.

simpsonthecat · Today 11:05

Why is it so black and white and why do posters insist that there are posters who think she has never put a foot wrong?
I think she has put many feet wrong! But I also think she doesn't deserve the kicking she gets day in day out when she hasn't done anything wrong.

EvieBB · Today 11:16

JHound · Today 09:53

a) She was not twerking
b) The comment about her bump being fake sounds deranged.

a) whatever it's called (I don't really care what it's called), she was embarrassing herself massively - its was embrassing to even watch! It was all VERY undignified.

b) I agree - I also thought the fake bump sounded deranged when that story was first put out there and then I saw the pictures put out on social media of the bump slipping as they day went on 😳
Were they photoshopped do you think? Perhaps....Although many celebs have surrogates carry their babies, so it's not beyond the realms of possibility. There are stories from her ex husband that she's unable to carry a child so who knows. She's the kind of person who would try to pull a stunt like that so I really wouldn't be surprised. Plus when she was twerking/dancing/embarrasing herself her bump was very 'bouncy'. Real preganancy bumps just don't do that. She can't even lie convincingly. She really doesn't do her homework. Shoddy. Half arsed planning. As with everything she does.

SevenYellowHammers · Today 11:18

JHound · Today 09:53

a) She was not twerking
b) The comment about her bump being fake sounds deranged.

You can’t “move like that” after birth but apparently she should, immediately after giving birth, got up, grabbed baby and posed on steps of hospital for the media

CircusMaximus · Today 11:23

SevenYellowHammers · Today 11:18

You can’t “move like that” after birth but apparently she should, immediately after giving birth, got up, grabbed baby and posed on steps of hospital for the media

According to you. Not everyone held that opinion. I was quite supportive of them doing whatever they wished.

SevenYellowHammers · Today 11:24

EvieBB · Today 11:16

a) whatever it's called (I don't really care what it's called), she was embarrassing herself massively - its was embrassing to even watch! It was all VERY undignified.

b) I agree - I also thought the fake bump sounded deranged when that story was first put out there and then I saw the pictures put out on social media of the bump slipping as they day went on 😳
Were they photoshopped do you think? Perhaps....Although many celebs have surrogates carry their babies, so it's not beyond the realms of possibility. There are stories from her ex husband that she's unable to carry a child so who knows. She's the kind of person who would try to pull a stunt like that so I really wouldn't be surprised. Plus when she was twerking/dancing/embarrasing herself her bump was very 'bouncy'. Real preganancy bumps just don't do that. She can't even lie convincingly. She really doesn't do her homework. Shoddy. Half arsed planning. As with everything she does.

What utter, utter twaddle. Everyone’s bump is different. I’m pretty tall and sturdy and didn’t even have a bump until 8 months, I also rode and handled horses. The bump didn’t really effect me at all but was definitely there and is now at uni 😂

CircusMaximus · Today 11:36

SevenYellowHammers · Today 11:24

What utter, utter twaddle. Everyone’s bump is different. I’m pretty tall and sturdy and didn’t even have a bump until 8 months, I also rode and handled horses. The bump didn’t really effect me at all but was definitely there and is now at uni 😂

The problem with talking about it is then you’re talking about it.

SevenYellowHammers · Today 11:36

CircusMaximus · Today 11:23

According to you. Not everyone held that opinion. I was quite supportive of them doing whatever they wished.

No , sorry I was too. I meant she got criticised for not parading about post partum like her poor mother in law had to.

CircusMaximus · Today 11:41

SevenYellowHammers · Today 11:36

No , sorry I was too. I meant she got criticised for not parading about post partum like her poor mother in law had to.

In some quarters. By some people. It’s not fair but it is fact that it’s impossible to avoid criticism if you are in the public eye.

simpsonthecat · Today 12:10

a) whatever it's called (I don't really care what it's called), she was embarrassing herself massively - its was embrassing to even watch! It was all VERY undignified

Oooh Matron! How undignified! You are sounding like that daft bloke who advises on etiquette and when to use a fish fork !
If she wants to be undignified, she can! It's her choice surely?
Personally, I don't care, I really don't! I wish the actual working Royals would loosen up sometimes, it would make them far more relatable!

CircusMaximus · Today 12:15

simpsonthecat · Today 12:10

a) whatever it's called (I don't really care what it's called), she was embarrassing herself massively - its was embrassing to even watch! It was all VERY undignified

Oooh Matron! How undignified! You are sounding like that daft bloke who advises on etiquette and when to use a fish fork !
If she wants to be undignified, she can! It's her choice surely?
Personally, I don't care, I really don't! I wish the actual working Royals would loosen up sometimes, it would make them far more relatable!

You do not need to care. Does that mean no one else will think it’s cringe-worthy?

simpsonthecat · Today 12:20

You've given your opinion. I followed it up with mine.
That's it really.

CircusMaximus · Today 12:25

simpsonthecat · Today 12:20

You've given your opinion. I followed it up with mine.
That's it really.

Thank you for sharing your opinion.

SevenYellowHammers · Today 12:32

CircusMaximus · Today 11:36

The problem with talking about it is then you’re talking about it.

Yeah fair enough…

CircusMaximus · Today 12:48

SevenYellowHammers · Today 12:32

Yeah fair enough…

A challenge: ask your husband if he would be interested in filming a dance with you to post on social media.

EvieBB · Today 13:27

SevenYellowHammers · Today 11:24

What utter, utter twaddle. Everyone’s bump is different. I’m pretty tall and sturdy and didn’t even have a bump until 8 months, I also rode and handled horses. The bump didn’t really effect me at all but was definitely there and is now at uni 😂

It's not twaddle. Her bump looked overly bouncy to me and even to midwives!. Whatever, I don't really care if her pregancy was fake or not. I really don't. It was just an observation. Either way she demeaned herself acting that way. She's supposed to be a duchess fgs 🙄

However I do care that she's a manipulative liar and thinks she can say what she did on Oprah and Netflix documentary and get away with it. She can't. We will always hold her to account until she apologises. Which may be never. But in that case she will never be forgiven and will always be derided.

EvieBB · Today 13:32

simpsonthecat · Today 12:10

a) whatever it's called (I don't really care what it's called), she was embarrassing herself massively - its was embrassing to even watch! It was all VERY undignified

Oooh Matron! How undignified! You are sounding like that daft bloke who advises on etiquette and when to use a fish fork !
If she wants to be undignified, she can! It's her choice surely?
Personally, I don't care, I really don't! I wish the actual working Royals would loosen up sometimes, it would make them far more relatable!

Well I do apologise if I have standards! If she was a normal celeb fine. If she wanted to do that behind close doors - absolutely fine. But she's trying to tell us she's a bloody duchess! You can't cling on to that title like she does and then behave like that. It's completely undignified. She has no idea. That's my opinion and I'm absolutely sticking to it.

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