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To think the treatment of Camilla and Meghan Markle exposes a glaring double standard?

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ThatQuickLimePombear · 04/11/2026 20:30

If the Royal Family and the British public can find room for forgiveness, reinvention and a literal CROWN for Camilla, why does extending even a little grace to Meghan Markle seem to be such a controversial concept? I’m genuinely baffled as to why one woman can be rehabilitated to the point of becoming Queen while the other seems to be treated as irredeemable.

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TheoriginalMrsDarcy · 05/11/2026 08:48

I dont like MM because she is disingenuous. She tries to come across as this approachable, relatable 'royal'. Time and again she has shown her true feelings through her actions and they way she presents herself. This has nothing to do with her colour, race, gender or being American as some would allege.

Her and 'just call me Harry' want all the trappings of wealth, privilege, protection and glory but want none of the work associated with that. They want the police protection but none of the work just because they are non working royal. Harry partly brings it upon himself for writing about how many 'kills' he did in his book. He openly writes and slanders the Royal Family in his book for money knowing his family wont retaliate. They wont retaliate because he is still their family and also its not protocol. I suspect she encourages him to do this. If they had genuine complaints then fine but there are people out there who are so much more worse off than these 2 but they are only blindsided by their own needs and wants and openly publically broadcast this regularly.

The couple goes on Netflix and Opera to air 'their truth'. But have they ever considered the otherside of the coin? have they considered their truth might not be the right truth? In short, they show they can be bought for money. Whereas the rest of the RF show they cant be bought and they wont sell out family for millions.

Who goes live and says we're now on the 'freedom flight'? They obviously felt hemmed in but now they want to come back? The pairnof them, tail between their legs asking to be relevant again because theyve used up all their goodwill in USA.

Who does a talk show selling their 'As Ever' then tells people 'im Sussex now'. Shes promoting her status. She feels fake to me.

MM just isnt humble... personally what annoys me about her is that she had every opportunity and one of the biggest platform in the world to support and promote people of colour and she gave it all away for cash. Thats all shes interested in, making money and putting herself centre stage when she could have done so much good and highlight charities.

Camilla does not betray the family, has stood by KCs side for the past 30 years and got on with her charitable work.

BusyGreySnail · 05/11/2026 08:49

Handbagsandoldcurtains · 04/11/2026 21:05

Last time I looked, Camilla didn’t tell quite so many whopping great lies and Hasn’t avoided reporting a relative for child sex abuse even though they claim to have known about it. Since 2018. Sorry 2019.

Do we really think that the royal family, including Camilla, had no clue about Andrew? If we are talking double standards on reporting a paedophile the Royal family really does not have a leg to stand on. In fact their head paid a lot of money to protect him.

lazyarse123 · 05/11/2026 08:52

BrickMaker · 05/11/2026 06:31

Because she's Black. And intelligent. And has boundaries. And people are racist.

Nothing to do with it. The horrible way she treats people and inserts herself front and centre is why a lot of people don't like her. Not a fan of Diana either but she was treated badly by the rf.

Hellohelga · 05/11/2026 08:54

Camilla has quiet dignity that people like and respect. She never complained or criticised when the press was against her. She has been unfailingly loyal and supportive the the RF.

Singasonga · 05/11/2026 09:00

Dolphinnoises · 05/11/2026 08:09

You guys are all a lot younger than me. All the horrible things about Camilla have already been said. The media is now bored and looking for fresh blood.

Kate had her turn as well. They hounded her out of her job at Jigsaw and when her parents offered her a job at Party Pieces instead (which was a successful, medium-sized company pre-Covid) mocked her as doing nothing.

You should have seen them when she and William briefly broke up. His friends went to town slagging her and her mum off. Apparently one of the things which marked her out as unsuitable was liking tomatoes. I don’t know who said this to the papers but it always stuck in my mind because it’s so batshit!

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Yes, I remember that! There’s always good media value in RF strife.

I always smile when people lay out their careful rationalisations for why it’s okay for them to dislike a complete stranger. They’ve just picked up on a press narrative, and it appeals to them for one reason or another. But if you consider the RF things that haven’t really hit the press until there was no other choice (cough Andrew Mountbatten), you’d think more people might ask themselves if everything they’re reading is the actual dirt!

Dweetfidilove · 05/11/2026 09:00

EvieBB · 05/11/2026 02:13

Nothing to do with Meghan being (supposedly) black. She looks Greek more than anything! Nope it's everything to do with Meghan being a lying, manipulative mean girl!

Oh my Lord! Don't tell me that black woman has only been pretending to be her mother 😳!
That lying, manipulative mean girl sure had me fooled. Just too much - I'm off to lie down 🤦🏾‍♀️!

Pedant61 · 05/11/2026 09:00

Sartre · 05/11/2026 04:52

I think this too. I don’t think anyone ever really warmed to Camilla or accepted her. Everyone still loves Diana.

"Everyone" doesn't still love Diana.
I remember the 1981 wedding, and I now feel sorry for both Diana and Charles, because they clearly were so unsuited.
I think Camilla is fabulous, and would love to meet her. She has tolerated some terrible press, never complained, rolled up her sleeves and got on with the royal duties she almost certainly never wanted. She also understands where she fits in the royal "pecking order".
Whereas Meghan never even tried to learn the rules, treated the late Queen appallingly, and thinks the whole show should be about her. There is no comparison - her behaviour has been appalling (and I do include Harry in this criticism).

MrsShawnHatosy · 05/11/2026 09:01

I think the issue with Meghan is that she didn’t want to be a working Royal. She wanted the perks without the boring stuff. Not unlike Fergie actually.

Hydrangeblueeyes · 05/11/2026 09:05

Probably because Camilla has not drawn attention to her self with a neverending narcissistic circus and just got on with the job in hand ( at least in public) . I not a fan of royals but even I can see that.

montysmaw · 05/11/2026 09:13

Thisusernameisalwaysavailable · 04/11/2026 20:57

No we prefer people who don't complain, lie or belittle others

Do we prefer people who maintain a lengthy affair with a married man?

UncleColm · 05/11/2026 09:20

sesquipedalian · 05/11/2026 07:05

All this stuff about racism because Meghan is “black” is nonsense. When Harry first got together with her, the British public were happy for Harry and prepared to give her a chance. She got the great big white wedding she wanted (at vast expense) despite being a divorcee, but she got the hump because she couldn’t bend a traditional institution to her will, was always going to be married to the “spare” and thus increasingly unimportant as time went on, and declared that she couldn’t believe she was doing royal engagements “without being paid”. She thought it would be all glitz and glamour, whereas Camilla understands that there is a lot of tedium involved in State Dinners, hospital visiting and cutting ribbons. Camilla has never belittled the family into which she married, nor sought to monetise the Royal Family, nor has she said she wants privacy while doing everything in her power to court publicity, particularly when other members of the Royal family are on public engagements. Meghan simply does not understand the institution into which she has married; Camilla does.

This post encapsulates my thoughts exactly

Topseyt123 · 05/11/2026 09:46

montysmaw · 05/11/2026 09:13

Do we prefer people who maintain a lengthy affair with a married man?

I think you could say that the affair was maintained/rekindled or however you like to put it because stuffy and ridiculous "protocol" had deemed Camilla not the right marriage material for an heir to the throne. How blinkered and short sighted that ridiculous "protocol" was! And how very damaging to all concerned.

I remember watching Charles and Diana's wedding in 1981 and noting that neither of them looked at all happy. It seems they weren't.

Of course an affair is wrong. But so is forcing two totally unsuitable people (Charles and Diana) into a marriage that was never going to work and just expecting them to get on with it. That's what the royal family did, especially the Queen and Prince Philip.

Remember, the sainted Diana also had affairs and both she and Charles gave public interviews.

The whole thing was brought about by the royals themselves, especially the rigid and foolish adherence to a mad protocol.

Benjithedog · 05/11/2026 09:48

BusyGreySnail · 05/11/2026 08:49

Do we really think that the royal family, including Camilla, had no clue about Andrew? If we are talking double standards on reporting a paedophile the Royal family really does not have a leg to stand on. In fact their head paid a lot of money to protect him.

If that’s the case neither do the Sussex’s who knew about her father for 8/9 years and who also said nothing

Irishlinen · 05/11/2026 09:49

Public option wasn’t pro Camilla originally, however over time people have accepted her, seen her positive qualities. The difference is Camilla isn’t broadcast her views or criticised her husband’s family publicly. This is not a racist issue.

Brickiscool · 05/11/2026 09:49

Camilla has quietly got on with life. She is working hard to support her husband, work for the country, take on charity work. She was initially vilified by the press but just kept her head down. She has never sold a story. She has never made her husband step down from public duties whilst still thinking he has the right to security paid for by the country he is no longer working for.
I'm not sure why you would compare the two ladies?

thisismeithinkorisit · 05/11/2026 09:52

she's not Queen because she's been rehabilitated, it wasn't a public vote. she was married to the dude who became king.

and also, rehabilitated from what? they had an affair, but she didn't slander his family in the news, try and make money of her connections etc. once they were both single, she wasn't doing snyth5 wrong. she's kept her focus on being the Kings wife, and doing what's expected of her.

I don't think MM deserves all the shit she gets but the circumstances are entirely different

thisismeithinkorisit · 05/11/2026 09:53

Irishlinen · 05/11/2026 09:49

Public option wasn’t pro Camilla originally, however over time people have accepted her, seen her positive qualities. The difference is Camilla isn’t broadcast her views or criticised her husband’s family publicly. This is not a racist issue.

and tbh there still lots of "she's not MY Queen, only Diana is the true Queen" crap out there, but same people just ignore it

DuckFilledPlatitude · 05/11/2026 09:57

Aside from Elizabeth II, I struggle to think of a female Royal who hasn't at some point been utterly vilified by the press and large swathes of the public. Even the sainted Diana, all through the summer of 1997, was being jeered at and condemned for her romance with Dodi, until she was canonised overnight when she tragically died.

Blood royals have suffered this too - the York princesses leap to mind - but particularly women who have married into or been romantically linked with senior royals. Fergie, who was flavour of the month for a while but then had the audacity to gain weight when she was pregnant. Catherine, in the 'waity Katie' era. Camilla, for years and years in the wake of tampon gate.

It's misogyny, and in Meghan's case it's misogyny with an added dose of racism.

leftorrightnow · 05/11/2026 09:58

How anyone cares about any member of this feudal, outdated institution is beyond me, but of course us peasants have all been raised to care about our over lords.

Meghan is still a thousand times more privileged than 99.9 percent of the UK public, of any skin colour, so to be frank I don’t really feel sorry for her.

do yourself a favour and spend your time and energy thinking about how make your own lives and those of fellow peasants better (we could start with a quick little revolution).

Benjithedog · 05/11/2026 10:03

DuckFilledPlatitude · 05/11/2026 09:57

Aside from Elizabeth II, I struggle to think of a female Royal who hasn't at some point been utterly vilified by the press and large swathes of the public. Even the sainted Diana, all through the summer of 1997, was being jeered at and condemned for her romance with Dodi, until she was canonised overnight when she tragically died.

Blood royals have suffered this too - the York princesses leap to mind - but particularly women who have married into or been romantically linked with senior royals. Fergie, who was flavour of the month for a while but then had the audacity to gain weight when she was pregnant. Catherine, in the 'waity Katie' era. Camilla, for years and years in the wake of tampon gate.

It's misogyny, and in Meghan's case it's misogyny with an added dose of racism.

What rubbish. Everyone being so
called racist toward Megan is what the fans cling onto and it’s not true. It’s used as a way to shut down ANY legitimate criticism of their heroine. And you know what? That’s cards been played and it doesn’t work anymore.

BusyGreySnail · 05/11/2026 10:04

Benjithedog · 05/11/2026 09:48

If that’s the case neither do the Sussex’s who knew about her father for 8/9 years and who also said nothing

My post was in response to that point exactly. If you are comparing the two and saying Camilla didn't not report known sexual abuse of children, then yes, yes she did.

DuckFilledPlatitude · 05/11/2026 10:09

Benjithedog · 05/11/2026 10:03

What rubbish. Everyone being so
called racist toward Megan is what the fans cling onto and it’s not true. It’s used as a way to shut down ANY legitimate criticism of their heroine. And you know what? That’s cards been played and it doesn’t work anymore.

I would not call myself a 'fan' of Meghan. I don't watch any of the sort of TV or content that she makes - I have no interest at all in 'lifestyle' TV or social media content.

But you don't have to be a fan of someone or even to like them to recognise when they are being unfairly victimised.

EvieBB · 05/11/2026 10:40

Dweetfidilove · 05/11/2026 09:00

Oh my Lord! Don't tell me that black woman has only been pretending to be her mother 😳!
That lying, manipulative mean girl sure had me fooled. Just too much - I'm off to lie down 🤦🏾‍♀️!

Your reading comprehension may be lacking here. I didn't say she was lying about who her mother is. Of course we know she has a mixed race black mother (as do my nieces and nephews) but she herself doesn't look black but tries to use the race card to deflect from her poor behaviour

Dweetfidilove · 05/11/2026 10:54

EvieBB · 05/11/2026 10:40

Your reading comprehension may be lacking here. I didn't say she was lying about who her mother is. Of course we know she has a mixed race black mother (as do my nieces and nephews) but she herself doesn't look black but tries to use the race card to deflect from her poor behaviour

Okay 😃😃😃

Benjithedog · 05/11/2026 11:09

DuckFilledPlatitude · 05/11/2026 10:09

I would not call myself a 'fan' of Meghan. I don't watch any of the sort of TV or content that she makes - I have no interest at all in 'lifestyle' TV or social media content.

But you don't have to be a fan of someone or even to like them to recognise when they are being unfairly victimised.

Why on earth would you think they are being unfairly criticised? They are being criticised and held to account for their lies and behaviour. They are not beyond reproach.

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