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To think the treatment of Camilla and Meghan Markle exposes a glaring double standard?

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ThatQuickLimePombear · 04/11/2026 20:30

If the Royal Family and the British public can find room for forgiveness, reinvention and a literal CROWN for Camilla, why does extending even a little grace to Meghan Markle seem to be such a controversial concept? I’m genuinely baffled as to why one woman can be rehabilitated to the point of becoming Queen while the other seems to be treated as irredeemable.

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soupcondiment · 05/11/2026 12:59

MNs is batshit about Meg though a lot of it is wrapped up in classism, racism & sexism.

Benjithedog · 05/11/2026 13:44

soupcondiment · 05/11/2026 12:59

MNs is batshit about Meg though a lot of it is wrapped up in classism, racism & sexism.

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It’s none of those things sorry to disappoint you. And that cards already been played and no one is buying it.

TheCabbageMerchant · 05/11/2026 13:53

LeftieRightsHoarder · 05/11/2026 12:07

Yes, as I said, Charles’s unfaithfulness and gaslighting sent her off the rails.

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Nah, she was always batshit.

Thisusernameisalwaysavailable · 05/11/2026 14:27

soupcondiment · 05/11/2026 12:56

Recollections must vary because the affair & tampon gate were very noisy and constantly in the papers!

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ha ha i mean recently - have you seen her moaning and doing interviews and slagging people off and lying on tv etc

HRTQueen · 05/11/2026 14:30

Dollymylove · 04/11/2026 21:13

Camilla never publicly trashed the Royal family. She maintained a dignified silence for years. Harry and Meghan have cooked their own goose. Harry keeps banging on about "reconciliation " and then does another interview taking hotshots at William. He needs to heed the old saying: least said, soonest mended, and just keep his gob shut

You really still believe the narrative of the royals and those close to them remain silent

their side of the story that they and their aides want the public to know is always very carefully managed they do not and never have remained silent

pilates · 05/11/2026 14:34

BrickMaker · 05/11/2026 06:31

Because she's Black. And intelligent. And has boundaries. And people are racist.

Such a poor argument … can’t you think of anything more original?

From The Tig:-

"Grown women seem to retain this childhood fantasy. Just look at the pomp and circumstance surrounding the royal wedding and endless conversation about Princess Kate."

Deep-rooted jealousy and yet she enjoyed all the same pomp and pageantry.

Also, she claimed on OW she didn’t know much about the British royal family.

Another lie.

Not that intelligent is she?

SevenYellowHammers · 05/11/2026 14:34

Aside from the obvious race issue? I think those weird HAM people might have a tiny point about PR. Camilla’s was sensationally well done.

soupcondiment · 05/11/2026 15:18

Thisusernameisalwaysavailable · 05/11/2026 14:27

ha ha i mean recently - have you seen her moaning and doing interviews and slagging people off and lying on tv etc

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My point was her activity wasn’t always quiet! Tbf Meg may mellow in her later age.

soupcondiment · 05/11/2026 15:19

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Millytante · 05/11/2026 15:25

soupcondiment · 05/11/2026 12:56

Recollections must vary because the affair & tampon gate were very noisy and constantly in the papers!

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But not at C&C’s instigation.

Benjithedog · 05/11/2026 15:31

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It says nothing about me at all (only your wishful thinking). And the personal attacks start again based on no proof whataoever. It’s getting boring now.

soupcondiment · 05/11/2026 15:36

@BenjithedogWishful thinking? what are you going on about?! You don’t have to agree with me I just disagree that you speak for everyone!

Credittocress · 05/11/2026 15:36

Camilla got an absolute horrid time of it. When she married Charles they declared she would never be queen because 93% of the population was opposed to it. Camilla was unpopular at the start- primarily due to the public loyalty to Diana. Meghan was popular at the start and then through behaviour had seen her popularity drop. They aren’t comparable at all

soupcondiment · 05/11/2026 15:37

How is it a personal attack to challenge the notion that you know how everyone who dislikes Meg thinks?!

Benjithedog · 05/11/2026 15:37

soupcondiment · 05/11/2026 15:36

@BenjithedogWishful thinking? what are you going on about?! You don’t have to agree with me I just disagree that you speak for everyone!

No you weren’t. You were accusing me of something in your comment which has now been deleted.

soupcondiment · 05/11/2026 15:38

@Millytantewell they instigated the affair which isn’t the best path for a quiet life!

Benjithedog · 05/11/2026 15:39

soupcondiment · 05/11/2026 15:38

@Millytantewell they instigated the affair which isn’t the best path for a quiet life!

But they didn’t instigate having their phone tapped.

soupcondiment · 05/11/2026 15:40

@BenjithedogI think there is an element of racism, sexism & classism in the dislike of her. You disagree with that but i don’t understand how you can speak for all those who dislike her & know their motivations?

soupcondiment · 05/11/2026 15:40

Benjithedog · 05/11/2026 15:39

But they didn’t instigate having their phone tapped.

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Where did I say they did?

AlexandraCarrington · 05/11/2026 15:42

Camilla’s was sensationally well done.

Camilla's PR seems to have consisted of her knowing how to conduct herself in public.

Credittocress · 05/11/2026 15:46

soupcondiment · 05/11/2026 15:40

@BenjithedogI think there is an element of racism, sexism & classism in the dislike of her. You disagree with that but i don’t understand how you can speak for all those who dislike her & know their motivations?

Where that falls down for me is it takes her popularity as a static fact. When if you look at it over time it has dropped off a cliff. Her sex, class or ethnicity haven’t changed, so that argument just doesn’t hold water for me.

To think the treatment of Camilla and Meghan Markle exposes a glaring double standard?
Millytante · 05/11/2026 15:48

Cetim · 05/11/2026 07:43

I also remember Kate got a hard time before Meghan arrived. She was kind of depicted as a door mat and a bit lazy to the job. Even scrutinised her having one grey hair! But the level Meghan has been picked apart is unprecedented. They say she tried to destroy the royal family. What is more of a threat to the royal family than a mistress to the future king tempting him away from his duties! Could you imagine ifnshe had? We would have Andrew as the King right now!!! But yes Meghan whose influence on Harry made him more socially aware, become a father, wear a tie and stand up to the media that have been harassing the RF for decades has done the worst!.
There is a double standard and aside from biases around race and nationality, I think who you are in the royal family determines the type of pr your other half gets. Harry was loved by the royals but not very respected as he is not the heir so anyone he brings in would get second rate pr compared to William or Charles I think. I actually think Meghan will somehow turn it around if she stays with Harry I think we will see the tides change in around a decade though in terms of the type of press she receives.

The mistress of the future King was never going to cause an abdication though. Charles took extremely seriously his fate and his rôle.
What’s more, Camilla was in any case a non-negotiable element in his agreeing to marry the utterly unsuitable Diana at the insistence of his truly heartless mother and grandmother (and Diana was similarly primed for this arrangement, by her odious ambitious stepmother and the egregious Barbra Cartland. Accepting Camilla was a price worth paying to be Queen, they purred).

The risk to the Firm was entirely in selecting an unstable, inexperienced younger woman for a Prince of Wales whose lovers had always been earthy, experienced, older women.
Drama and misery were guaranteed, and it was the fault of neither Charles nor Camilla, nor even Diana.
The late Queen Elizabeth, who created the monster that is Andrew, bears much of the responsibility for her family’s lurid media headlines over the past thirty-odd years.

Benjithedog · 05/11/2026 15:52

soupcondiment · 05/11/2026 15:40

@BenjithedogI think there is an element of racism, sexism & classism in the dislike of her. You disagree with that but i don’t understand how you can speak for all those who dislike her & know their motivations?

And you can’t speak for everyone either. You think doesn’t mean it’s true and it’s an argument that hold no weight.

Benjithedog · 05/11/2026 15:53

Credittocress · 05/11/2026 15:46

Where that falls down for me is it takes her popularity as a static fact. When if you look at it over time it has dropped off a cliff. Her sex, class or ethnicity haven’t changed, so that argument just doesn’t hold water for me.

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Exactly.

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