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Oceniam · 21/11/2023 22:22

I'm going to keep this as short as possible. My husband works in administration in a hospital environment. It was brought to his attention today by another colleague that a female colleague is on OnlyFans. As my husband is her manager, I asked him what he was going to do, and he isn't sure what to do. What would you do in his situation?

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Smileycup · 21/11/2023 23:04

I think he should get some advice from his own manager and HR before doing anything. If it’s NHS the contract might say something about notification of second jobs. May also be something about not doing anything to bring the Trust into disrepute. In my role within the NHS I would be fired, I’m pretty sure.

Avatartar · 21/11/2023 23:04

Part of his job as manager is to manage. He doesn’t know what to do about a personal matter, therefore he needs to talk to HR, pass on what he’s been told. They will deal with it if there is anything that needs sorting

Petallove · 21/11/2023 23:05

I think it depends what her job actually is. Also being her second job what are the policies around that and social media. He should probably talk to her and hr.

PhantomOps · 21/11/2023 23:06

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Smileycup · 21/11/2023 23:07

Ineedasitdown · 21/11/2023 22:59

I’ve known of people sacked for similar.
anyway if dh has anything about him he will remember he has a manager and a pretty large hr department with a raft of policies for this shit.

if dh is struggling to remember that he needs to refer himself to the capabilities policy.

i missed this. I’ve said the same but your post made me smile!

neilyoungismyhero · 21/11/2023 23:08

Now he's been advised of the situation he's in a quandary about what he should do. If it becomes common knowledge and his employer finds out that he already knew and said nothing he could face some disciplinary action. He is her line Manager after all. I don't think it's unusual for a spouse to ask advice from the other half, he's not given the OP chapter and verse just asking her opinion.

GarlicMaybeNot · 21/11/2023 23:09

I'm enjoying all these replies full of shock & horror that the colleague mentioned it to the manager, and saying the manager should ignore it.

There's no reason at all why the colleague shouldn't mention it. OnlyFans is a very public website, and the 'providers' rely on getting visits. It's normal and expected that people men will tell each other about them.

A lot of employers have conditions relating to extra-curricular work and to online presence. It would be remiss of a manager not to check whether this breaches the employee's terms or not.

Dillane · 21/11/2023 23:09

lunar1 · 21/11/2023 22:24

He should do and say absolutely nothing, unless it's specifically prohibited in their contract.

This

JztBlzd · 21/11/2023 23:10

Based on your previous threads - your anger is misdirected. Who cares if some random woman you don't know is on OF. I'd worry more about your DH sexting women half his age.

NeonSoda · 21/11/2023 23:10

He should disregard that information.

if he doesn’t with to disregard that information he should pay her more so she doesn’t need to have a side hustle.

Scruffington · 21/11/2023 23:11

JztBlzd · 21/11/2023 23:10

Based on your previous threads - your anger is misdirected. Who cares if some random woman you don't know is on OF. I'd worry more about your DH sexting women half his age.

Plot twist.

nocoolnamesleft · 21/11/2023 23:11

Most NHS trusts have social media policies. He should start by checking it.

betterangels · 21/11/2023 23:11

JztBlzd · 21/11/2023 23:10

Based on your previous threads - your anger is misdirected. Who cares if some random woman you don't know is on OF. I'd worry more about your DH sexting women half his age.

Ouch!

QuestionableMouse · 21/11/2023 23:12

Give them a payrise so they don't have to resort to sex work.

Groovy48592747 · 21/11/2023 23:13

If he's worked there for any length of time, he will know that NHS managers are useless, powerless and nothing ever happens anyway.

AdoraBell · 21/11/2023 23:14

If it doesn’t effect her job then just ignore it.

MCOut · 21/11/2023 23:16

Her OnlyFans is not going to impact her Hospital admin work so all he needs to do is mind his own business and make sure that the rest of his team does too.

Atethehalloweenchocs · 21/11/2023 23:20

If it is obvious that there is a link to work - identifying information etc then I think there has to be a discussion as this is against most companies social media policy. I knew of someone who was sacked from a health care job because there was lots of info on his pages about where he worked and then a link to porn.

Princessconsuelabananahammock9 · 21/11/2023 23:20

Why is this an issue?
Is there a clause that she can't work else well?

If she's making money off Only Fans good for her.

LittleGreenDragons · 21/11/2023 23:21

was brought to his attention today by another colleague

If your OH sanctions the employee for being on OF then surely he needs to sanction the colleague for being on OF too. I'm surprised the colleague admitted to being on a porn site.

Groovy48592747 · 21/11/2023 23:22

JztBlzd · 21/11/2023 23:10

Based on your previous threads - your anger is misdirected. Who cares if some random woman you don't know is on OF. I'd worry more about your DH sexting women half his age.

I've just seen too. So, what's the real reason OP? Is it the same girl, do you want her to be sacked is that it?

I thought the original question was OTT, now we know why.

Universalsnail · 21/11/2023 23:23

Mind his own business. Just leave her alone.

lilmadmel · 21/11/2023 23:23

Sign up to her subscription? Clearly she’s not being paid enough

momonpurpose · 21/11/2023 23:27

Mind my business

tolerable · 21/11/2023 23:27

manager at work.is she do it there?
manager on only fans?full new dance.
even if he knows.so what. is it impacting her proffessionalism?????????