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Employee on onlyfans

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Oceniam · 21/11/2023 22:22

I'm going to keep this as short as possible. My husband works in administration in a hospital environment. It was brought to his attention today by another colleague that a female colleague is on OnlyFans. As my husband is her manager, I asked him what he was going to do, and he isn't sure what to do. What would you do in his situation?

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tescocreditcard · 21/11/2023 22:50

It might not be true though. The person who told your husband might just be trying to cause trouble.

Flopsythebunny · 21/11/2023 22:50

Oceniam · 21/11/2023 22:29

Did I not just say that he’s her manager?

He doesn't own her. Unless there is a clause in her contact that is enforceable, he needs to mind his own fucking business.

twostraws · 21/11/2023 22:51

Blueeyedmale · 21/11/2023 22:25

Absolutely none of his business we might have our own morals what is right and what is wrong, but it's her body and her choice what she does with it.

Actually, for many of us, we have to abide by the morals our employer has too, because it's in our contracts.

As someone who works for the NHS, this probably breaks a clause about bringing her employer/profession into disrepute. I would ask, how do people know it's her?

If she's wearing her NHS uniform, that would be an instant disciplinary. If someone has had to do some detective work to figure out it's her, perhaps she might get away with it if she takes it down or edits things to make it harder to figure out who she is. Goes without saying that she shouldn't be using her real name.

I do sympathise as public sector work on payscales and if she needs more money, she won't be able to get it from her day job without a promotion.

KennedyClan · 21/11/2023 22:51

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Scruffington · 21/11/2023 22:52

He's her manager within the work place, within work hours. That's it. Assuming she's not naming her place of work and wearing her work uniform in her videos he can keep his beak out

LegoDeathTrap · 21/11/2023 22:52

He should ask his wife to ask a bunch of strangers on the internet to decide.

Namechange666 · 21/11/2023 22:52

She's probably not wearing a right lot 🤣 doubt she needs her uniform on. 😁😁😁

Dweetfidilove · 21/11/2023 22:53

Oceniam · 21/11/2023 22:29

Did I not just say that he’s her manager?

Unless he’s manager of her OF account, it has fuck all to do with him.

Unless she’s advertising her employer on OF, it has nothing to do with her work.

lizpi · 21/11/2023 22:53

Oceniam · 21/11/2023 22:29

Did I not just say that he’s her manager?

And?

Imperfectp3rf3ction · 21/11/2023 22:54

VyeBrator · 21/11/2023 22:30

I'd not tell my wife just in case she tells a public internet forum.

Confidentiality hmmm what is that then ?

Nopetryagain · 21/11/2023 22:54

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I’m not unsympathetic to that but I think it all depends on what she is doing on OF and that comes down to an HR decision balanced with their social media policy and employer reputation. If she is posing for some photos that show a little cleavage maybe that’s fine, fingering herself for £15, probably not. I’m not judging if she does that, but legally her employer is allowed to determine if it’s in conflict with their interests.

MuckyPlucky · 21/11/2023 22:55

Oceniam · 21/11/2023 22:29

Did I not just say that he’s her manager?

Manager does not mean employer.

Dear god 🤦🏻‍♀️

DaizenShine · 21/11/2023 22:56

He should mind his own business and so should you! Focus on your own life.

JamSandle · 21/11/2023 22:57

Ignore it.

CeeChynaa · 21/11/2023 22:58

I mean, unless she’s on OnlyFans posting videos whilst in her work uniform then I really don’t see the problem. Why does he need to do something about it?

Ineedasitdown · 21/11/2023 22:59

I’ve known of people sacked for similar.
anyway if dh has anything about him he will remember he has a manager and a pretty large hr department with a raft of policies for this shit.

if dh is struggling to remember that he needs to refer himself to the capabilities policy.

ChimneyPotter · 21/11/2023 22:59

Wow some pretty rude replies here.

Most of my job contracts have had clauses about how things in your personal life that would bring the employer into disrepute are not allowed. This would be one of those things.

If I were your DH, I'd see if such a clause exists in their own contract. If so, they should prob discuss with HR. If not, might be something to talk with HR about anyway for a confidential second opinion on whether it's anything to raise with the person or not.

Stravaig · 21/11/2023 23:00

Your husband should report himself to HR for his egregious breach of confidentiality in discussing professional and personal information about his subordinates with his wife. HR will then enact the appropriate disciplinary measures.

Scruffington · 21/11/2023 23:01

Stravaig · 21/11/2023 23:00

Your husband should report himself to HR for his egregious breach of confidentiality in discussing professional and personal information about his subordinates with his wife. HR will then enact the appropriate disciplinary measures.

Yes!

Groovy48592747 · 21/11/2023 23:01

Having worked in healthcare for a very long time, it's not the Admin manager who would deal with this. It's a HR/policy thing.

And the staff member probably isn't doing anything wrong unless for example in uniform, linking it to workplace etc.

Really though I don't think that's the true story. I think he's testing your reaction to OF.

Cupcakekiller · 21/11/2023 23:01

Is she public facing? Would be a potentially difficult situation if a customer recognised it. Does her contract have a clause about any second jobs needing to be approved by her employer?

2021mumma · 21/11/2023 23:01

Pay her more

Petercrouchslegs · 21/11/2023 23:03

He would do well to say nothing at all as what his colleague does with her spare time, whether he manages her or not, is nothing to do with him.

Groovy48592747 · 21/11/2023 23:03

.... And did your husband and his colleague enjoy viewing the staff member's OF account? Has he subscribed then? Maybe you have too!

Jellybean23 · 21/11/2023 23:03

OP, if the employee finds out her manager has discussed her with you, he's on shaky ground, surely? Does he know you've aired this on a public forum? You need to pray a national paper doesn't pick it up.