Employee on onlyfans

What was the conclusion?

I honestly wouldn’t care a jot if one of my dc’s teachers was on Only Fans.

Sexy pictures or actions doesn’t mean that someone is incapable of being good at the day job. The two are not mutually exclusive in the same way that you can like sex and be a good mother. I’d be more sympathetic to your viewpoint if these arbitrary standards of morality included men too. Unless they are an actual criminal it seems they can watch what they like, behave how they like and do what they like (including running home and gossiping about colleagues private business with their dwife, which imo is far more unacceptable) and no one ever questions whether they should remain in their job role.

If it’s a breach of contract to have more than one job then do something. If it’s not then there’s nothing to do.

OP's husband has been sexting other women and he's still able to come home to ask her advice about a colleague on Only Fans? Mine would be right out that door.

She’s signing into the lady’s OF account to snoop on her, see what she’s showing and whatnot then make some screen shots and send them anonymously to PR or company headquarters if husband does nothing about it.

To stalk the 24 year old her husband is sexting.

Where has the OP gone?

If she's on OF she's probably showing her Fanny as well but the principle remains the same. Unless contract terms are broken or there's a repute issue (eg being a 'naughty nurse' in recognisable uniform or places) it's nowt to do with the employer.

Could you explain why showing your breasts to people on the internet makes you less professional?

I don't understand, so explain it like I'm a child.

No! She's too busy hovering over her husband to return to her thread!

I wonder if the OP is going to come back to update?

I mean two things can be simultaneously true. It probably is a breach of social media use policy. Companies are increasingly controlling of their employees social usage.

That doesn’t mean the rules are right though. It would also be unbelievably shitty and stickybeak to report it.

I would do absolutely nothing.

Yes to all this. I despise the people who run to management/HR over every little thing, but that type of person is usually a crawler anyway. If it had been something serious, stealing money for instance, then I probably would report it - especially as everyone else would have been under suspicion - but anything else I couldn't care less about.

I feel sorry for people who need to report on other's behaviour to get their kicks - as you said, what a sad little life.

@Oceniam Is this the same young colleague he had an affair with last year? Or a different one?

@SwedeCarrotLimes unsurprisingly it's the OP and her DH, who are totally wrong!

www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships/4696991-dh-sexting-girl-20-years-younger-than-him?reply=122234965

Also, it's not the fact that the girl on OF may be recognised by this post, she knows who she is? How would she be identified?

It's the fact that she can identify the thick manager and get him sacked! Bloody good on her if she does!!

Now posting on a website appealing to mainly women, was not a good idea of his "D"W. Especially now she's disclosed his sexting.

I so hope he is identified!

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Now why

NHS Manager here with an occasional second job (NOT OnlyFans) - when I first got it I asked my manager if I had to notify him officially and he said no, it's not captured anywhere. So whoever said that all NHS policies are the same - they're not. Also nothing in our conduct policy that would prevent OF.

Another couple of points - someone said don't do anything on social media you wouldn't do at work (and I'd say OF is only very loosely social media). There are tons of photos of me on holiday in a bikini and of me holding an alcoholic drink on my SM - I wouldn't wear a bikini at work or drink alcohol but not breaking any rules!

And for those saying 'pay her more', etc. - NHS pay is designated centrally by the government so not an option I'm afraid!

I agree with all of what you say @AcrossthePond55 and think the OP is selectively withholding some information as she either (a) wants the mumsnet crowd to disapprove of the young woman and/or (b) is trying to find routes to punish her.

In any event, the problem is with the OP's husband, who is a sleaze, and that needs addressing above any enquiry into workplace policies at a place where OP does not work.

As a rule I don't go searching out an OP's prior posts. In this case it would have been helpful if you had put this information in your comment to me. It certainly does shed a new light on things!

Yes, obviously if OP's DH is sexting this young woman he absolutely needs to be sacked. He is in a 'position of power' over the young woman which makes it doubly wrong. But that is separate too and has nothing to do with this young woman's 2nd job as long as she is keeping it 'separate' from the workplace. IF she is sexting him to entice or encourage him to pay money to her for viewing her Only Fans, then she just as wrong as he is. I admit, I'm not 100% clear on how OF works, but I think that's the point of it, to make money from your 'fans'. But if she is not responding to his sexts, then she doesn't deserve to be sacked simply because she's on OF. She should report him though if she is innocent in this. I've been in the position of 'unwelcome attention', almost borderline stalking, from a supervisor many years ago. I reported it and he was moved to another office. He should have been sacked, but this was in the early 80s and 'things were different then'.

I do find it interesting (and wrong) that the OP wants her sacked ostensibly only for being on OF, but apparently puts no blame on her DH and has no intention of reporting him for his actions. Whether she feels that the woman is always to blame/responsible for a man's actions or she simply doesn't want to 'alter her financial situation' by losing his income, who knows?

If the OP refers to this person as a 'girl' she's probably doing it with the intent to make her 'lesser than'. So just because she calls her a girl doesn't mean that others should. To me, in my 60s, she is a 'young woman'. She has 'agency' although may not be mature enough to consider the full ramifications of her decisions and actions. A 16 year old is a 'girl'. A 24 year old is not.

So? And what's it got to do with you? The way you say you "asked him what he will do" like you are making demands that he does something.

sign me up!

Yeah, I think managers having inappropriate relationships with their younger, subordinate colleague is more of a HR issue than OnlyFans work.

There's a market for everything on onlyfans tbh!

Two questions:

1. Is there anything in this employee's contract about pursuing other work outwith their contracted hours?
2. Is there any real risk of them being recognised in a way which affects the employer's repute?

If no to both then NFA.

If yes to either then further action might be needed depending on the facts. In the particular circumstances here a wise manager would speak to their senior and/or an HR person before doing anything. Amongst other things, do the motives of the person who 'outed' their colleague's OF status need examining?

Is there anything between the OP's DH and any other party to the scenario that might mean he should recuse himself and ask somebody else to deal with it?

Op has a previous post where SHE calls her a girl that is 24 who her husband is the manager of. Goes on to say how he's been caught sexting this "girl". You can search her user name. What has doing as a manager is far worse then only fans

The only scenario in which it's any of anyone else's business is if she's filming during her work time and/or on work premises, instead of doing her job. Unless somehow she's signed something in her contract that promises not to do it.
Otherwise you, your DH and the colleague should keep out.

And quite honestly, if the COL crisis gets any worse (and if anyone was interested in scrawny 50-somethings with battered runners' legs and feet 😳) I'd consider it myself... 😂