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Oceniam · 21/11/2023 22:22

I'm going to keep this as short as possible. My husband works in administration in a hospital environment. It was brought to his attention today by another colleague that a female colleague is on OnlyFans. As my husband is her manager, I asked him what he was going to do, and he isn't sure what to do. What would you do in his situation?

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MuckyPlucky · 21/11/2023 22:37

Erm…she’s not his employee (so you might want to get the thread title amended to be accurate).

And your husband has zip-all to do with it. Neither do you.

funbags3 · 21/11/2023 22:37

Did he find her on OnlyFans?

CrimsonPig · 21/11/2023 22:38

I'd do absolutely nothing.

SwedishSchnauzer · 21/11/2023 22:39

Ask HR how this sits with hospital policy. It might be fine and non of their business or might put the hospital in a bad light and need HR input. HOWEVER it says something when admin staff are so skint they do onlyfans to make ends meet.

TeenLifeMum · 21/11/2023 22:39

NHS employees cannot do anything on social media that brings the integrity of the organisation into question. Therefore, so long as she’s not added her place of employment to her profile, there’s no issue to deal with.

If she does mention her nhs job, the manager would be able to ask her to edit the profile to remove that - if content was felt to be inappropriate.

Lochroy · 21/11/2023 22:39

Why are people so tetchy? It's quite normal to have social media policies, so she may well be under contract to do, or not do certain things online. HR should be able to advise, Although as the manager, he will probably have to handle it.

fourelementary · 21/11/2023 22:40

Is there any evidence? Can he act on hearsay?

XenoBitch · 21/11/2023 22:40

Lochroy · 21/11/2023 22:39

Why are people so tetchy? It's quite normal to have social media policies, so she may well be under contract to do, or not do certain things online. HR should be able to advise, Although as the manager, he will probably have to handle it.

But in this case, OP's husband had no business telling her about any of this.

Coffeeandchristmascake · 21/11/2023 22:41

He should go to HR and ask for advice surely?

LIZS · 21/11/2023 22:42

Is there a social media policy?

MolkosTeenageAngst · 21/11/2023 22:43

Having an only fans isn’t illegal and so unless it is very clearly written that it shouldn’t be used in workplace policy he probably shouldn’t do anything.

Nopetryagain · 21/11/2023 22:44

XenoBitch · 21/11/2023 22:40

But in this case, OP's husband had no business telling her about any of this.

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From the OP it doesn’t appear that the husband has told the OP the individual’s name, it may just be just “I’ve got this issue at work, one of my team…” . That is perfectly normal. Obviously if he is breaching confidentiality then that isn’t ok but is a separate issue.

Kona84 · 21/11/2023 22:45

After seeing that the tentacle girl earned 300k in one month on onlyfans I’ve been tempted to do it myself.
I was thinking my niche might be sticking a feather duster up my arse and doing some chores. I know my boyfriend wouldn’t ever know has he has no interest in cleaning.

maybe if people were paid well for the job they do they wouldn’t need to resort to onlyfans

Rachie1973 · 21/11/2023 22:45

Your DH needs to retrain himself regarding the rules around GDPR!

SwedishSchnauzer · 21/11/2023 22:45

However saying that, I would like to ignore what I’ve been told. She’s admin staff so different to being a teacher on onlyfans

CaramacFiend · 21/11/2023 22:46

Maybe he should subscribe to her channel. She obv needs extra £££.

betterangels · 21/11/2023 22:46

If he goes to HR, he should let them know at the same time that he found it reasonable and relevant to discuss staff members' business with his wife.

Cheshiresun · 21/11/2023 22:46

So your husband is breaching the trust and confidentiality of one of the staff he supervises to someone out of the workplace, i.e you? What's it got to do with you?

Namechange666 · 21/11/2023 22:47

I think you're only bothered because your husband works with an onlyfans girl and you're worried he will go watch her or something....

Both of you mind your business. And no I don't do only fans... just mind my business.

Nopetryagain · 21/11/2023 22:47

MolkosTeenageAngst · 21/11/2023 22:43

Having an only fans isn’t illegal and so unless it is very clearly written that it shouldn’t be used in workplace policy he probably shouldn’t do anything.

Loads of shit isn’t illegal but you can get sacked for it, sometimes rightly, sometimes wrongly. It’s not illegal to be rude about, say, overweight people on social media but can you be sacked for it? Yes (rightly so imo).

FedUpOfInstaMum · 21/11/2023 22:47

What would you like him to do about it, OP?

WhatACluster · 21/11/2023 22:47

Would be some form of misconduct at the company I contract to 🤷‍♀️ with the possibility of being let go…even as a contractor I had to sign the social media policy I’m 99% sure it mentioned only fans or something similar

Surely this is a hr issue

Cathyhon · 21/11/2023 22:48

personally I would speak to HR

Groovy48592747 · 21/11/2023 22:48

She's not his employee. You're overstating his position, he only a manager. The NHS is the employer.

What's it got to do with you anyway?

FlissyPaps · 21/11/2023 22:49

Why are you bothered, OP? Do you work there also?

Your DH and whichever colleague brought it to his attention sound like bitter old busybodies.

The only people who are offended at people having OFs are the bitter people with low self esteem so try and tear down and sabotage other people who have got the balls to make money from OF.

Sorry not sorry.

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