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Employee on onlyfans

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Oceniam · 21/11/2023 22:22

I'm going to keep this as short as possible. My husband works in administration in a hospital environment. It was brought to his attention today by another colleague that a female colleague is on OnlyFans. As my husband is her manager, I asked him what he was going to do, and he isn't sure what to do. What would you do in his situation?

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betterangels · 21/11/2023 22:29

And it is definitely, absolutely nothing to do with you!

Christmaste · 21/11/2023 22:30

He will probably be setting up an account as we speak 🤣

VyeBrator · 21/11/2023 22:30

I'd not tell my wife just in case she tells a public internet forum.

IDontLoveTheWayYouLie · 21/11/2023 22:30

Oceniam · 21/11/2023 22:29

Did I not just say that he’s her manager?

You're not though, why do you know?

betterangels · 21/11/2023 22:30

VyeBrator · 21/11/2023 22:30

I'd not tell my wife just in case she tells a public internet forum.

Well, quite.

Stopandlook · 21/11/2023 22:30

Seems this is pretty common, ignore

39and · 21/11/2023 22:30

Unless she's stripping off in the hospital during working time it's nothing to do with him. Wonder what creepy sod found her and started telling people.

whatmanmakescappucino · 21/11/2023 22:31

I don’t understand this post. it’s a bit hysterical

for context, people can post anything on only fans. They can post photos fully clothed and suitable to go on other social media like Facebook where the entire family might see. Only fans doesn’t necessarily equal pornography. So you need to be careful what you’re accusing her of unless there’s evidence she’s breaking policy

Whiteday · 21/11/2023 22:31

Oceniam · 21/11/2023 22:29

Did I not just say that he’s her manager?

If I was you, I'd report him for breach of confidentiality.

It's tough, but you know it's the right thing to do!

Good luck OP, be prepared he'll lose his job.

MRSMTO · 21/11/2023 22:31

Oceniam · 21/11/2023 22:29

Did I not just say that he’s her manager?

And?

Cheshiresun · 21/11/2023 22:32

He's not the employer though. So he should butt out.

LadyMacB · 21/11/2023 22:32

Oceniam · 21/11/2023 22:29

Did I not just say that he’s her manager?

And? How does this impact the “do nothing” approach?

Remagirl · 21/11/2023 22:32

Is she accessing or creating content using her employers premises or devices? If no I can't see why it's a big deal.

Grimchmas · 21/11/2023 22:32

Depends if that means she's broken any conduct policies.

AppropriateAdult · 21/11/2023 22:32

Oceniam · 21/11/2023 22:22

I'm going to keep this as short as possible. My husband works in administration in a hospital environment. It was brought to his attention today by another colleague that a female colleague is on OnlyFans. As my husband is her manager, I asked him what he was going to do, and he isn't sure what to do. What would you do in his situation?

Pay her a decent wage, so that she doesn't have to resort to sex work to make ends meet?

RudsyFarmer · 21/11/2023 22:33

There are some jobs where reputational damage could bring the workplace into disrepute. The question is, would this apply in her role/company? If your husband is unsure then he needs to contact someone higher up than him and ask.

lap90 · 21/11/2023 22:33

Why do you think he needs to do anything?

CyberCritical · 21/11/2023 22:33

Oceniam · 21/11/2023 22:29

Did I not just say that he’s her manager?

It's only relevant to your DH and her workplace if her job can be linked to her OF account.

So if as posted above she's making videos at work/in her uniform, or if her OF account is linked to other socials which state her employer/occupation.

If she can be tracked back to her work then your DH should speak to HR and ask whether or not he should do anything based on company policies.

Motnight · 21/11/2023 22:34

Waiting for the drip feed 😬

Whiteday · 21/11/2023 22:35

RudsyFarmer · 21/11/2023 22:33

There are some jobs where reputational damage could bring the workplace into disrepute. The question is, would this apply in her role/company? If your husband is unsure then he needs to contact someone higher up than him and ask.

But he should not be discussing this with someone outside the company?

Cheshiresun · 21/11/2023 22:35

Maybe he's just telling you a fake story to test your reaction to only fans, and that he likes to frequent that website. I bet you've had a peek too.

Nopetryagain · 21/11/2023 22:35

I’d just contact HR and say ‘I don’t have an issue with this but this has been reported to me so I am passing this on to you to consider’.

Depending on the actual OnlyFans content HR can make a decision whether to leave it or me not.

XenoBitch · 21/11/2023 22:35

Cheshiresun · 21/11/2023 22:32

He's not the employer though. So he should butt out.

And OP has fuck all to do with it too. Why is her husband telling her stuff like this?
He is more likely to get into more trouble than the person on OnlyFans.

itsatravestyy · 21/11/2023 22:36

Send her to a trial conducted by the morality police, or leave her alone?

NHS salaries are low so I get it.

Whiteday · 21/11/2023 22:37

Nopetryagain · 21/11/2023 22:35

I’d just contact HR and say ‘I don’t have an issue with this but this has been reported to me so I am passing this on to you to consider’.

Depending on the actual OnlyFans content HR can make a decision whether to leave it or me not.

He should also confirm he's discussed with people outside the workplace and what are the implications of that.

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